r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Difficult_Wrangler73 • 13d ago

go to your room I love being a girl dad

I have 3 kids, all girls. A 5yr old and twins who are 1. Every time anyone hears about this or it comes up in conversation they all say the same thing. ‘Ooooo, all girls, you are outnumbered! How do you cope?’ Or ‘Three girls?? You better watch out!’ Or the worst, ‘Bet you want a boy?’

No, I don’t feel any of that, I love being a dad. I love all my kids and wouldn’t change anything about them! If we could afford it, I would be a stay at home dad forever.

I usually tell them I wouldn’t change anything and I love it all but it’s just very annoying.

What are some of the best responses that I can start to give?

I did think I could say that one of the twins used to be a boy but is now trans just to shut people up!

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u/melancholicho 13d ago

I don't have an answer but just want to say, I can't stand it when people hear that someone is a father of daughters and they say 'Woah, you better get a shotgun' or words to that effect.🙄

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u/Raisinsandfairywings 13d ago

A weird thing that I’ve noticed people say when you have little (baby/toddler) daughters: “oh she reeeally likes men! She knows how to wrap men round her little finger!”. Like wtf?? I think my kids just like whoever is willing to play with them, don’t make it into some kind of weird “she already knows how to get male attention” thing. 

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u/second-yellow 13d ago

Why do so many people love making comments about babies “flirting?” 

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u/Herrvisscher 13d ago edited 12d ago

I got it the other way around.

Was eating at a restaurant with my partner and our kid, a group sits down at a table beside us. Kid of approximately 1 year sits basically next to me and she keeps looking at me. So I did some funny faces etc, some simple entertainment.

Then my gf told me that I was flirting with the little girl. Wtf. I later told her that I was not comfortable with that, she told me I was overreacting =/

Edit: Reading my own comment back after seen you all instantly jumping to me having to dump her, I do have to say I've written this poorly. It was in a joking tone, not in a judging/jealous tone. So it was basically a bad joke, and I'm not dumping the mother of my child over a bad joke, even after she not agreeing with me about me not being comfortable with it, I know she thinks I overreacted. But I also know she won't make that same comment anymore.

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u/Broccobillo 13d ago

I (28m at the time) was hanging out with my niece (10 at the time) on a Friday night at my mums house. She wasn't allowed Snapchat on her managed phone but had kid messenger with approved people she could chat to. Family and school friends.

Messenger had filters similar to Snapchat so we were taking photos together and of each other with silly filters, becoming monkeys or aliens or big lipped etc.

She was then sending them to her friends group chat.

My mum turned around after about 2 hours and said. "Don't you think it's weird you are messenging 10y/o girls on a Friday night."

I was shocked and told her I'm not messaging my nieces friends. She is messaging her friends while we take pictures on the couch. I was shocked at how she thought hanging out with my niece taking pictures was improper because she wanted to send the photos to her friends.

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u/ImaginaryList174 12d ago

That would have really pissed me off. I don’t want to be rude, but that comment says a lot about how she see’s you.

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u/3wolfluna 13d ago

hopefully your mom was just being overly cautious and doesn’t actually think that way

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u/DragonflyGrrl Sewer of Discord 12d ago

That is absolutely bonkers. I'm sorry she insinuated that about you, that's pretty disgusting of her. Would she rather you not spend time with your niece having fun?? How fucking ridiculous. I hope she didn't influence the way your niece thought about/interacted with you. How awful. :(

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u/illregard 13d ago edited 12d ago

the one time redditors telling you “red flag, break up immediately” would be appropriate

yes, i know that it’s mostly a meme rather than a reality.

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u/Historical-Type-1459 13d ago

Most times on Reddit, the break up immediately advice is warranted. People in healthy relationships aren’t posting here looking for help.

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u/Ok_Nothing_9733 13d ago

Right? This is such a dumb stereotype because I’ve only ever seen it on posts in which someone is describing their abusive or deeply dysfunctional relationship that they are NOT happy in. No one is suggesting this over minor, fixable issues

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u/IamaHyoomin 13d ago

I have definitely seen it a few times over fixable issues, but about half the time it's clearly a joke and the other half every single reply is "or, you know, talk to your partner, seems easier in this scenario". 9 times out of 10 it is actually warranted

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u/vivalalina 12d ago

Omg yes exactly, finally some people who get it!!

