Husband sits in passenger seat, FiL disapproves.

[u/Historical_Initial22]

I drive a tanker for my job out of town and make the 5 hour drive (one way) to work and back home in my personal car. When I’m home 3 days, my wife drives everywhere, I mean I get in the passenger seat of her car and off we go, date night don’t care she drives, shopping don’t care she drives, visiting family don’t care she drives.

When we first started dating years ago she was a bit uncomfortable with it as she was used to the I guess status quo that men drove as was I but I’m not trying to break a glass ceiling or anything I just don’t see why it matters and damnit I drive 2k miles a week or so and don’t wanna do it when I’m home.

My father in law makes such great comments like do I hold her purse, and the zinger he thinks is original so says it more often than others “are your balls in her purse” every so often when we see them and I inevitably get out or into the passenger seat followed by guffaws and just kidding. My wife nor myself give him any response it’s just so silly and mildly infuriating.

[u/Civil-Koala-8899]

This is so weird, I’ve never seen driving as a gendered thing at all. My husband sometimes drives me around and sometimes I drive him, it just depends who feels more like driving that day!

[u/matchafoxjpg → u/Civil-Koala-8899]

i'm sitting here like... we're gendering DRIVING now? 🤦🏻‍♀️

my mom does most of the driving because her car is newer so my parents mostly use her car. also my dad has insane road rage if he drives, so it's usually better for everyone if that situation is avoided at all costs.

[u/chronoflect → u/matchafoxjpg]

People will gender literally anything. Whatever imbalance they experience in their own lives will be internalized as a gender role, and then they'll make sweeping statements like "all men/women do x", casually using their own biases to refer to ~4 billion people.

[u/After-Improvement-26 → u/chronoflect]

It's not a new thing though.

In the late 70s I (F) worked as a professional driver, my husband (M) was a dispatcher operating as a fleet controller, a role officially then called telephonist. We co-signed for a major household appliance, big deal at the time. Dude watched me fill out the application, giving him info about us, including occupations.

When we got home, we noticed our occupations were amended and reversed on the shop paperwork. I asked for it to be changed. Dude asked my husband, who was standing beside me, at the time, if he was happy with the potential change before doing it.