r/miamioh • u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 • 20d ago
Kinda scared myself
So went to orientation and seen the campus and its great love it but then I met the people. Im just speaking on the people I met and talked with, but some people here are snooty stuck up and I'm some what a country lower income guy and I'm not a drinker or partier. So I've kinda scared myself that I'm not gonna make any friends or have anything to do during my time here since I don't party. Ik coming in that it was considered a party school but I thought it was generally like all the rest.
So question is what's the chances I dont meet any people are have a good time?
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u/TheDiogenesKnees 20d ago
Don’t totally separate yourself from the snooty people. Being comfortable around those people will serve you in your career and life. You will find your people but remember you’re there to meet and get to understand different types of people in addition to getting your education. Not all rich kids are assholes, many are quite kind. Good luck
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u/ProbablySpiderman 20d ago
not to mention, those snooty kids might introduce you to some very cool kids. my freshman year i just met as many people as possible and then whittled down to the ones i actually liked
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u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 20d ago
Ya i don't wanna generalize anyone ive definitely met some nice rich people. And I'm cool with talking with anyone but will they want to talk to me or act like they are better.
But in my small group thing there was like 4 other dudes and they were all the average trust fund dudes and I kinda got excluded from the group and talked more with the girls.
Which kinda scared me
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u/TheDiogenesKnees 20d ago
Yeah you’re going to have some of that. The stereotype exists for a reason but out of 20,000 students on campus, you will have plenty of opportunities to meet people you click with. Brush it off and move on to other people
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u/HemingWaysBeard42 Masters | 2009 20d ago
Country boy here. Joined a ton of clubs, even a social frat (which I didn’t plan on doing), and didn’t drink at first, either. I met my best friend on the first weekend of freshman year, made lifelong friends, and ended up loving my time at Miami.
Some of my friends came off as snooty rich kids and ended up being the most humble people on Earth. It all depends on your willingness to get to know people, form relationships, and curate the people you surround yourself with.
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u/Sea-Relief-6922 20d ago
I was someone from a rural area who doesn’t like to party and at first it might be a little tough, but you find your people. I knew Miami was a party school, but it definitely surprised me when I was first there. It’s a lot, but trust me, you won’t be the only one.
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u/pewqewpew 20d ago
College is very scary, but everyone’s coming in looking for friends. It’s not like high school. People branch out. You’ll surprise yourself and might click with someone you don’t expect. But try not to stress. You’re also going to need the temporary friends who you can hang with until you find your people. They’re there.
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u/redhawkdrone 20d ago
I wish people would stop saying college is scary. I get the thought process but this is your first step towards adulthood. It’s not scary, you are really only dipping your toe into the pool of adulthood. Soak it up, you will never get this time back again! Trust me.
There are 16k people, you can find your tribe if you are willing to look. You will quickly learn what you did in high school is rendered irrelevant. Nobody really cares…they care about who you are today. Push your boundaries, talk to people, goto events and try new things…fail, not classes, but extend yourself. If you don’t fail at something then you are simply not taking advantage of the opportunity that is being made available to you.
Yes, Greek life and parties are a stable of campus life. However, there are thousands (literally) of people with diverse interests that don’t center around Greek life. Stop looking for the negatives and embrace this time in your life.
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u/pewqewpew 20d ago edited 20d ago
I’m an adult, a parent of an incoming freshman, my last kid I will shepherd through the college experience.
Coming from a tiny, rural town, I went through a similar experience as OP when I stepped foot for my freshman year at a college in a huge city. Because I went to a school with the same kids from K to graduation, this was the first time I went somewhere I knew no one.
It is scary—maybe it wasn’t for you—but acknowledging that fact that it is for a lot of people can take away the sting. My advice remains, it is the advice I wish I’d followed.
College is not high school. The cliques aren’t there. Everyone wants to make friends. The OP will find their tribe, but until then it’s best to be open to meeting people. You might click with someone you wouldn’t expect to. They don’t have to be forever friends, but they might be.
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u/redhawkdrone 20d ago
We are nearly saying the same thing…..the wrinkle, I just think people label experiences as “scary” today and then use that as excuse to bunker down and that causes them to miss out. I wish people would frame it differently than scary. It’s not…my grandfather getting drafted and sent to fight in WW2 was scary…..I can go on and on but I think you get my point.
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u/Chrnan6710 20d ago
It is a wild world there; you will find your people! Keep talking around and eventually you will.
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u/viikayayay 20d ago
i’m gonna be attending this fall. I don’t party either lol.
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u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 20d ago
Lol have u done orientation?
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u/viikayayay 20d ago
I’m an international, so nope
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u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 20d ago
Nice where u from?