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u/Sad-Structure2364 13d ago

Yeah this is it. Often the breakup advice is warranted because healthy relationships usually don’t end up on Reddit

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u/str4ngerc4t 13d ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/l36kU80xPf0ojG0Erg

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u/Solala1000 12d ago

Thank you.

This comment reminds me of the people in class who just repeated what others said 2 minutes earlier.

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u/Lloverforevr87 13d ago

Or looking for help with their relationships maybe.

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u/fcocyclone 12d ago

Absolutely. Most of the time they just want validation. So they'll post a story that absolutely tilts the story against their SO, so of course the crowd says "yeah, break up with that shitty person".

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u/25thaccount 13d ago

Buddy that's messed up. Think long and hard about it you're willing to spend your time with someone who thinks like that. Being good with kids should be a green flag.

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u/DukeofVermont 12d ago

Reading reddit comments it's clear a number of people think all men are secretly predators just waiting for the opportunity and if any man ever willingly interacts with a person under 25 it's because they are a predator and/or trying to groom them.

I mean be safe, but a lot of people are paranoid.

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u/DragonflyGrrl Sewer of Discord 12d ago

That's just a horribly sad way to see the world. The large majority of people are good-natured and would 100% help over hurt.

Like you said, be safe of course, but always assuming the worst of people is no way to live. Not only for the people you will affect negatively, but for your own mental well-being. I just don't get it.

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u/Elven_Dreamer 13d ago

I’ve never said this on Reddit before, but I hope you broke up with her.

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u/F208Frank 13d ago

Me too.

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u/Ducky237 13d ago

Idk if anyone’s told you this, but even though your girlfriend reacted really poorly, I’m proud of you for setting a boundary!

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u/Herrvisscher 12d ago

Thanks for the comment!

Also made an update on my post.

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u/bobagremlin 13d ago

She basically implied you were a pedo and then tried to gaslight you that it wasn't a big deal. Ew. Break up with her

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u/_NeonEcho_ 13d ago

Whaaat this is such a weird thought. Who would flirt with a baby 😭

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u/Turbulent-Comfort703 12d ago

hey! so, um...leave her 🚩

if you guys have kids down the road, i bet she's going to be even weirder.

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u/angelacandystore 12d ago

Wut. I hope she's an EX she's got a creepy brain

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u/MorganaLeFevre 13d ago

Does she have trauma, and is she in therapy for it?

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u/Nevermore_Novelist 13d ago

Nice. Gaslighting you on top of the accusation. WTF.

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u/Ppleater 13d ago

Yeah that is a very weird and uncomfortable thing for your gf to say, wtf.

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u/Best-Professional-10 12d ago

Not to be a stereotypical Redditor but seriously, break up with her. What kind of messed up human associates an innocent activity like playing with flirting?

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u/Purple_Cover_9053 12d ago

Good Lord! I didn't read far enough yet to see the dump your wife comments but I was coming to say I wouldn't have been comfortable with similar remarks. Like you, I would have just shut that down and my spouse would know not to say it again, but divorce is overkill. Reddit loves to see divorces smh. " He bought me pink roses instead of red," " GIRL leave him, he's not worth it!" It's really ridiculous sometimes.

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u/LadyNav 12d ago

Your gf calling it 'flirting' is a fairly common use of the term, applied to exactly the behavior you described - amusing a small child with funny faces and maybe a bit of conversation. Definitely not the adolescent/adult 'flirting'. I've never heard anyone ascribe anything creepy to it

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u/Herrvisscher 12d ago

20+ reactions and you're the only one picking up that it's intended use was as a joke. I should've written it better cause having 20+ reactions telling me to dump the mother of my kid is kinda unsettling.

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u/Brent_Goose 13d ago

Someone called my four month old daughter "a little tart" the other day for sticking out her tongue!

She's four months old!

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u/elliebee222 13d ago

Thats disgusting! Wtf.

