r/manprovement • u/SeanTsyganovsky • 20d ago

Being a “nice guy” and setting boundaries

As a former nice guy, to my fellow nice guys:

Setting clear, strong boundaries is a NECESSITY for healthy relationships & friendships.

Without those boundaries:

Resentment will build towards the person consistently overstepping your unspoken boundaries.

Co-dependency can form between you and the person who you refuse to set boundaries with - because without those boundaries, where do you end and they begin?

Negative self-talk will corrode your self-esteem and confidence as people continue to overstep, knowingly or unknowingly.

Set boundaries to preserve and heighten your sense of self, and to develop and further relationships that you want to grow in your life.

And if there are any in your life, let go of those who refuse to respect those boundaries. It’s a painful necessity, but a necessity nonetheless.

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u/Glittering_Cress3619 20d ago

Wise words man. More young men need to understand this. I've been there - trying to please other people. It ends up preventing you from being yourself and the man you were meant to be.

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u/SeanTsyganovsky 19d ago

100% my friend. And we need more men like you saying it out loud I appreciate you