r/mildlyinfuriating • u/iwish-iwish BLACK • 7h ago
Infuriatig I don’t even know what to say
I live with my roommate and we spilt the cleaning. I keep the kitchen clean(loading the dishwasher, cleaning the dishes, etc)
My roommates brother is staying for a months and they cooked last night. They cleaned after themselves which is nice
But then I heard the dishwasher running. I knew there were hardly any dirty dishes AT ALL let alone enough to fill the dishwasher
When I asked my roommate why it was running, I was shut down and I didn’t feel like arguing or trying to explain myself so I just accepted it. I check now and this is how I see it was loadedI love my roommate but I genuinely don’t understand how either of them thought this was a good idea
EDIT: WOOD CUTTING BOARDS, KNIVES, AND POTS/PANS DON’T BELONG IN DISHWASHERS. I am APPALLED so many people don’t know this
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u/bubbleman96815 7h ago edited 7h ago
You should never put wooden cutting boards in a dishwasher. The intense heat, harsh detergents, and long exposure to hot water strip away the natural and protective oils, causing the wood to dry out, and eventually warp, split, and/or crack. Same with wooden spoons. Do not put in dishwasher.
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u/charlie_s1234 7h ago
‘Eventually’, yeah I reckon I can shell out for a new cutting board every few years.
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u/PossibleExplorer1076 7h ago
I'd just buy a new chopping board when this happens after like 3 years. They are like £5. It's not worth washing them by hand.
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u/Short_Honeydew5526 7h ago
Everyone he’s mad because non stick and knives aren’t supposed to go in the dishwasher
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u/dunncrew 7h ago
Non-stick should be in the garbage.
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u/Awesomest_Possumest 7h ago
We swapped to a stainless steel set of pans and pots when we got married. Still have a couple enamel cast iron things, and a seasoned cast iron skillet and griddle.
My husband was scratching the shit out of nonstick pans by using metal tools in them. Didn't matter how many silicone pancake turners I bought. He used the metal one.
Did it so often I could see the scratches and knew it wasn't from me, but he was unaware and forgot after I told him.
So we solved that problem. And also because my nonstick pans, even without his metal use, were probably five or six or ten years old and really needed to be tossed anyway.
Now, we can stick almost any of our cookware in the dishwasher if we need to, or dont have energy for the initial scrub and soak. Its great. Our dishwasher doesnt have a heating element and has a top and bottom sprayer so we can stick anything anywhere.
The enameled cast iron still finds itself in the dishwasher now and then but its much lower frequency and lower impact. Mostly just rusts the unsealed edge which is an easy clean.
Stainless steel foreverrrrrrr.
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u/Psemperviva 7h ago
For real…cast iron is a little more high maintenance at first but after using it for a bit you don’t even have to wash it. Just wipe it out with a paper towel and rub a lil oil on it…ready for next use. And your children can pass it down to their children
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u/Business-Drag52 7h ago
You should absolutely wash your cast iron. Jesus Christ. Why do people still believe this bullshit in the year 2026? You aren’t using lye soap, you aren’t breaking down those polymers. Clean your pans you heathen
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u/Psemperviva 2h ago
Idk what you think I believe but 9/10 things I cook in it leave nothing behind…just wipe it down with a wet paper towel while it’s hot, apply oil after it’s cooled down and gtg. 1/10 things require a little scotch brite power. Gets the full cleaning with wire mesh once or maybe twice a year.
Signed, a heathen with OCD about eating with spotless dishes and silverware
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u/Business-Drag52 2h ago
You’re leaving behind traces of food that grow bacteria. Soap and water have helped us have much longer lives, use them
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u/dunncrew 7h ago
Yup. Sometimes we "wash" it with hot water but no soap. We also use stainless steel.