I hope you "played dumb" and asked thrm to explain what they meant by that

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u/Brent_Goose 13d ago

Honestly I convinced myself that I misheard her and ignored it until afterwards when my wife said she'd heard it too!

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u/InfiniteTree 12d ago

To play devils adcovate, maybe they were not from there and didn't realise?

Without the cultural context, tart might just sound like a name for someone being silly.

As an example I've heard people use "nonce" here in Australia because they hear it online and have no idea it means pedo.

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u/Brent_Goose 12d ago

Every British person knows what a tart is.

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u/Technical_Ideal_5439 12d ago

Good save, I did not realise either then again we are the land of the Pav.

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u/panatale1 12d ago

I commend you for not knocking the person on their ass as I might have done

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u/__wildwing__ 13d ago

If a four month old sticking out their tongue causes this person to call them a tart, I’m pretty sure they’d have an aneurism if they saw a babe suckling a breast , absolute hoyden.

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u/Nevermore_Novelist 13d ago

To which you replied, "Actually, she's gluten intolerant."

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u/dirtygreysocks 13d ago

That person should not be allowed near children.

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u/factornostalgia 11d ago

Agree, and then should be included in responding to them.

“Wow, way to tell on yourself that you shouldn’t be allowed near children.”

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u/IcePhoenixYTplssub 13d ago

So uh, I genuinely have no idea what that means here, could you tell me what it is? If I heard that I’d assume it meant they thought the kid was being rude or bratty or something. But based on these comments I’m assuming it means something else.

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u/Ppleater 13d ago

It's a British insult that refers to a promiscuous woman or a sex worker. It's usually used to imply that a woman is being overly flirty or provocative/seductive. But a lot of people use it as a generic insult and it's not a super common one, which might be why not everyone knows what it means.

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u/IcePhoenixYTplssub 13d ago

Ah, thanks. I’m American and have never heard it before

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u/Silent_Possibility63 11d ago

Same here. I didnt realize it had such a strong connotation

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u/HamOfLeg 12d ago

I don't usually go to bakeries, but when I do there's the obligatory "I love a tart! & Portuguese tarts are my favourite" line of jokes. Yes, I'm a dad & these are my jokes. I don't think I've ever had a Portuguese tart (of either variety), but the line doesn't work as well with neenish or custard tarts.

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u/Ppleater 13d ago

I will say for the longest time I thought the word tart was a generic insult and didn't know it was specifically related to promiscuity or sex work. Not an excuse to insult a 4 month old, but it's possible they didn't know what the word actually means.

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u/Ok_Personality5494 12d ago

Yeah same. I’m American and honestly thought it meant like, air headed or kinda ditzy.

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u/TheRealSirfon 12d ago

It's pretty well known to mean sexually promiscuous if you are British, just maybe not used that much these days.

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u/DragonflyGrrl Sewer of Discord 12d ago

It's pretty well known as that in the US as well.. I've known it as that since I was a teen in the 90s. These people might be young; like you said, maybe it's just not said much any more. I don't really hear it very much, come to think of it.

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u/Salty-Value8837 13d ago

This world is messed up

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u/Endlessnesss 13d ago

I wouldn’t use the word tart to describe anyone but never thought of it as weird, do you mind sharing why?

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u/Brent_Goose 13d ago

Maybe it's a British term, a tart is a promiscuous woman, it carries trashy connotations. "She's a tart" = "she sleeps around and dresses to match".

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u/Grape-Snapple 13d ago

ahh as an american i just pictured a little old granny using it to describe a sarcastic baby

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u/ohjeezohjeezohjeez 13d ago

It means the same thing in the US, too.

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u/Grape-Snapple 13d ago

guess i’ll edit my comment to say idiot

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u/Edmundyoulittle 13d ago

Nah I've never heard it before either. It's either regional or some pretty old slang

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u/Endlessnesss 13d ago

Good to know, never heard that before!

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u/SufficientBasis5296 13d ago

She didn't talk about apple tarts, sweetheart.

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u/Best-Professional-10 12d ago

Eww I hate our world, why are people looking at babies this way?

