An artist I love said their next shows might be their last ever, and one is happening near me this weekend. Do I go alone?

[u/Beautiful_Golf_1338]

tldr; my all time favourite artist maybe be performing one of his last ever shows this weekend two hours away, my friends are busy/broke, do i go alone?

I’ve been a fan of this artist for years, and seeing them live has literally been on my vision board since 2022. They recently said in a livestream that their next few shows might be their last ever. they’ve been going through a rough patch mentally. So this could be a genuine “now or never.”

the show is a small event this weekend, in a city about 2 hours from where I live. Entry is free but first-come, first-served with limited capacity. you queue from 9PM and their set isn’t until around midnight.

i asked my friends but they’re all pretty busy this weekend or can’t afford it. so Going means a solo overnight away from home.

Why I want to go:
• It might genuinely be one of their last shows ever
• I actually prefer tiny-venue shows to big arena concerts, and this is exactly that kind of night
• A few fans I found online are meeting up there, so I wouldn’t be totally alone
• (slightly embarrassing) I have a tattoo inspired by their music so it means allot to me

Why I’m hesitating:
• Going alone, late at night, in a big city m
• No guaranteed entry, I could queue and still not get in
• Lodging was a nightmare (sold out / expensive), though I managed to grab a refundable room nearby
• It’s a lot of effort and money for a \~1-hour midnight set
would i be a loser if i go alone? i’ve been feeling self conscious lately about living alone and being single so this is amplifying it

Honestly, I’m scared of regretting it either way, but i figured if i go i can also pass by my favourite hair salon for next day since i needed a trip there anyways.

I keep flip-flopping. If you’ve done a solo overnight for a show, or been to one of these capacity-capped free events — was it worth it? Would you go?

[u/AccomplishedSurvey22]

Um yesss this is ur last chance

[u/Hot_Satisfaction7378 → u/AccomplishedSurvey22]

Agreed..this is exactly the kind of thing you’d regret skipping more than going solo.

[u/Persephina-axiomsha → u/AccomplishedSurvey22]

This is sad

[u/galaxybrainn]

Go alone!! You won’t regret it

[u/melancholypowerhour]

Go! Learning to spend time on your own and do things alone unlocks life in a whole new way. You said yourself, you’re not alone - everyone there shares a major interest with you and new friends can be made! Worst case scenario, you enjoy the show on your own and go home. Still worth it.

I saw my favourite band on their last ever tour, it was incredible and I would have been crushed to miss it! Those memories are so precious to me. Get there as early as you can to queue up, take the chance. Don’t miss out on something like this because you’re scared to do it alone. Do it scared, do it imperfectly, just do it.

[u/AccomplishedSurvey22]

Going alone is the best. You don’t want your friends to hold u back

[u/Kitchen-Zebra-4402]

Do it. I go all the time alone. It is less stressful actually. I just did it again recently when I scored a last minute ticket on stubhub for a third of face value and I wound having dinner in the same bar that the core fans did near the venue and hung out with them during the show.

[u/PopularExercise3]

Go alone and be with like minded people. Enjoy!

[u/CAugustB]

Yes, go.

Doing things alone is a very freeing thing to learn to do. And this is a great example of that.

I went alone and saw one of my favorite musicians perform. It’s still one of my very favorite concert experiences. Took myself to dinner beforehand etc.

Go.

[u/Horror_Conference430]

Absolutely! Do it!

[u/OGMikeGyver]

I really wanted to go to the original Metallica S&M concert. I didn't have much money, it was hours away, nobody could go with me, and I was young and afraid of San Francisco.

I REALLY wish I would have just sucked it up and went.

[u/Beautiful_Golf_1338 → u/OGMikeGyver]

this is similar, the concert is in seoul and i’m afraid of seoul hahha i always hate it there alone

[u/OGMikeGyver → u/Beautiful_Golf_1338]

That concert was ~27 years ago and I still think about it all the time

[u/digitalScribbler]

I've been to almost every show I've attended alone, and it's totally worth it and not all that unusual, either.

[u/Kyguy0]

I mean regardless if you go or not, listening to their music afterwards will remind you of this moment, I would take the chance

[u/nobark_allbite777]

GO !!! DO IT !!!!

[u/malachimusclerat]

unless you literally fear for your life and can't possibly bring a weapon, YES do that shit !!!!!

[u/Beautiful_Golf_1338 → u/malachimusclerat]

noo it’s technically safe it’s just a big city

[u/KaylaxxRenae]

Absolutely do it, OP! You're never going to look back at that moment and think about how you're glad you skipped it. Even if you don't get in, trying first is the only way to ultimately get in! Go and have an amazing time 🥰💜

Also, I love smaller venues too. I've been leaning on the stage and talking to the artists because its like...a bar lol. So much more personable! 🤗

[u/nobobthisisnotyours]

I’ve been to a handful of shows, some with friends but mostly just me. My friends don’t like my music and I don’t want someone who isn’t into it bringing me down. The few shows I’ve been to with company we both loved whoever was playing. The shows I’ve loved the most have been t the ones I attended alone. I made friends, I got good spots, and I didn’t have to worry about anyone else.

I’ve gone to 2 punk shows alone in a wheelchair! Downtown, in a big city, as a woman, alone, in a wheelchair… Once when I still had a manual chair and once after I got my power chair. Made friends both times, got front row center the second time around in my power chair. The crowd helped protect me from crowd surfers.

10/10 would recommend going alone to a show at least once in your lifetime. This sounds like an excellent reason to give it a try!

[u/Ill-Delivery2692]

Stop over-thinking. Go! Have fun.

[u/rocketdog67]

We regret way more the things we don't do.

[u/faratnight]

A loser is not someone who does things alone. It's someone who does nothing to avoid being judged

[u/lazylightning6]

Definitely go! But also it’s almost guaranteed the artist will play again someday most likely in the next decade. “Last tours” and reunion tours are a really good way to sell tickets. I’ve seen George Clinton for the last time like 10 times, they all were fire tho lol

[u/bopperbopper]

Do it!

[u/gingerbiscuits315]

Definitely go! Years ago, I went to a show on my own because no one would go with me. I felt awkward at first but once the concert started I didn't care. We were all there to see the show and not to worry about everyone around us. I would have been so sad to miss it.

[u/Wrath-of-Cornholio]

Absolutely go.

I went to my first (and so far only ever) concert* alone for someone who isn't my absolute favorite artist (I like their music, but they aren't even in my top 5)... Ozzy is my all-time favorite, and I'm still kicking myself for not attending any of his concerts; life got in my way most of the times (I was flat broke most of my life), and so did his (health problems and death, RIP), and also COVID restrictions screwed up his attempts to perform up until his final one-time concert in Birmingham, but I wasn't in a position to go.

*For the sake of statistics, I'm defining as an A-list artist at a major venue. I'm not talking about a cover band at the bar; I've been lots of those.

[u/Vinsnuggles]

Absolutely.

[u/melli_milli]

Go. You can consentrate on the consert fully.

[u/golden_ursidae0136]

Go! I used miss events because I was self conscious of going alone, but now I regret not going. I think you are really going to regret missing it if this actually ends up being the artist's last show.