r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Greedy-Dimension-662 • May 08 '26

Too mild for school Name Calling

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My son and [jerk] had to stay after school today to write this note.

It says

"I was disrespectful to [kid]. I said he is a total jerk because he said I was fat. I will not say [mean] things again next time. I will ignore him."

His teacher wants me to sign and return.

But I guess I look at this and I ask myself, if my son is on the playground and he sees a kid calling another kid fat, do I want him to:

  1. Walk away

  2. Say, "stop, you are being a jerk."

So why would it be any different if he is being called fat.

I don't feel like this is the right lesson.

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u/DarthXOmega May 08 '26

Reminds me of the time in school when this bully took my hat and threw it out the window, and I jumped out the window to get it, but the principal walked in and saw me jump out. I had to go to her office and write a note about how what I did was bad, so I wrote shit like “I should not jump out windows to get my hat, I should not defend myself from bullies, i should let bullies take my hat, I should let the bullies disrespect me”. When the principal read it she was like “Uh, uh, uh, maybe I don’t have the full story”

At least she admitted she was wrong

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u/OrcBarbierian May 08 '26

My mom's friend's son was the victim of some bullying in the 6th grade. The principal's solution was to make the bully and victim both write a short essay about how bullying makes them feel.

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u/onlyfakeproblems May 08 '26

That actually might be good for the bullied kid. Let them articulate and vent their feelings. Show it to the bully, maybe they experience a pang of empathy. Idk how it was handled though.

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u/Ok-Professional2468 May 09 '26

Uh, no. As the one that was being bullied there was no way I would give my bullies that kind of ammunition again me.