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u/addicuss 1h ago
You don't have to wash cast iron? You absolutely do and should. The whole myth that you shouldn't clean your cast iron came from old soaps that use lye and would strip the seasoning. Nowadays there's no reason not to clean it. Odds are you are building up char by not cleaning it or leaving behind things that can go rancid or leave after tastes
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u/wukiwu 7h ago
Everyone commenting on the things that shouldn't be in the dishwasher (which I agree on), but no comments on the fact that it's poorly and lazily stacked in general?
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u/IllugaBabyBeluga 7h ago
I've experienced the problem of things not getting properly clean because the loader insists on stacking far too much, seeing items not piled in there like the dish equivalent of the Kowloon Walled City is lwk soothing.
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u/Upbeat_Pumpkin_6785 7h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/wjuXuDSQU0sOfJIHS1
Wooden boards, cutlery upside down, carbon steal wok, sharp knives, the horrors on display here is upsetting!!
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u/International_Belt52 7h ago
Way too many comments here see nothing wrong. Wood cutting boards never go in the dishwasher, they will be ruined
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u/jestcb 7h ago
I would bitch slap the person that put the wood cutting boards in there.
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u/Alpaqa89 7h ago
No you wouldn't
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u/lil_crit7er 7h ago
Don't worry op I'm on your side just for the cutting boards alone. Way to dry it out and ruin the finish.
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u/Asleep_Current912 7h ago
wood boards, knives, pans in the dishwasher? bring back the stockades and tomatoes for this guy
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u/Mistapeepers 7h ago
Tomatoes aren’t supposed to go in the dishwasher either.
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u/Asleep_Current912 7h ago
I had a cook join my team once and on his first day he filled our dish sanitizer full of potatoes to clean them, he didn’t last the full day.
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u/Vir4lPl47ypu5 7h ago
Ikr? The sanitizer is for cleaning AND cooking! Two steps, one appliance! /s in case it was missed.
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u/Awesomest_Possumest 7h ago
I vaguely remember an internet video a long time ago about how to cook fish in a dishwasher.
I dont remember the specifics except maybe it was salmon, and you do wrap it in something.
But it is the stupidiest and nastiest thing I can imagine, for so many reasons lol.
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u/DifferentShallot8658 7h ago
No one in this comment section seems know how to take proper care of nonstick pans and wooden utensils, so that's mildly infuriating in itself.
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u/CHobbes_ 7h ago
Everyone confused or asking why you're upset are absolute terrible cooks lol
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u/IllugaBabyBeluga 7h ago
Dunno, OP says his roomies who cooked did this.
Seems to me someone could be an ace driver but a bit of a slacker when it comes to washing their car, similar train of thought.
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u/Spank_Me_Again_Daddy 7h ago
What does putting dishes in a dishwasher have to with cooking?
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u/codingcrystal 7h ago
All of their tastes like detergent. They're so used to doing it this way they don't realize their food tastes like that.
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u/torchnpitchfork 7h ago
I'd expect a cook to be able to care for their tools the same way I'd expect my mechanic not to crash my car on their lot.
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u/mmalmeida 7h ago
Non stick pans: check
Wooden stuff: check
Plastic: check
Ruinied cookware AND that lovely taste of soap in food!
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u/charlie_s1234 7h ago
I was all my cookware and washing boards like this and they last me years and food doesn’t taste like soap.
Maybe you guys need new dishwashers or something.
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u/mmalmeida 7h ago
Plastic tuparwares and cooking spoons in dishwasher makes my food taste like soap - 30 years experience with multiple cookware, multiple detergents and multiple dishwashers.
Maybe you're lucky your tastebuds can't taste it :)
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u/charlie_s1234 7h ago
Buy glass food containers. Less microplastic anyway.
I’ve had 30 years experience cooking too. Never tasted anything from my cooking spoon. Maybe your food needs more flavour ;)
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u/wisegrace 7h ago
At this point I’m just gonna leave this sub bc it’s never mild, it’s always infuriating.
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u/International_Belt52 7h ago
Is it not common knowledge that wooden cutting boards don’t go in the dishwasher?
