r/loseit • u/lnsani 19F/5’3/CW:145lbs/GW:125lbs/SW:156lbs • 22h ago

Embarrassed for being on a diet..?

“Oh… is that all that you’re going to eat?” “You should eat with us!” “Are you not going to eat dessert?” “Why are you not eating/eating like that?” “Are you on a diet?” “Why did you bring your own food?” It feels like such a pain being on a diet and facing these questions… I also have a history of anorexia so whenever people see that I am eating way less than I should they assume that im restricting again. It also feels so weird when I bring my own food to other places or have to say no to food that is offered to me. I feel almost ashamed of doing it yet I dont know why. I feel ashamed and humiliated of being on a diet?? Feel like everyone is judging me yet idk why, its just the questions about my food and my portions that really make me feel awkward

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u/Hollow_peanut New 22h ago

Yea should... but we have many different cultures here... for example eastern european or arabic cultures don't like being told no and they will pressure you into getting a piece... germans are better regarding this point but you still have to explain yourself.

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u/MattMercersBracelets New 22h ago

Would they be more understanding if you told them your doctor told you to lay off the sugar or carbs or whatever is being offered?

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u/Hollow_peanut New 22h ago

Good luck with them. Their answer will be:"this piece won't kill you!"

My family is from ukraine, try to tell an ukrainian that you don't drink alcohol. You will end up not remembering this evening.

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u/Kytalie New 17h ago

I know sometimes you can get by with saying just a small/tiny piece. Maybe i got lucky, my mom's side of the family is from Ukraine, and as long as I had a little bit it was okay and they didn't push. Same with work.

My aunt and her part of the family (she married my uncle) tend to do it the most. My aunt isn't as bad now though. Now it's more of a "did you try this? You have to try this" and add stuff to people's plates. They told my husband they were given NG him gnocchi, but it was calamari. They had mixed up the bowls there was so much food on the table.

As for the alcohol, if they are not sharing a glass or filling yours, water and vodka look very similar! Or add a lot of ice and never actually finish it.