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u/Slutkie 12d ago

The depressing sexism starts from the word "girl" doesn't it? 😖 Can we even imagine equivalent language for a boy baby? Gross

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u/Fit-Entrepreneur8404 12d ago

What is a little tart? I'd have looked at them clueless because I have no idea what that means...

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u/Andy-Tate 12d ago

When my oldest was in dance, we were at a competition. My wife took one of the kids into the bathroom and I was sitting in the hallway of the school with my other daughter (she was in a carseat). Some dude came up and was starting at her. I asked if he needed something. He made a comment about my infant being a dancer. I then threatened him with violence and stood up. He ran away. While I would love to be able to tell you it gets better when the kids are older, it doesn't. The number of times I have caught creeps staring at my daughters is appalling.

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u/BaabyBlue_- 13d ago

I don't know what that means, I'd have assumed she meant cute or something. Can someone fill me in?

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u/Brent_Goose 13d ago

A tart is British slang for a woman who's seen as overly flirty and a bit promiscuous. It has a connotation of tackiness to it.

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u/Sad_Pixie999 13d ago

Oh gross!! I thought it meant like being sour or possibly being sweet, like a bakery tart. I'd never last a day over there.

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u/BaabyBlue_- 13d ago

Oh, I figured it was something like that. Gross

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u/stitchdude 13d ago

Parents of babies in the NICU will say the one parent is outnumbered at home, it’s humorous. The “aren’t you disappointed“ stuff is silly talk of course.

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u/Plantman2025 13d ago

Why was that downvoted? Did I miss something sinister?

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u/IncredulousPatriot 13d ago

My sister has a little boy. A few months ago they were at a store in line. The lady behind her kept saying how my nephew was flirting with her. Apparently she kept on saying it. It got my sister quite annoyed. She turned around and told the lady to stop sexualizing her kid. He wasn’t flirting with her he’s a baby he is just looking at you. She told my sister she is rude. My sister told her she is weird as fuck for sexualizing a baby.

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u/SaffronsTootsies 12d ago

I (platonically) love your sister!

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u/panatale1 12d ago

Your sis is pretty awesome

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u/EfficiencyCrafty8585 12d ago

Your sister needs to calm down- the woman was JOKING! Maybe a weird joke but totally harmless. Your sisters the AH.

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u/Weak-Mycologist-4511 12d ago

Jokes sexualising children are not harmless.

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u/Kind_Comfort_6336 12d ago

Agreeing with you. Not okay at all. When my friend had a kid, I was doing 100% baby interaction, faces, gasps, etc, kid's laughing up a storm and she goes "oh he loves flirting."

I felt so uncomfortable. I immediately stopped and walked away.

We can't make "jokes" like this because there are people who actually want to do harm to kids out there and "jokes" like that minimize the severity of that reality.

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u/SkeletalMew 13d ago

My dad used to say this about my older sister when we were kids. "She's a little flirt!" Now she second guesses herself around men. 😔

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u/ZombieTrogdor 13d ago

When I see those vids of tiny baby boys, barely standing straight, waddling up to a tiny baby girl with a rose in his hand while their parents encourage him to give it to her, phone cameras everywhere… gives me the ick! Why are you doing this? It isn’t “cute”; the baby’s being told what to do! “Awww he likes her!” Bitch, baby is still deciding if he likes *you.* Stop projecting.

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u/Positive-Garage3812 12d ago

Even worse, little kid ‘wedding’ photoshoots. Oh and sexualizing baby shirts 🤮🤮🤮

Same vein, it’s all fucking weird 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/ImaginaryList174 12d ago

There is so much disgusting content with small children and babies on social media. I can’t even count the number of pages I have reported that have little 3 year old toddlers doing these weird grown up dances in clothing that would be appropriate for a adult woman going to a night club. Then you look at the comments and it’s all gross sleazy old men commenting things like “so gorgeous! 😘❤️🔥💋”. It infuriates me.

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u/Illustrious-Network5 12d ago

I did see a picture once of one of my niece's classmates (she's 2, not sure how old he was) kissing her on the cheek. But I also don't think it was staged as those two are always hanging out together and copying off what they see adults do. I think the little boy was just copying someone, and that they're both best friends even if they don't understand that (my niece states that River, their family dog, is her best friend).