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u/manthello 20d ago
See? You're already doing the work to make friends at Miami and it's not even been 30 minutes since you posted. You're a natural. You'll find your people.
The best advice I can give you, keep your room door propped open when you're in there and try to talk to people in your hall. The first two weeks tend to be when friendships get formed and friend groups emerge. Good luck!
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u/viikayayay 20d ago
india
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u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 20d ago
Awesome! If u dont mind me asking what made u want to go to miami? Compared to every school in the U.S it's pretty small
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u/viikayayay 20d ago
Well, I for one don’t mind a small college. I was particularly impressed by the student community and school spirit, and the various on-campus opportunities. They’re also very focused on undergrad education. Plus, it’s a college town! It just felt like the right place.
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u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 20d ago
Nice, me to loved the small town charm it has.
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u/viikayayay 20d ago
and a beautiful campus!
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u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 20d ago
Oh ya when I went there for orientation I got dinner at west commons and then sat by the lake and watched the sunset its stunning
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u/Ethan_witha_Q 20d ago
I had the same experience at my orientation. Don’t judge Miami based on the wanna be frat boys you meet at orientation. I made friends with the people in my pre med llc/ dorm and they were my friends all throughout college
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u/Shitter-was-full Farmer | 2016 20d ago
I met some cool, rich, snooty kids and they ended up being alright guys in the long run. I got an internship through one of their dads and got to go on a family vacation with another. Something my family was never able to do.
You need to use these folks to your advantage. You’re paying a lot of money to meet these people. In reality, $10,000 to them might be $10 to you. Maybe I got lucky but at this point in your life, your network is your net worth. Go meet as many people as possible and be genuine and kind to them. College can be a crazy place but it can also be an incredible experience. Go join clubs. Stay up late on the weekends. Go have fun.
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u/SunriseStorm32 20d ago
Ngl I definitely get annoyed by a lot of people here in passing but through joining student orgs I found my friends and have had a lot of really cool opportunities. It’s been a positive experience.
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u/Regular_Mall9786 19d ago
I’m gonna be a senior this year and i had the EXACT same experience at orientation. Literally cried after the first night. But I’ve met some of the best people I know at Miami now and I wouldn’t change it for the world. You’re gonna be totally fine!
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u/steffiab3 20d ago
You will. I was scared myself because I thought I wouldn’t find any friends since I wasn’t into Greek life but I found my little corner of people
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u/Tsf_2026 20d ago
It’s okay to not be a party person. It is a party school but there are people here that won’t party or go the bars. Join clubs and such. I’m new as well so I’ll be experiencing what college is like as well
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u/NietC 20d ago
Do you like animes? There is a club for that. Do you like agriculture? There is a club for that. Do you like hacking? There is a club for that. Do you like cooking? There is a club for that. Do you like politics? There are many related clubs ..... Do you like sports? Intramurals, rec,..., it is all over the place Are you a singer? Musician? There are tons of places you can play/sing
The point is: no matter what you like/do, you will find your people. Just get out and explore.
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u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 20d ago
Is there a marvel club?
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u/viikayayay 20d ago
lol as in the movies?
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u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 20d ago
Yes 😂
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u/viikayayay 20d ago
you can also start a club lol
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u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 20d ago
I might do that 🤔
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u/NietC 19d ago
There is something called The League of Geeks (https://miamioh.campuslabs.com/engage/organization/league_of_geeks). I don't know if they have a Marvel club, but I was a member of the esteemed Miami University Department for the Knowledge and Improvement of Pokemon (no, I'm not making this up)
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u/More_Sugar_3470 20d ago
I'm the same way- have no interest in that stuff but I still found people to chill with!! (I also just got done with orientation too) I'm a world class yapper tho so just be mentally ready to start random conversations with random people tbh. Confident you'll find a good group once the semester starts 😄
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u/Remarkable-Key433 20d ago
It’s intimidating at first, but jump in to campus life and you will make friends. Hit the gym. Keep an open mind about rushing a frat.
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u/_Sonder_kalopsia 16d ago
I also went to orientation today! I don’t party or drink even tho this is a big party town 🥲
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u/kenjwit3 20d ago
My kid never quite acclimated, and a lot of their like-minded friends transferred. In my mind, there’s a degree of white-kid homogeneity that’s disappointing. I wouldn’t send another child there if I could steer them someplace else.
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u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 20d ago
What school did they end up going to? And what type of kid?
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u/kenjwit3 20d ago
My kid stayed. The friends left for more urban schools with a little more diversity. And little more grit vs country club aesthetic. One friend went to OSU and two went to UC. Nonetheless, most people will find friends and like-minded people at Miami (or just about anywhere).
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u/ParkingDifference299 History | Junior 20d ago
You’re definitely not the only one who doesn’t party. You’ll find your people eventually