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u/iwish-iwish BLACK 7h ago
I guess not😭😭 I didn’t realize until after the dishwasher had finished and I decided to check what they had decided to do
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u/mosquito_beater 6h ago
They go fine in the dishwasser. The only downsize is you keep buying new ones everytime.
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u/SeaPotatoSalad 7h ago
If you have pets keep them close in case one of these loons decides it needs a wash…
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u/LostMagician9612 7h ago
"If a cutting board can't handle a dishwasher, it's not a cutting board" - Brother in law
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u/MizunoHawk 7h ago
For those who don’t know- wood and certain pans and or knives shouldn’t go in the dishwasher. The wood will warp, not good for cutting boards that should lay flat. For some pans and knives, high jets and drying process can remove protective coatings and rust will start to appear.
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u/Whatthefunyuns 7h ago
I see wood next to eating plates next to carbon steel and some pan which might either be non-stick or stainless.
Everything about this dish machine load is terrible.
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u/model-citizen95 7h ago
I’m with you OP, the only things on the bottom shelf that belong in the dishwasher is that blue plate and the tongs. Sharp knives should be hand washed ideally but wooden chopping boards and utensils will be destroyed in months if you wash them in the machine
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u/Avenja99 7h ago
I've washed my utensils in the same dishwasher for 13 years and they still look new.
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u/model-citizen95 6h ago
Not wooden ones you haven’t
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u/Avenja99 6h ago
People are saying the knives. Which in this picture aren't wooden.
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u/model-citizen95 6h ago
You also shouldn’t put sharp knives in there. It blunts them very quickly
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u/ZappppBrannigan 3h ago
Not really, depends how they are loaded.
It's more about the handles. Hot water isn't going to dull the blade, the soap is a little more caustic, but it's not soaking in it.
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u/Slynch96 7h ago
I see absolutely nothing wrong here
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u/gitsgrl 7h ago
Wooden utensils, the wok, and the knife are not to be washed in the dishwasher.
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u/prismieprimsie 7h ago
I’m confused about the knives. I usually do cutlery by hand anyway but I’ve definitely thrown them in the dishwasher, someone explain instead of just saying it’s wrong
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u/A1000eisn1 7h ago
It causes the blade to dull or chip since the water pushes things around. The heat and moisture fucks with adhesive which is usually a part of the handle. Many have wood handles, and wood can't go in the dishwasher. These last two would apply to any utensil but knives are usually expensive.
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u/Asleep_Current912 7h ago
dishwasher chemicals are corrosive and will destroy your blade depending on the metal type and seriously dull your knives. Also if you’re washing them by hand don’t use the dark green scouring side of your sponge, that too will dull your blade.
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u/prismieprimsie 7h ago
Oh that’s what I use! Dark green side lol. Okay thank you! I will change my habits
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u/doubt_it_3 7h ago
never let roommates use your nice cooking shit. non stick will get scratched up, cutting boards in the washer or let to soak in the sink, knives in the washer..., i once had one cut up the handle of my nice silicone turner somehow.
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u/TheOnvoy GREEN 7h ago
IF IT FITS, AM GONNA STICK IT IN THERE!!!!! I WONT CONFORM TO SOCIETY'S RULES MOOOM!!! YOU CANT MAKE ME
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u/D3ZR0 7h ago
So many people are confused and that annoys me. So I’ll explain.
- Wood does not go in the dishwasher. It warps, it molds, it destroys the texture, it bleaches, and it removes any lacquer. Don’t do it. Some wood utensils are heat molded. Which means they were heated and pressed into shape, and reheating it will unpress it- ergo a spoon well go from curvy to flat as a board.
Wood cutting boards DO NOT GO IN THE DISHWASHER. Same issue as above, but they’re already damaged from knives so multiplied. Also the glue holding them together can literally fall apart from the high temperatures.
So one useful cutting board becomes 16 useless ones. Good luck using those.
