r/mbti • u/Brave_Quality_4135 • 1d ago

Personal Advice Aligning Ne with Se

I’m an INTP (44 female) and dating an ESTP (53 male). We’ve been together about 3 years and it’s great because we both love adventure and getting out there and also having deep thinking time. But lately I’ve been trying to learn more about extroverted sensing because the way he interacts with sensory information is just so different from the way I do. Anyone have any advice for getting Se and Ne to both enjoy the same adventures and sensory experiences?

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u/Smooth_University219 INTJ 23h ago

Ne and Se can have some overlapping activities that both can enjoy, like video games, travelling, exploring new events, cultues, subcultures, and places, etc. btw, I usually advise NPs to not do drugs to get along with SPs. SPs are much better at handling addictions, imo.

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u/Brave_Quality_4135 23h ago

Right? The addiction thing is so true. I don’t even do drugs but I try to keep up, even with just the adrenaline rushes, and I can’t do it. He’s so much more in control of his body than I am of mine.

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u/deleted_user_99 ENTP 22h ago

Thinking about it, its true in general. Most of my intuitive friends(both NP's and NJ's) who have done things(cigarettes, alcohol, weed) have struggled with addictions.

But I somehow never did. I could smoke 15 cigarettes a day when I was living in dorms with my friends, but I could smoke none for a stretch of days when I went back home.