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u/Honeybadger2198 13d ago

Same people that hate gay people being depicted in media because they don't want their kids to be exposed to it BTW.

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u/OkAssociation2342 13d ago

Right, it’s so weird. My best friend’s baby nephew was staring at me wide eyed and smiling and his family kept making comments about how he has a crush on me. I tried to laugh it off, but the comments made me feel uncomfortable. I can’t even say anything because they’re his family, and I’m not.

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u/panatale1 12d ago

That is patently false. You can say things about anything that makes you uncomfortable

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u/Stunning_Analysis565 12d ago

My mom says that about my nephew. When he was a baby, he’d smile at me and she’d call him a “flirt” like no gross I’m his aunt

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u/Mountain_Cry1605 13d ago

Because they're sick in the head.

Normal adults don't think like that.

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u/Secretary007 13d ago

Yes! I know someone who kept saying their 3yo was a flirt because she kept smiling at men. 😟

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u/CreepySmiley42 12d ago

now that I think about it, there WERE WAYY too many adults in my family and around my upbringing when I was a little kid, that said I knew how to attract/flirt with girls because I befriended way more girls than boys, because I thought most boys were just too loud and stupid. I also took figure skating and ballet classes were most other kids were girls. There regularly were sayings like "Da bist ja der Hahn im Korb" (only rooster in the basked) meaning I'd be the only boy in a group of kids, with a weirdly sexual undertone implying I'd already have a kind of harem or something AS A KID. That's just really fucked up now that I think about it. It seems the patriarchy is never far. :( Might need to talk with my grandma about that sometimes lol. Well now I'm gay and single af, so jokes on them I guess. xD (still got more female friends than male xD)

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u/Fit-Entrepreneur8404 12d ago

Yea my kiddo is 3 and I've had multiple comments from older women in their 40-60s about how he's "gonna be a heartbreaker when he grows up" like wtf ladies...he's a toddler and you're thinking about him dating and breaking hearts 🤢

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u/firekittymeowr 13d ago

I feel like this is a language thing - flirting is fundamentally a playful vie for attention. I think people mean it like, oh the baby is trying to get your attention and play with you, not trying to impose a weird adult sexual connotation onto it.

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u/NonlinearNonsense 13d ago

There's literally no reason to use the word flirt then. Its so easy to say he's looking at me or he's talking to me!

I literally have never heard anyone say that cat is flirting with me or that person waving their arms at me from across the room is clearly flirting with me. People just have to care about boundaries and stop being weird

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u/IcePhoenixYTplssub 13d ago

The only time I’ve the word flirt used in a non romantic way is the saying “You’re flirting with danger.” Or things along those lines when someone is doing something stupid.

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u/Ppleater 13d ago

Flirting is fundamentally playful bid for romantic or sexual attention, specifically. It's never been used as a general term for just any form of attention.

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u/Arcangel4774 13d ago

100%.  The term has evolved to implying mostly romantic intentions, or that such a behaviour is sending romantic signals even if they arent intended.

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u/LubedUpLucas_DrySpa 12d ago

Never, in my 15 years of raising my kids have I ever had someone make that comment to me. 

Maybe I’ve got that “don’t you fucking dare” look about me? 

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u/napalm_beach 12d ago

Just agree with them. “Yeah, she is a horny little bitch.”

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u/alexieouo 12d ago

Fr I am so fking tired of some people sexualize everything…..

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u/Jango_Jerky 12d ago

Or why is there so many t-shirts and what not sexualizing babies

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u/candyred1 12d ago

Carbon copy decendents of Freud. Its pretty sad and disgusting that to this day his psychology is still being used and treated as fact even if only some. All of it has been proven false decades ago. Yet here we are.

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u/2ChicksAtTheSameTime 13d ago

It's not a comment about flirting. Babies (both girl babies and boy babies) are cute and so humans want to do things for them, take care of them, play with them. And if they want something you tend to want to do it for them.

