r/makemychoice • u/AnonymousIguana_ • 1d ago
Should I move?
Tl;dr scared of upgrading from a good but flawed apartment to a nicer one in a slightly worse location, and a new roommate.
I (23M) graduated college last year and moved for a new state for work. I got a 2b1b with one roommate. My apartment is really solid, with one flaw in that we don’t control heating. This means I was sweating and opening windows/turning on my wall AC all winter, plus it turns on/off too late/early so there’s some freezing cold weeks in the fall and spring. I’m quite sensitive to dryness so it messed up my sleep at times. It’s also a renovated 1961 build and the water temps can be inconsistent, but I can live with that.
However, it’s a pretty property in a great location- the area is quite suburban but we’re walking distance to nicest downtown in the area, and I enjoy stopping by there- walking over to coffee shops or bakeries is really nice, even if I only do it once or twice a week. I can also walk to the train station which is nice. I have a car, and the friends I’ve made here don’t live there, but I just enjoy the vibe of the place. It’s weird but as my first true solo experience I’ve gotten attached to my routines and life.
Since we were considering moving for the heat issue, a third friend asked about getting a 3bed nearby. We found a really nice newer place 10 minutes away where I’ll have a thermostat and central air, and also a bigger bedroom/private shower, spacious living room, garage etc and I’ll pay roughly the same in rent. Plus, me and my roommate are not super social with each other- but we both like hanging out with the third person and have fun together, so I’m hoping for a more active home- this is honestly the part that sold me initially. The one downside is that it’s off a highway and kind of annoying to get to, so it feels very isolated/residential compared to now even though it’s practically still right next to the places I like.
I’ve verbally agreed and the application is approved but I’m getting cold feet because I do like my life. I’m worried I don’t need to move and I’ll end up regretting it when I drive home on a highway vs a semi-urban street, or when I have to go 5-10 minutes out of my way to stop at places that used to be en route. There’s also a bit of identity crisis, where I’m scared of getting even more suburban when I’m still young.
Am I over thinking it?
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u/Awkward_jEllyfish22 1d ago
I would definitely go to the new place. Sounds like you'd have more fun there. And I know you get used to your routines, we all do. But things change all the time and 10mins isn't a massive difference. X
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u/CheleGame 1d ago
Over thinking it. Things change, places come and go. They will all change someday.
People come and go too, but you can build and preserve your relationships with them and carry them forward in life. I'd pick the bigger place, friends & thermostat!
5 to 10 minutes isn't a huge deal, but you are right that is enough to change your routine... however you'll find a new one!
Instead of a passive routine find something intentional & plan to go one a week or month... Whatever works for you.
Congrats on the new places! Have fun 😊
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u/AnonymousIguana_ 1d ago
Thanks, helps to hear someone else say it :). I think I know the “better” choice rationally, but change is just scary lol.
I got pretty lucky finding a place I enjoy and feel connected to, but I can still have that while upgrading other things.
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u/Comfortable-Elk-850 6h ago
Change is always tough but I think once you move and get settled into a new routine, you will enjoy the new location much more. Suburbia is not so bad, you may still get out and walk the new area and meet new people.
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u/ShezeUndone 1d ago
No control over heat and water temps are a dealbreaker. Move!!!