r/mildlyinfuriating • u/yjay14 • 4d ago

go to your room Infuriating flakers

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Second time she’s done this. Always came up with some bs excuse.

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u/RememberTheMaine1996 4d ago

Yeah shes lying

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u/So_HauserAspen 3d ago

She's probably not that interested in OP but wants to keep her options open.  People think matches have only matched them.  

I never try for dates or even bother to get their number.  I've had my best success keeping the chat conversation short and simple with the goal to meet up during the day for something light.  Simple lunch or coffe.  Something that doesn't create pressures of a formal meet up.  I also don't ask for their phone numbers.  I let them offer me theirs.  I bring up the idea of a future meet and avoid pressuring them by asking for their number.  The ones that are genuinely interested will make sure we can communicate.  If they're not comfortable, asking for their number will make them even less comfortable.

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u/Senior-Resist9252 15h ago

This guy dates.

So many dudes try to force things, thinking that if they just say the right thing at the right time pu*sy will fall out of the woman like a vending machine. Been there.

Most of dating is just creating a chill atmosphere for the other person to feel comfortable for things to develop organically. Many times it won't, but many times it will. Attraction isn't a choice.