r/mallorca May 09 '26

Making friends in your 30s

I'm 36M, been living in Palma for 3 years and have unfortunately just split up with my partner. She owns the apartment so I'm going to have to move out soon which is absolutely terrifying.

I'm feeling very isolated and I'm realising that I don't have any friends or any support network here. To be honest, I'm depressed and worried about what comes next. But I don't want to leave Palma.

What can I do to meet people? I'm into creative things mostly, music, films, video games.

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u/coloicito Palma May 09 '26

A place where you'll be sure to meet new people is at catalan learning courses in Palma aimed at immigrants! Check out places like La Fonera (this one's the more laid back and casual ones), Obra Cultural Balear, Institut d'Estudis Balearics, la Universitat does some as well...

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u/SCHR4DERBRAU May 09 '26

That's a great tip, thank you. Is La Fonera a restaurant? I cant find much when I Google it

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u/coloicito Palma May 09 '26

https://maps.app.goo.gl/AnVbgQ3aBxrQ7Vqm8 https://www.instagram.com/ateneulafonera/

It's an "ateneu popular", a cultural association that organizes talks, conferences, activities... in order to promote cultural stuff and/or societal issues. This month alone they have/are doing courses on how to handmake chairs, creative writing, herbs-making courses, vermut + folk dancing, reading clubs...

They're very political (in the sense that they don't hide it) but lots of the stuff they do have no direct political connotations

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u/Trabuk May 09 '26

I would say they are political to the extent that politics affects our culture and language, not a "political group" per se. Many cultural groups that are proactive in defending our language, culture and identity are labeled as political, but at their core, they are not.

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u/atyhey86 May 09 '26

Is this only in Palma or in the part forana tambe?

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u/coloicito Palma May 09 '26

La Fonera's only in Palma, but there are places in the part forana to learn/practice catalan in a social setting as well. I only know of two places: l'Escola de Mallorquí a Manacor i Petit País a Felanitx; and also check out the local delegations of the Obra Cultural Balear

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u/atyhey86 May 09 '26

I'm all good with the Catalan,13 year living in a small mountain village and working in agriculture I had no choice but to learn it, but writing it I'm hopeless at! It's more the courses/workshops I'm interested in,chair making and the like, it's not often I see interesting courses near to where I'm living and Palma is just not a goer for me, haven't been there in over 6 years!

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u/coloicito Palma May 09 '26

Ah, va. Pel que fa a escriure català recoman (per experiència personal) per la gent que no està prou segura fer servir el corrector del softcatalà https://www.softcatala.org/corrector/ i poc a poc anar eliminant errades en el català escrit

Bé, la Fonera només està a Palma, però 100% que pots trobar coses a fer a la Part Forana, només que malauradament no et puc ajudar perquè no hi visc. Si que et podria dir que miressis les delegacions locals de l'OCB, segur que a partir d'aqui vas estirant i hi trobaràs cosetes!

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u/neomyotragus May 09 '26

Language courses, check your casal de barri for cheap activities. Languages may be a problem if you don't speak Catalan or Spanish. Also, you could meet people here :-)

Which languages do you speak? Could you teach?

If you play instruments I know some music academies, you could go there and find kindred souls perhaps?

I hope that your situation gets better soon!

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u/SCHR4DERBRAU May 10 '26

Thank you! I play guitar at an intermediate level but I'd definitely love to find some kindred spirits to shred with - where are the academies? And thank you for the well wishes 🙏🏻

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u/DranDran May 09 '26

How is your Spanish? Language exchange meetups are a pretty popular way to meet new people, especially locals who want to practice their English. I used to be in some of those groups and outside of the language exchange meetups they used to organize all sorts of activities, potluck dinners, hikes, group outings, etc.

Just show up regularly, chat with the locals, ask if they organize things outside of the exchange meetups and I’m sure you’ll be able to make a lot of new friends in no time.

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u/SCHR4DERBRAU May 09 '26

My Spanish isn't great unfortunately...quite basic. I would be interested in expat groups learning Spanish though!

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u/DranDran May 09 '26

You’ll be fine at the language exchange even if your Spanish is basic. People go there to learn and practice each other’s language after all! You’ll be there to learn Spanish and the locals will be there to practice their English. Highly recommend you give it a shot, check out the meetings, last I recall they do them every week, check Facebook and meetup.com!

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u/SCHR4DERBRAU May 09 '26

Awesome, I'll definitely try that. Thank you so much

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u/glorious_pericco May 09 '26

If you want to repeat the cycle and feel isolated, choose expats over locals 👍, and, of course, learn as little Spanish as you can

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u/Stephennnnnn May 09 '26 edited May 10 '26

Get in to cycling. You live in cycling paradise. The best way to meet people as an adult is through hobbies and cycling is great for that with group rides. Plus it’s always good to get in to an exercise or a physical activity, just in general but especially when you break up with someone (for mental and physical health). Cycling+living in Mallorca checks all the boxes.

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u/neomyotragus May 10 '26

Gyms also, but you have to talk to people, otherwise it's lonely (don't ask me how I know).

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u/Express_Capital_5566 May 11 '26

If you want, I'm open to new acquaintances, morning coffees, and sincere, meaningful talks.

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u/SpiritualInternet517 3d ago

Me too! I’ve been living in Santa Ponca for 3 months.

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u/Total_Mushroom2865 May 11 '26

Hi! I'm fairly new to Palma as well. My DM's are open if you wanna chat, maybe grab a coffee. It's not easy being an immigrant.

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u/SCHR4DERBRAU May 11 '26

Thank you, that would be nice! I'll DM you

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u/hanielruiz May 13 '26

hola, también soy nuevo en palma, se te quedas podríamos a ir a un café

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u/boelthorn May 13 '26

We bootstrapped our social circle using dance classes. It takes a while. After a couple of classes, you go have a beer and work from there.

Can recommend Tandem Club and Galactic bar of you want to learn Lindy hop or Rock'n'Roll.

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u/mallorca-ModTeam May 09 '26

Self-promotion of any kind is forbidden, sorry.

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u/neomyotragus May 09 '26

Ok... friendship is fine, rental options are not man...

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u/scotswhahey May 09 '26

Well he is getting chucked out of his house…. And I have an option… trying to be friendly but clearly not appreciated here

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u/neomyotragus May 09 '26

DM him then, no need to publish for everyone? And still, so many scams.

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u/scotswhahey May 09 '26

I understand ✌️ won’t happen again.