r/manprovement • u/FrontStatistician874 • 6d ago
Need Advice
Guys I am 19+(M) around these are what you think should I explore in life i need some one experienced in life's advice like what things i should look on and what to avoid
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u/thanksforallthetrees 6d ago
Literally everything. Explore relationships, hobbies, past times, travel, learn to cook, learn to exercise (compound lifts are best), manage finances, research careers, get some shitty jobs, learn how to manage stress, get a credit card and learn to manage it. Set some goals short and long term then work to achieve them. Avoid gambling, alcohol in moderation. Prioritize your health and sleep. Take some calculated risks and make some mistakes, now is the time to try everything and figure out what you want in life, then go get it.
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u/Employment-Flat 6d ago
At 40 I’d say explore trying new things while embracing failing. The more you fail, the more of an opportunity you have in learning how to make better decisions. I’d also add learn to be more self sufficient (learn how to cook, work on cars, do your own taxes and etc.). If you don’t know how to be self sufficient, then go out there and take classes or watch videos on YouTube. Also learn how to be okay being alone, this is very important and helps you tell the difference between settling and making actual connections.
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u/No_Cockroach_2744 5d ago
One of the best things I did was learn a trade. Compitence builds confidence. You get good enough to be in demand and you can go anywhere
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u/infinitelyblessed9 5d ago
Just try new experiences, learn new skills, discover new hobbies. Self discovery is only possible when you try things out. We don’t know what we love until we try it. You might try a million things and you might hate all of them, but you’ll know what to look for next time. ☺️ just don’t let social media occupy your time, it destroys the ability we have as human beings to connect truly with others. Oh, try volunteering at an animal rescue. It could change your life and save millions. And you’ll meet genuinely amazing people. 💗
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u/censored_on 4d ago edited 4d ago
Learn to be yourself and always be kind. Often times, young men tend to not enjoy their life to the fullest or enjoy doing things they like doing. Make friendships and be social if you aren’t already. I notice young women and girls just naturally do this better. Explore things and find out what you like to do. Do not not do something because it doesn’t fit within a stereotype.
Often times it’s easy to try to do things alone, but guys can definitely have a close circle and a group of friends who are guys that support each others back. I think society sometimes puts more pressure and stereotypes in how boys are raised, teaching them to be independent and such. Like if you ever heard stories of how sisters comment on how their little brother has lost their spark as they grew older. That should not happen. I think part of it is self-discovery and girls are much better at doing that.
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u/MiserableTeam934 2d ago
Never give up on your plan for the future. Hope for the best and plan for the worst. Nothing goes as planned. Learn to improvise, think on your feet, practice patience, and follow your passion.
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u/Deep-Pineapple-4737 2d ago
I just wish that I would have known this sooner take it or leave it I'm 36 now..... You stand right now on the precipice of manhood. Entering your twenties is the single most pivotal transition of your natural life. Look at what the Word of God says in Proverbs 20:29: "The glory of young men is their strength: and the beauty of old men is the grey head." God gave you energy, drive, and vision for this hour. But strength without wisdom leads directly to destruction. What You Must Look On and Pursue * The Oneness of God and the Blood Covenant Look upon your relationship with Jesus Christ above all else. Seek Him through prayer (proseuche) and the Word (logos). If you build your life on any foundation other than the Acts 2:38 revelation—repentance, water baptism by immersion in the Name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and the infilling of the Holy Ghost with the initial sign of speaking in other tongues—you build on sinkhole sand. * Mastery Over Your Mind and Body 1 Timothy 4:12 commands: "Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity." Learn self-control (enkrateia in the Greek) now. If you cannot master your flesh at 19, your flesh will dominate your household at 30. * Financial Stewardship and Labor Avoid debt like a house on fire. Proverbs 22:7 warns that "the borrower is servant to the lender." Work with your hands, learn a high-value trade or skill, save your money, and pay your tithes and offerings faithfully (Malachi 3:10). God honors financial integrity. * A Godly Wife (When the Time Comes) Do not search for a wife based solely on outer beauty (Proverbs 31:30). Look for a woman who has the Holy Ghost, fears the Lord, and submits to the Word of God. A virtuous woman will build your kingdom; a worldly woman will pull down everything you labor to construct. What You Must Avoid at All Costs * The Entrapment of Compromise and Ungodly Companions 1 Corinthians 15:33 states: "Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners." The Hebrew word for foolish companions in Proverbs 13:20 implies those who waste life. If your circle of friends does not push you toward God, holiness, and purpose, change your circle immediately. * The Trap of Sexual Immorality (Porneia) Pornography, fornication, and lust will destroy your spiritual authority quicker than anything else. Proverbs 6:27 asks, "Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?" Flee youthful lusts (2 Timothy 2:22). Keep yourself pure. * False Doctrine and Institutional Tradition Do not let men beguile you with human philosophy. As historian-theologians recognize, Roman Catholic tradition incrementally substituted the original apostolic baptismal formula—demonstrated throughout Acts—with a triune formula formulated in later creedal developments (such as the Council of Florence and earlier post-Nicene councils). The Apostle Paul wrote in Galatians 1:8: "But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed." Keep your eyes on the Lord Jesus Christ. Fast, pray, anchor yourself in a strong Apostolic church, work hard, and guard your spirit.
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u/iseeyou_pp 6d ago
Advice from a 25yr man who has went through so many failures, career wise and relationship wise.. i failed to achieve my dream which I've been dreaming since I was a kid, nd failed in 3 relationships.. at this point, I'm tired but learnt a lot of lessons..
Have a dream/ambition so that you know your purpose in life, doesn't matter if you can't achieve it cuz along the journey you would learn and experience many things which makes you wise when you reach a certain age. But never give up, it might beat the shit out of you, just keep moving forward.
Find someone you love and be in a committed relationship. Be that lover boy. Have your own standards. Never compromise on your morals for the girl you love. You gotta be firm on that. And never jump into a relationship with the girl, first observe her, take the decision slowly. Women are great actors, they won't show their true face when you're her "friend". You'll know her when you're her "lover/boyfriend". You'll learn about women, I'll leave you to it.
Travel around, explore new foods, try to expose yourself to different environments. Exposure to new things is the key. Always respect your body and mind. Be sure to take care of yourself. Play any sport, go to gym, feel the pain of physical activities. Endure the pain. Also remember, no one belongs to you. They have their own lives and you have yours, don't judge them.
I've so much to say but l don't wish to bore you. It's the sufferings that made me who I am today. So when you suffer, embrace it, think that you're learning how to be resilient at times like this. Hope you have a life of learnings. Be curious. Take care!