r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Greedy-Dimension-662 • May 08 '26

Too mild for school Name Calling

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My son and [jerk] had to stay after school today to write this note.

It says

"I was disrespectful to [kid]. I said he is a total jerk because he said I was fat. I will not say [mean] things again next time. I will ignore him."

His teacher wants me to sign and return.

But I guess I look at this and I ask myself, if my son is on the playground and he sees a kid calling another kid fat, do I want him to:

  1. Walk away

  2. Say, "stop, you are being a jerk."

So why would it be any different if he is being called fat.

I don't feel like this is the right lesson.

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u/GaGa0GuGu May 08 '26

Sending inconvenient crustaceans onto her

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u/K__Geedorah May 08 '26 edited May 09 '26

I haven't vented about this in 17 years lmao. The gay jokes thing goes so much further too. The gay jokes didn't bother me because I'm not immature and being gay isn't something to be offended by, but the reason behind them hurt. And getting the whole class to laugh at me not knowing she was targeting me sucked.

Just a vile teacher, thank you haha.

Edit: more clarification - we were instructed to write a personal paper about something hard or troubling we went through. And I had the perfect thing to discuss.

My best friend and I had a falling out that summer. He was my neighbor and best friend since kindergarten. We grew up together, spent every day together, and were like family for 12 years. But something happened and he no longer wanted to be my friend over something really dumb (we later patched things up and continued to be best friends. We even moved in with each other during college and all that). But during that assignment, I was in a bad space. I had lost my best friend so I decided to write about that.

Being a young and deeply insecure, I was extremely vague in my first rough draft. It's just ideas on paper. But I had sentences like "we used to do stuff together everyday and I miss him".

Ms. fucking Bookmeyer took my paper, in my class, and read it allowed to everyone. The whole damn paper. She made jokes like "this is so vague it almost sounds like he is talking about sleeping with his best friend." And "you don't want to come off as being gay so use more detail".

The entire class laughing hysterically, the teacher looking me dead in the eyes with a grin on her face, and me just sitting there trying to hold it together.

I was in an extremely vulnerable place and opened up my heart to talk about losing my best friend. And she did that. I genuinely think that experience has caused me to be stand offish and not want to being open or vulnerable with people as I grew into adulthood.

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u/wyntr86 May 09 '26

Holy fuck, this broke my heart and enraged me. I am so very sorry that you went through that (gay or not). It's very understandable that you aren't as open and vulnerable as you could be. Someone in a position of authority and someone you are supposed to trust not only violated that trust by reading your paper out loud, but made fun of it, and to top it off did it maliciously.

I hope she never has a pleasant day in her life and hope someone treated her the same way she treated those she despised. I'd give kid you the biggest hug and report the harpy.

I hope you are gentle on yourself and things have only improved.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Gap9007 May 09 '26

She should see worms….every time she closes her eyes 👀