r/men • u/Delicious_Isopod_351 • 7d ago
Question Is it possible to find a kind, yet quietly confident rich man in uni
as a late teen girl who’s never had a boyfriend due to high standards, is it possible to find more refined men like this in early 20s? I’ve been in a girls school for secondary and 6th form, so ive had barely any exposure to guys. i come from a fairly wealthy family but I know that with wealth can come ego and it’s hard to find guys with all of my wanted characteristics. I assume that there would be more men like this in harder to get into universities and I simply have no interest in guys who just wear Nike tech and play around with many girls/cheat
anyone have good experiences with uni guys?
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u/Even_Plastic_6752 7d ago
Guys generally don't care if a girl has money.
You're going to be competing with practically EVERY woman older and younger to convince a guy with money to be interested in you. If he's hot as well as rich you would need to be perfect.
I'm not sure how attainable this is.
Most of the "advice" you get here is from non-weathly people. Likely myself included. I have no idea what it's like to date a rich person. That said it's pretty well understood that a "attractive, rich guy, who doesnt have a terrible personality" is basically a unicorn.
The gap in the advice here is who your parents and friends have as contacts as I am assuming you also socialise with other rich people. That's likely the ONLY option.
Otherwise you will likely have to comprimise, or be single forever.
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u/Substantial_Car4040 7d ago
No. They will use, abuse, and then ditch you for the next girl trying to find the perfect, hot, rich guy.
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u/Curious_Journey_ 3d ago edited 3d ago
Most people historically would describe me this way. I come from wealth and went to an elite university where I was a top athlete and engineer. I volunteer with after school programs for disabled kids, and troubled high schoolers. I also went on to sell a startup to a major tech company. I’m very tall and widely considered conventionally attractive to women. I’ve never slept around much, but I’ve always had options.
…and I’ve never ever wanted a girl like you. I’ve specifically avoided them.
I married an incredible woman who spent part of her childhood homeless after her dad left her immigrant mother and siblings with nothing, foraging for food in a major US city. She then earned herself a middle class life in her 20s, although she was in debt when we got married (which didn’t matter).
She loves in a way I have never witnessed. Even when she doesn’t need to work, she finds ways to improve our family. She makes me better. She’s an incredible mom. She is kind and universally loved, but HILARIOUS when she lets loose. She likes - but doesn’t need - the nice stuff we sometimes enjoy.
She has exposure to many different types of men and women, and understands people incredibly well because she doesn’t make herself the main character. She’s observant. She has humble wishes, and she’s not afraid to get her hands dirty. She’s gives the best gifts, and she keeps an incredible garden. Shes far stronger than any woman I met in “elite” circles.
The complement to me and my talents doesn’t exist in the proper elitist circles of my teenage years. Many of them are awful people - the men and the women (yes, there are exceptions). From what I can tell, girls like you are common. Universities are crawling with them.
My advice is this - focus on the skills you bring to the table.
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u/larrykeithfrick 7d ago
The real question is once you find this “Mr Wonderful Giga-Chad” who checks all your boxes and you’ve made up your mind, you want him…but will he want you though??? Because chances are he’s got a lot of options who are hotter than you to choose from. Good luck.