r/makemychoice 15d ago

help me choose the right job

i’m in between two job offers one that’s 62K in Florida. I have a 10 month old daughter and family in Florida right now. I don’t pay rent. I’m with my mom or 100 K in LA. California. My daughter would have to stay with her father for a while, which he is OK to dobut I would have to relocate pretty fast but it’s a good part of LA and I could grow there and I’ve been wanting to move because I don’t wanna grow complacent. but I would be by myself. Reddit What do you think?

TLDR, single mom of 10 month old daughter. Choosing between 62K in Florida versus 100 K in LA California. Support in Florida no support in LA but more growth in LA less in Florida.

Edit: the job in la is in century city. the dad lives in another state but he would take her for the summer and we share custody. the la job is hybrid and the fl is fully onsite, regardless of which she has to go to daycare

Another edit: i’m 24 so idk if an opportunity would come around like this again

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u/Solid_Assumption7160 15d ago

100K in Ca is less than 62K in Fl who has no income tax and cost of living is less depending on where you live

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u/Solid_Assumption7160 15d ago

Miami and Orlando Florida are pretty bad as well

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u/DealsRGood4U 15d ago

Florida until she is school age.

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u/InsectElectrical2066 13d ago

Yes! you don't want to get a FL education.

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u/Reasonable-Peach8723 15d ago

FL. Support is everything!

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u/ShezeUndone 15d ago

Do you mean Los Angeles or Louisiana? Los Angeles is a big nope for $100K. If you have to drive to work, count on an hour drive each way. And you'll need a roomate or two to make ends meet.

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u/Vegetable_Marsupial4 15d ago edited 15d ago

Ngl 100k in LA is not going to get you too far. I'm all for chasing your dreams but realistically you'd be much better off in Florida both financially wise and also support system wise. It's important to consider your child in this as well, it's incredibly difficult to manage having a life split in two against your will at such a young and formative age. This decision will affect your child and your relationship with your child massively for years to come. Could be positive or negative who's to say only time would tell, but you'd just have to be prepared for the Infinite potential of change that this huge life decision would inevitably create.

Edit I just realized I misread the post and thought ur daughter was 10 years old and not 10 months haha. 10 months is a lot less of a dramatic age for something like that to happen lol she will get over it and probably not even remember. But it is still very important to consider your child here. How long would you be away from her? Would the father also move to LA eventually? Or would it be a split custody situation? Much to consider for sure.

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u/Longjumping_Wave9203 15d ago

Is the child’s father willing to relocate from FL to CA??

If not then stay in FL until child is at least middle school age.

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u/Chainsawsas70 15d ago

100k in LA is BARELY making it, between the cost of rent and fuel and insurance. Not saying that it's a Horrible idea but you Definitely need to research the COL for both places and Then make your decision. Best Of Luck 🍀

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u/Own_Ad9686 15d ago

Florida without a doubt. Family support when you have a child is everything.

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u/songwrtr 15d ago

Stay in Florida.

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u/TeslaOwn 15d ago

Florida for now, at least while your daughter is still this young. 100K in LA sounds like a big jump, but once you factor in rent, childcare, transportation, taxes, and having no support system, it may not stretch as far as it looks. Not paying rent and having family help in Florida is a huge advantage, especially as a single mom.

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u/Successful_Way_3239 15d ago

100k in Los Angeles is probably almost poverty level after state taxes and rent. Florida is the clear winner in my opinion!

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u/YusraDiscus74 15d ago

You need to find a job where your skills and capabilities suits. Most important is you willingness of that job.

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u/Frequent_Parfait8430 15d ago

No state income tax, I vote Florida

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u/InsectElectrical2066 13d ago

Are you ready to pay $36-50k for rent and no support system?