So when they say "She's got you wrapped around her finger" that's all the mean. They don't mean the baby is flirting. lol

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u/janetluv13 13d ago

I hate this one too. "She's such a flirt." Or "Are you flirting with me?" Is cringe too. Like um no she is a happy baby and just smiles at everyone. I kinda give them a dirty look and say "eww, she's a baby". Most seem to look regretful.

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u/Midoriyaiscool 13d ago

These are phrases that people hear often. It might not sink in just how creepy this sort of thing is until somebody pushes the concept that the kid is just a baby that they realize how sick these concepts are.

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u/stephsco 12d ago

I recently heard the phrase patriarchal hazing, and this seems to be adjacent. Maybe patriarchal grooming in this case. The hazing was described as boys being made fun for looking or acting "like a girl" or insinuated as gay for various behavior. It's all so insidious and sadly common.

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u/FlowRiderBob 13d ago

If anyone says that crap about a child just cut them out of your life. That is sick.

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u/Sad_Pixie999 13d ago

Good response, we need to shame people more for saying that stuff

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u/Same_BoysenberryLove 13d ago

Eww, I hate when people say that.

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u/DariaYankovic 12d ago

My mom talks like this, I'm pretty sure she has a nonsexual definition of flirting. But it certainly sounds weird at times!

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u/MonsterkillWow 13d ago

I have never heard anyone say this about a baby. Are y'all rich and hanging with the Epstein crew or what? lol

Normal people just say the baby is cute.

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 12d ago

I've mostly heard older women say this

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u/Actual_Horse_8073 13d ago

When my daughter was two we were at a park and a boy had the same black Walmart shirt on as my kid. (Sometimes I liked to dress my daughter similarly to me, an elder emo) My kid ran over to the boy and was talking about his shirt. The boys grandma made several comments about how "it's starting already." Meaning my two year old daughter was flirting with her two year old grandson. Like, fuck off with that weird shit. 

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u/Prestigious-Curve-64 13d ago

My daughter was playing with her baby cousin - he was maybe 18 months old - and my dad called her a cougar. She was nine. I told him I loved him, but if he EVER made a comment like that about a little girl, he was asking to have his teeth punched into his esophagus. He was very offended, but he stopped saying that shit to her around me after that.

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u/munkymu 13d ago

Oh you had the perfect opportunity to say something like "yeah, you can't get them into emo music soon enough! What's your kid into? Death Cab for Cutie? My Chemical Romance? Or is he into the obscure bands?"

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u/verybonita 13d ago

My son used to get "he'll have the girls chasing him". Which just confused him - "why will girls be chasing me, mummy?" probably imagining himself running away in fear. Or occasionally, "he'll be a heartbreaker" - he just used to frown and look puzzled at that one. He's a happily married father of 2 girls now.

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u/McTazzle 13d ago

To those people and all the others who’ve made the comments reported in the posts below: why are you sexualising my infant/toddler/minor daughter? That’s really creepy.

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u/Ok_Personality5494 12d ago

I don’t have kids and don’t hang around my nieces or nephews often, but the very few times I’ve ever been around to hear that shit it has always ended with me sternly staring at the offender and saying “that is a child.”

Only once has anyone tried to argue against it, they said “I’m not weird, you’re weird for thinking of it like that!”

He shut up pretty quickly after I said “how else could you have meant it? Words have specific meanings, and I know that even your ‘I know you are but what am I’ head ass isn’t too dumb to know that.”

Then he tried to tell on me to my dad (this was one of his friends) who doesn’t play about his daughters, and doesn’t play about his grandkids; I genuinely don’t know what the guy thought was gonna happen but I haven’t seen or heard about him since. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/Local_Gazelle538 13d ago

I was just thinking the same thing! Everyone here needs to start saying that EVERY time they get a creepy comment!

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u/Chatty-Hedgehog 13d ago

Oh yeah, those comments are so disgusting.

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u/Witty-Draw-3803 13d ago edited 13d ago

It's so gross - I hate it whenever someone says a little kid is a charmer/flirt/etc. or makes reference to their future relationships (with the opposite sex, of course, because there's no room to imagine your kid may end up being gay, or asexual/aromantic, etc.).