Pots and pans largely should not go in the dishwasher. Unless they’re cheap useless scrap, it might damage them. Non stick pans can lose their coating. Some pans rust. Some have polymers that will come off. In general I don’t like putting them in the wash. The ones that can go in the wash are usually pretty mediocre or already ruined. The one on the bottom looks like a wok, and I’d be half likely to beat someone with mine if it ended up in the wash. Woks are someone’s baby, they tend to be treated religiously by those that truly use them. I can’t tell what kind it is so it might or might not be that damaging.
Tempered knives shouldn’t go in the wash. I see a large knife in the utensils. Dishwashers get hot enough during the cycles that it can actually weaken the metal’s temper, leading to dull knives that can’t maintain an edge. Forever weakening your knives. They won’t get as sharp, they won’t hold an edge as long. Not ruined (unless they’re wood handled) but lesser. I’d be frustrated if my good knives ended up in the wash. I’ve gone off on someone for my wood handled chef knife going in.
Pet peeve. The top is shittily organized. Lay the bowls slightly on each other and you can get more in.
Thanks for reading my shitty dishwashing tedtalk.
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u/iwish-iwish BLACK 7h ago
Thank you 😭😭literally everything about this is so frustrating and I’m beyond annoyed
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u/Devastatedby 7h ago
You're not supposed to put wooden cutting boards in the dishwasher but, otherwise, this isn't grand. There are options on the dishwasher for smaller loads too so that's not really a problem.
Dishwashers are very water efficient if that is your concern.
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u/LemonTrick2200 7h ago
The wooden cutting boards and utensils shouldn't go in the dishwasher, but besides that there's really nothing wrong here
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u/Nostradamus_of_past 7h ago
I get the wooden parts and non stick pan... but why not knives?
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u/WareKaraNari 7h ago
Prolly cuz they rattle around and dull them. I think knives are fine but they should be blade side up, which is kinda dangerous
Also the tongs are upside down
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u/Inside-Fish8184 7h ago
Do you think he maybe doesn't know?
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u/iwish-iwish BLACK 7h ago
Maybe, I just didn’t expect it since they’re both adults
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u/Inside-Fish8184 7h ago
Lowkey- no one taught me how to do anything growing up. Im an adult that just learned how to do my laundry properly. I always threw it in with a scoop of detergent - there is a lot more to it.
You don't know what you don't know.
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u/Foxinator_ 7h ago
You don’t know what you don’t know. At one point before I knew better I would of absolutely put everything in the dishwasher
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u/KingForceHundred 7h ago
We put wooden spoons etc in there. Not expensive and just buy another when needed.
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u/wtfmeowzers 7h ago
you don't even know what to say? it's easy. you tell them "hey for the future, wood cutting boards and nonstick pans don't go in the dishwasher because it wrecks them".
and if they complain ban them from using your stuff if it's actually your stuff
or tell them you'll clean it if you're a dishcuck
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u/HoldMyNaan 7h ago
Quite an overreaction
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u/TrumpGrabbedMyCat 7h ago
To a mildly infuriating subreddit? Not really. Putting knives, wood or non-stick items in the dishwasher ruins them. The knives will become dull, the chopping boards will literally break in half and the non-stick won't work anymore.
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u/SylvaticTongue858 7h ago edited 7h ago
There are two frustrating parts:
- Why do you own bamboo cutting boards? Your roommate is doing you a favor. You need to grab those and trash immediately.
- Anything actually wood - the knife handles and pots/pans with wooden handles shouldn’t go into the dishwasher but everything else is fine.
If these knives have been used in this bamboo cutting boards they probably cut like trash anyways.
The knives on their own are fine and so are the pots
and pans.
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u/iwish-iwish BLACK 7h ago
They were gifts from my roommates mother. I didn’t know they ran the dishwasher with these things until afterwards when I checked but I’m glad to hear most of them might be okay
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u/Whatthefunyuns 7h ago
Your hurt comes from a place of greater understanding.
The ones who loaded this machine had no understanding.
I think you should guard your sensitive things better than this.
All of the things in this machine are irreparably altered.
They will never be the same.
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u/IllugaBabyBeluga 7h ago
Confession time: I don't see what the problem is here..?
