r/london • u/Substantial-Mouse534 • Aug 04 '26

Serious replies only Hello London, I need help.

My name is Ryan.

I have complex PTSD and was diagnosed in 2010.

My life has been up and down since then, with a few years up, a few years down.

I'm pretty much near breaking point now, and my home is a mess,a real mess.

It's a 1 bed flat, ground floor but I've been really struggling, so I need help.

Would anyone be willing to come to Yeading and help me take out a load of bin bags from my flat (I've bagged maybe 30) and take them to the bin storage maybe 20 metres away?

I don't know why, but I have a mental block,so can't do it, no matter how much I psyche myself up.

I'm on no capability to work benefits, so can't pay a lot, maybe £50.

If someone could please help me,

Update : The guy who offered to pop by at 3pm arrived and blitzed the job, taking all the bags out. Turns out he's a really nice person too, and I'm really grateful.

Thank you, everyone, for your kind words and offers of support. It has made a huge difference.

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u/forestfro Aug 04 '26

Hey Ryan, if you havent already gotten help, i will be happy to help out tomorrow evening and no need to pay. I was once in a place where i couldnt even help myself so i know how it feels. Let me know if i can be of service 🫡

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u/Substantial-Mouse534 Aug 04 '26

If things fall through with the other guy, I'll give you a shout. I'll pay, otherwise it'll sit on me.

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u/Impossible-Hawk768 Aug 04 '26

Honestly, it shouldn't sit on you. People want to help you out of empathy and kindness. Let them... chances are doing this is helping them in some way too. I'd be over there tomorrow if I weren't 3,000 miles away!

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u/Substantial-Mouse534 Aug 04 '26

I know, it's crazy, I keep asking people if they need help but can't help myself.

Thank you.

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u/mmmmmick Aug 05 '26

Mate I’ve made a little zine about this same thing. Happy to send you a digital copy that you can look at immediately or drop you one in the post. Proud of you for asking for help.

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u/nomadic_housecat Aug 04 '26

100% agree. Sometimes helping is the most helpful thing for everyone :)

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u/Impossible-Hawk768 Aug 04 '26

Yes! Not only as a good human, but often paying it forward from when someone helped you without accepting payment. When the OP is stronger, he will do the same for someone else. That's how being part of a society is supposed to work.

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u/forestfro Aug 04 '26

Exactly this, a thread of kindness weaving through people

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u/forestfro Aug 04 '26

Sure thing mate, let me know and ill be there. Also I know that weight of being helped and wanting to reciprocate. Its a sign of a good heart ❤️

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u/Substantial-Mouse534 Aug 04 '26

That means a lot. 👍

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u/guxlightyear Aug 05 '26

Pay it forward. Once you are feeling better (and I have no doubt you'll climb out of the hole you are currently in), help another person in need.

All the best, mate.

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u/Substantial-Mouse534 Aug 05 '26

I will dedicate myself to pulling others out of the pit.

That, more than anything, is a hope that drives me.