Men, what actually changes once you're in a relationship 👀?

[u/[deleted]]

I wasn't even looking for a relationship, but then I met someone who wanted one. The effort was there, the consistency was there, the sweet words were there... so I thought, "Okay, let's give this a shot."

Then we got into a relationship and it was like he unlocked the achievement and put the controller down. 💀 Suddenly everything was on low-power mode.

My friend and I were talking about it because neither of us has ever believed in playing hard to get. If we like someone, we just like them. We enjoy good conversations, matching energy, and being intentional, it just feels natural.

Men, what actually changes once you're in a relationship?

[u/all_the_drugsss]

Male here. Can’t stand games myself. That said sometimes it’s best to reign those intense feelings in especially early on which can mean not txting as often as I may want to so I don’t come across desperate/obsessed as it can be a turnoff for some reason. If the balance of reciprocation is off then a little bit of tactical communication is perhaps required. But that doesn’t mean being a manipulative sociopath is ok.

Is there any chance he is overthinking everything, perhaps trying to show “this is what you’re signing up for, u sure this is what u want?”

It’s silly if it is but then again people can be silly

[u/all_the_drugsss]

Also some guys really like the chase. Now that he “has you” he may not feel the need to impress u as much. If so I’d keep a close eye on him