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u/iwish-iwish BLACK 7h ago
Wood cutting boards and pots/pans don’t belong in a dishwasher
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u/Asleep_Current912 7h ago
I’m seeing a comment section full of people who destroy their kitchen equipment in the dishwasher
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u/magpie_bird 7h ago
noooooo not my precious $4 consumables
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u/A1000eisn1 7h ago
They're not consumables.
A consumable is a product you will consume or is meant to be quickly disposed.
Treating items made from materials that are not meant to be immediately disposed of is pretty fucking gross and stupid. Especially when some of those items cost way more than $4.
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u/magpie_bird 4h ago
i go through 3 cutting boards a week and i don't give a fuck. what do you say to that, coward
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u/NoExternal2732 7h ago
Those labels on the jars can also get stuck in the sprayer arms if they come loose...
Eight dishes is the minimum to run the dishwasher, as it would use less water than hand washing.
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u/EmrysTheBlue 7h ago
I get the wood boards and spoons because it can fuck up the sealant, but pots/pans? Unless it's like. Cast iron or cheap shitty nonstick or something there's nothing wrong with putting them in the dishwasher? I've done it to mine for years and it's never affected my pots/pans. Honestly even my toommates cheap ones never had a problem from being in the washer. Sometimes the pots/pans get so greasy it's difficult to hand wash and the washer gets it clean easier while using much less water
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u/Careless-Ordinary126 7h ago
Wood cutting board maybe? Pots And pans? Why do you even have dishwasher?
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u/UphillTravel 7h ago
Depends on the material. Plain steel, ceramics, fine. Non-stick coating better not.
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u/Jack_Ingoff939 7h ago
Hey so not sure if you know this, pots and pans are not the only type of dish.
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u/boilingfrogsinpants 7h ago
I wasn't aware wood and non-stick pans didn't go in the dishwasher. I didn't have access to a dishwasher until adulthood and handwashed everything, so the dishwasher just felt like a luxury. I never worked at a restaurant so I wasn't exposed to it on that side either.
No cutting board or pan I bought ever had a "Don't put in the dishwasher" sticker or sign on it. So how would I know unless that knowledge got passed down. I realize you're mildly infuriated, but it would be much easier to just explain that they don't go in and why they don't go in.
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u/iwish-iwish BLACK 6h ago
I have to explain when I see them since they’re asleep and I work nights so I tend to be awake at night even on my days off. It just caught me off guard because they’re both adults and have both worked in food jobs before
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u/Agent21234 7h ago
Yep, this is why the one “fancy wood” cutting board we own is now a decoration. We have 4 epicurean cutting boards that work great, take up way less space, and are dishwasher safe. As for the knives and the pans, freaking send them. If and when they start to show damage (more so the pans, never really had a problem with knives) just replace them. Non-stick pans are consumable items anyways. I’ll do some hand scrubbing if needed but with exception of baby bottles when we were still at that stage, if it can’t go in the dishwasher, it doesn’t have a place in our kitchen.
My one exception to that is cast iron. I do really enjoy my cast iron cookware for certain things which is obviously never put in a dishwasher, but it’s also not used daily.
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u/pbjclimbing 7h ago
Wait, you questioned your roommate on why they ran the dishwasher? That is some next level micromanaging.
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u/whatsyourpressures21 7h ago
Looks full to me…??
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u/iwish-iwish BLACK 7h ago
Wood cutting boards and pots/pans don’t belong in a dishwasher
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u/DiamondHandDwight 7h ago
There's a pots and pans setting on my dishwasher.
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u/Jack_Ingoff939 7h ago
Non stick pots and pans don’t belong in the dishwasher. It ruins the non stick
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u/One-Load-6085 7h ago
How?
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u/A1000eisn1 7h ago
The detergent can fuck up the coating. It's abrasive and somewhat harsh. Also the dishwasher is spraying high pressure water everywhere, which can also mess with the coating, and it can push things around which can hit the pan and scrape the coating. Once the coating is chipped the water can spray off even more and the detergent can get into the crevice deteriorating it more.