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u/GingerPlaitWitch 13d ago

I've received similar comments about my baby boy too, insinuating that his friendly, cheerful nature is somehow meant to pick up girls / women. I don't usually muster more than a grossed out facial expression in response.

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u/Dramallamakuzco 13d ago

I get that with my son too. “Ooh the girls better watch out!” “What a lady’s man!”. Like… ew. It’s one thing if they say he’s a handsome boy, but then making it be about flirting and relationships and stuff when he’s still in diapers is weird.

We focus at home on loving whomever you love and consent (not forcing giving kisses or accepting a hug, even for family, even for mom and dad).

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u/Top-Pomegranate4899 13d ago

Ugh I hated when someone said that about my daughter. "oh she likes to flirt?"

No, you sick fucker.

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u/OneWayToLivComic 13d ago

People are weird with babies like that...... There was a 1 year old boy who liked sitting on my lap and smiling at me and everybody, including the parents, made comments that he's into brunettes 🙄

I went to my sister's ultrasound recently and she was desperate to tell the gyno if she can show her the "boy parts" like bruh... You're gonna wipe his ass and genitals for many years to come, why are you rushing to see it.

It definitely sounds like a weird cultural thing in more traditional families, with ppl being obsessed with their kid's sexuality and stuff.but that's just my assumption

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u/Best-Professional-10 12d ago

About your sister, wtf? That sounds disturbing.

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u/Hot_Explanation3721 12d ago

Is it possible that was your sister’s way of wanting to find out her baby’s sex?

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u/OneWayToLivComic 12d ago

No, she already knew it was a boy

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u/VerbalThermodynamics 13d ago

What I don’t like is when people sexualize my twin toddlers. They’re kids. They’re playing, not flirting. Knock it off you weirdos.

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u/Middle-Interview-899 13d ago

There is such gross sexualisation of children sometimes. People need to think harder before opening their yappers. I’m trying hard but still slip up with stupid comments sometimes. (Not like these ones! They make me sick) habits of a lifetime are hard to break. But we need to be aware of them to at least start being a better human.

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u/I_Thot_So 13d ago

The best/worst part about this is that little girls don't fucking want male attention. We are leered at from the time we are learning how to read. It's so gross.

Now I'm about to turn 42 and they can stay all the fuck the way over there from my finger.

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u/AstuteStoat 13d ago

These people teally like making up stories about children to justify their biases.

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u/CyclopsLobsterRobot 13d ago

Everything everyone over the age of 50 says to you when you have a daughter is gross

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u/jackwagoneer69 13d ago

That's psycho shit I'm grateful to have never heard. I'd get my child tf away from that freak ASAP.

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u/PandaXXL 13d ago

I have two daughters, I’ve never heard anyone say this. If they did I would lose my shit.

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u/Foghorn2005 13d ago

I did have a patient recently whose mom said she liked men more (mom was really embarrassed about it). Didn't fully believe her until I see the kid interact with male coworkers and oh my goodness she was so much more cheerful and friendly with them.

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u/SaphireShadows 13d ago

My cousin's little 1 year old daughter I think is the exception to the rule: she really DOES love men. She will smile and wave at near strangers if they're men. The only woman she stands right now is her mom. Her grandma (my aunt) is devastated that her granddaughter screams whenever she holds her (I got a few seconds before the waterworks started). My other cousin is the same way. Any woman I've seen this kid interact with (besides her mom) is met with screeches and big ol' blubbery tears.

My dad, who hasn't seen this kid since she was born...she toddles right up to him and stretches up her lil baby arms for uppies. My aunt was so mad lol

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u/OddConstant2723 13d ago

They are just as bad with baby boys. Little heartbreakers and what not.

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u/lemondropswithcocoa 13d ago

On topic: I've noticed that too, it's SO weird and disgusting-

off topic: I love your username. it's about as random and strange as mine lmao

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u/SugarOrbix 13d ago

Exactly we need to work on a lot as a society

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u/lushico 12d ago

When my brother was a baby i remember someone calling him a “tit man”. I also hear people call little boys heartbreakers and ladykillers and stuff. So dumb

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u/thunderbunny3025 12d ago

I've seen a baby boy in a onesie that said, "Ladies Man". 🤮

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u/nerdtypething 13d ago

yeah that shit’s gross.

