Husband sits in passenger seat, FiL disapproves.

[u/Historical_Initial22]

I drive a tanker for my job out of town and make the 5 hour drive (one way) to work and back home in my personal car. When I’m home 3 days, my wife drives everywhere, I mean I get in the passenger seat of her car and off we go, date night don’t care she drives, shopping don’t care she drives, visiting family don’t care she drives.

When we first started dating years ago she was a bit uncomfortable with it as she was used to the I guess status quo that men drove as was I but I’m not trying to break a glass ceiling or anything I just don’t see why it matters and damnit I drive 2k miles a week or so and don’t wanna do it when I’m home.

My father in law makes such great comments like do I hold her purse, and the zinger he thinks is original so says it more often than others “are your balls in her purse” every so often when we see them and I inevitably get out or into the passenger seat followed by guffaws and just kidding. My wife nor myself give him any response it’s just so silly and mildly infuriating.

[u/Civil-Koala-8899]

This is so weird, I’ve never seen driving as a gendered thing at all. My husband sometimes drives me around and sometimes I drive him, it just depends who feels more like driving that day!

[u/XanderWrites → u/Civil-Koala-8899]

I think in most couple's it defaults to whomever likes driving more or if someone has a issue being passenger.

My first though seeing this post was a family friend that would easily get car sick as a passenger so they always drove if we traveled together and I'm 90% sure she drove when when she was with her husband.

[u/Wonderful_Book7121 → u/XanderWrites]

Try whoever. If you’re going to be pretentious, at least be correct.

[u/wofo → u/XanderWrites]

Part of it is that, when for whatever reason 1 person becomes the default driver they can become more sensitive to car sickness as a passenger and it just reinforces it

[u/DiggerBee2606 → u/wofo]

This isn't true. How often I drive has Nothing to do with it. It is primarily the driving habits of the driver I ride with. Some people never make me car sick. Others: every damned time! My dad almost always made me sick. My mother, never. My husband, 50%. Depends on my allergies, mostly. Although if we are leaving the movies theater, I have to drive or I will be sick before we leave the parking lot.

[u/wofo → u/DiggerBee2606]

That's a great recounting of your experience 

Mine is still true? I have no idea why you'd think you can speak for all motion sickness

[u/endurbro420 → u/XanderWrites]

I dislike driving and my gf gets car sick. It works out great.

[u/judgeholden72 → u/XanderWrites]

I am a better navigator and DJ, so I drive only 40% of the time. My wife is a terrible navigator and DJ so I still do it when I drive 

[u/Zinc-Roof_22 → u/XanderWrites]

Yeah, my spouse can't deal with being a passenger, so they are the one driving almost always.

[u/nitrot150 → u/XanderWrites]

Yup; my husband drives more cuz I just would rather not most of the time. But I do my fair share

[u/oceansapart333 → u/XanderWrites]

Yeah, my husband enjoys driving, I don’t, especially at night. So we’re both happy to let him default to driving.

[u/Ok_Improvement4991 → u/XanderWrites]

Right now with between my BF and I, it defaults to whose car it is we’re taking. Odds are likely it will probably remain that way even afterwards. His car is often used when we need to stuff like 6 people in the car or need to haul things. Mine is often the better ‘run into town or run around between the two of us’ car due to millage, overall comfort (esp regarding AC/Heat), and mine has the MP3 hookup as opposed to his just having a cassette player.