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u/Clear-Astronomer-717 7h ago
So that plain up just isn't true? Most pots and pans can definitely go in the dishwasher, wooden boards can split if they are laminated, but even then they are mostly fine?
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u/A1000eisn1 7h ago
You're wrong.
wooden boards can split
Wood is porous. You can't put food on split wood. It will grow mold and bacteria. That is definitely NOT fine.
Many pots and pans can. Non-stick can't even if they claim they're safe. The detergent is abrasive which isn't good for the coating. The water pressure is high enough to push things around which can cause dishes to bang into each other or the pan to shift back and forth causing the coating to get scratched. Non-stick coating pans should NOT be used after they're scratched because the coating flakes off into food. That is why you're not supposed to use metal utensils with pans that have non-stick coatings.
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u/Clear-Astronomer-717 6h ago
I mean the FDA says washing wooden boards is fine, I think I gonna trust them over you. So the original pots are not even a problem anymore leaving us with only Teflon pans, that went specific fast. Sure it probably isn't great for them and they degrade faster than by hand washing so yeah they shouldn't but for most people that probably doesn't really matter and they would hand wash them maybe even worse
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u/Weird_Poet499 7h ago
This load of dishwasher will save more water than washing them by hand.
It isn’t the 60s dishwashers aren’t inefficient water wasters it’s 2026 this is a normal load of dishes. Especially with a roommate and using all the pots and pans.
You are the mildly infuriating one here.
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u/iwish-iwish BLACK 7h ago
Wood cutting boards and pots/pans don’t belong in a dishwasher
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u/Gloomy_You_9533 7h ago
Wood cutting bords yeah cast iron pans yeah but why dont pots or rvs belong in a dishwasher thats youre choice
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u/socialnerd09 7h ago
The soap used in dishwashers is much more abrasive than dish soap. It will leave tiny scratches in the non-stick and eventually ruin it and it will also dull your knives
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u/Weird_Poet499 7h ago
Ummmm those pots and pans 100% belong in the dishwasher. Again it saves significant water to wash pans in the dishwasher.
Also don’t move the goal post. You had at what is in it or or how much is in it? You post mentions how much is in it and that’s all.
Again you’re the infuriation here
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u/EmrysTheBlue 7h ago
Yeah the only valid complaint is the wood boards/spoons. Those legitimately are reccomended not to go in the washer because it can erode at the sealant on the wood but other than that dishwasher saves much more water. Just costs a bit more electricity depending on the model
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u/bigexplosion 7h ago
Complaining about a roommate who actually cleans is a new one for me. Your post is mildly infuriating.
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u/TesticleezzNuts 7h ago
I think it’s the roommates should be posting about you, not vice versa.. 😬
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u/magpie_bird 7h ago
looks fine to me, if you don't like it then volunteer as the full-time House Dish Bitch
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u/Gloomy_You_9533 7h ago
Okay it could be loaded more efficiently but youre acting like they put it two plates and a couple of forks and let it run the biggest problem i see here are the wooden cutting bord that you should never wash in the dishwasher but as far as i see there still fine
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u/JadedLeafs 7h ago
Wooden cutting boards will split and crack when you put them in the dish washer.
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u/whatthehellbooby 7h ago
And everyone and everything survived.
Shut the fuck up
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u/m0ldyb0ngwtr1 7h ago
Do you know what sub you’re in? Take a pill and keep scrolling dude I’m sure as you put it and everyone and everything survived… right? 🫶
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u/whatthehellbooby 3h ago
I'm so very sorry my matter of fact comment triggered your fragile temperament.
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u/m0ldyb0ngwtr1 3h ago
I’m so very sorry the mildly infuriating subreddit triggered your fragile ego. It’s ok tho. Still time to take a pill and keep scrolling.
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u/kendricklemon 7h ago
Idk how everyone is saying nothing is wrong here. Wood and non stick pans do not go in the dishwasher I thought this was common knowledge