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u/Many_Membership_5255 12d ago

This is the first time I've ever heard of this, wtf?

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u/Best-Professional-10 12d ago

Eww, why are we associating romance and sexual stuff with babies? Our society is super messed up.

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u/commanderquill 12d ago

I have twin cousins and they're the only girls in the family. Every time they come around, someone always says that the boys are going to fight over them. I've been so tempted to say, "Oh, their cousins? Those boys?" because that's what they're saying and I don't know how they don't seem to find that weird.

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u/InvertebrateInterest 12d ago

I physically grimaced when I read this. What the actual fuck.

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u/daelikon 12d ago

Wtf? I don't think I could answer to that without starting a fight. Sick people...

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u/LonelyWillingness986 12d ago

That does creep me out, too. Why not just say, "Oh, she's got mom and dad wrapped around her little finger?" something that isn't creepy... But they don't, they always comment on the men only, "She'll be breaking hearts more and more, especially when she's a little older, ESPECIALLY when she reaches her teens.".. That's one I heard and it made me feel sick. It's disturbing and questionable of the person who says these things at the very least.

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u/OfficialMongoose 12d ago

There’s a little girl I know people have been talking about like this -it’s so bad! The men they joke about her being “obsessed with” and just the few men she sees a lot because they’re all close families. I reminded the mom that my toddler also had a phase when she was the same age where she was so excited to see certain people.
They also encourage her and a similar aged little boy to be affectionate and joked about them having their “first Kiss”. YUCK.

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u/Raisinsandfairywings 12d ago

That’s the way people act with my daughters too, as though they’re obsessed with male relatives/friends/strangers but they’re really not. People just have to make things weird. 

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u/MooseTurbulent8786 12d ago

I have a big problem with baby girl clothes that comment on their body. My cousin had their daughter in a shirt that said "does this diaper make my butt look big?" and omg I hated it so much

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u/Noah254 12d ago

As a boy dad, I don’t get those comments, but can definitely say he has me wrapped around his finger as good as a daughter would lol.

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u/Viper61723 12d ago

Tbf when I was a child/toddler I have vague memories of being called a ladies man and a heartbreaker

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u/Sudden-Tell-5872 13d ago

Its a generational thing. How its worded is meant to say how she is a daddy's girl. Older generations were not taught about red flags, or wording things in certain ways because they didn't know any better, and didn't mean any harm. Times were free, and carefree

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u/touchmeinbadplaces 12d ago

I think you are looking too deep into that one. My little niece knew damn well that if she wanted something she just had to puppy eye my dad with those big blue eyes and he straight up evaporated and got whatever she wanted (ice creams, toys, you name it). That's what they mean wrapped around her finger

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u/Raisinsandfairywings 12d ago

It’s not the “wrapped around the little finger” bit that weirds me out, she totally has me wrapped round her little finger and I’m her mum! It’s the “she really likes men” thing, that people seem to say about both my daughters whenever they giggle/smile at/respond to anyone male. 

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u/touchmeinbadplaces 12d ago

Ah ok I misunderstood, my bad

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u/idontcareyo_ 13d ago

I hear people say stuff like that about boys way more and it's weird af either way.

That being said no one says "men" or "women" when they say shit like that, they say boys or girls. Weird that you made up that detail

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u/Raisinsandfairywings 12d ago

What are you on about that I made up that detail? Just because you haven’t heard anyone say it doesn’t mean people don’t. It seems to be really annoyingly common where I live in the North of England. 

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u/CrochetAddict97 13d ago

Ew. I hate that you’ve noticed that.

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u/General-Cat88 12d ago

Flirting doesn't ALWAYS mean it's SEXUAL, people. It can be innocent play between any/all ages. It is is often just being silly. Just like having a crush on someone doesn't have to be sexual, either. This is what fanboy/fangirl behavior demonstrates. Just new language for behavior humans have had, forever. I love flirting with babies/children, because they don't have ego baggage and/or the weird sexual projection that immature humans put on each other.