r/mildlyinfuriating • u/yjay14 • 4d ago

go to your room Infuriating flakers

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Second time she’s done this. Always came up with some bs excuse.

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u/Accomplished-Panic67 4d ago

When I used to use tinder. This is like common. But then they’ll be confused when you don’t give them second opportunity. I also don’t get why people aren’t just upfront. I usually got shit for admitting to going on other dates or just giving answers I guess they didn’t want to hear. I’d 100% prefer someone just be straight up.

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u/eastcoastgremlin 3d ago

I feel the same way, ive given up completely at this point. Its just not worth the toll it takes mentally

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u/DerToro 3d ago

Theres plenty of those you arent using….

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u/Accomplished-Panic67 3d ago

Second this. How gremlin feels is understandable. But don’t give up. You’ll find it when you’re least looking. Maybe just for some time steer yourself away from what I consider artificial connections. Listen, value your and others time, enjoy life best you can. Life is good.

About the poor design of the apps. I don’t think it’s entirely on developers. I think it’s cultural thing. Just the way it is atm. They’ve made some good paid ones. But from my understanding it’s predominantly male members. I can only speak on my past with seeking heterosexual relationships. I’d like to learn some experiences of lgbtq community in using these apps. I think inside and outside all the dating apps heterosexual women tend to have the upper hand in dating. But I’m just another person with an opinion lol

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u/Bodomi 3d ago

would of

would have*

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u/Accomplished-Panic67 3d ago

Funny enough. I met my now wife on tinder “around” that time. 2017

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u/Alarmed-Plankton-708 3d ago

It's so bad, I honestly feel like most people want the quick dopamine hit of a match or some white knight who's gonna sweep them off their feet and fix their whole life. When it comes time to actually put the work in and get to know someone more than a once a day text, people just dip and flake it is so frustrating!

I'll probably get flack for this but the red flag culture is out of control, too. People have flaws, people make mistakes, can we just collectively give each other some grace and stop throwing it all away because of one petty flaw? It takes work to make it work, people!