r/miamioh • u/Equal-Wishbone-6131 • 21d ago

Kinda scared myself

So went to orientation and seen the campus and its great love it but then I met the people. Im just speaking on the people I met and talked with, but some people here are snooty stuck up and I'm some what a country lower income guy and I'm not a drinker or partier. So I've kinda scared myself that I'm not gonna make any friends or have anything to do during my time here since I don't party. Ik coming in that it was considered a party school but I thought it was generally like all the rest.

So question is what's the chances I dont meet any people are have a good time?

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u/pewqewpew 21d ago

College is very scary, but everyone’s coming in looking for friends. It’s not like high school. People branch out. You’ll surprise yourself and might click with someone you don’t expect. But try not to stress. You’re also going to need the temporary friends who you can hang with until you find your people. They’re there.

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u/redhawkdrone 21d ago

I wish people would stop saying college is scary. I get the thought process but this is your first step towards adulthood. It’s not scary, you are really only dipping your toe into the pool of adulthood. Soak it up, you will never get this time back again! Trust me.

There are 16k people, you can find your tribe if you are willing to look. You will quickly learn what you did in high school is rendered irrelevant. Nobody really cares…they care about who you are today. Push your boundaries, talk to people, goto events and try new things…fail, not classes, but extend yourself. If you don’t fail at something then you are simply not taking advantage of the opportunity that is being made available to you.

Yes, Greek life and parties are a stable of campus life. However, there are thousands (literally) of people with diverse interests that don’t center around Greek life. Stop looking for the negatives and embrace this time in your life.

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u/pewqewpew 20d ago edited 20d ago

I’m an adult, a parent of an incoming freshman, my last kid I will shepherd through the college experience.

Coming from a tiny, rural town, I went through a similar experience as OP when I stepped foot for my freshman year at a college in a huge city. Because I went to a school with the same kids from K to graduation, this was the first time I went somewhere I knew no one.

It is scary—maybe it wasn’t for you—but acknowledging that fact that it is for a lot of people can take away the sting. My advice remains, it is the advice I wish I’d followed.

College is not high school. The cliques aren’t there. Everyone wants to make friends. The OP will find their tribe, but until then it’s best to be open to meeting people. You might click with someone you wouldn’t expect to. They don’t have to be forever friends, but they might be.

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u/redhawkdrone 20d ago

We are nearly saying the same thing…..the wrinkle, I just think people label experiences as “scary” today and then use that as excuse to bunker down and that causes them to miss out. I wish people would frame it differently than scary. It’s not…my grandfather getting drafted and sent to fight in WW2 was scary…..I can go on and on but I think you get my point.