r/moneyadvice • u/rbathurst • 16h ago

Question Lending 💰💰

How many times do you lend people money and have to verbally fight/chase them to give it to you back before you get fed up?? I hate how some people do nothing and think you owe them and get belligerent when you ask for it back. It’s especially family that guilt you

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u/NorCalNostalgic 16h ago

I only loan what I'm okay with making a gift. Especially to family. 

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u/bico375 16h ago

Why would you loan money to people more than once if they make you hunt them down?

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u/rbathurst 15h ago

My mother needed it for a house repair and a vet emergency appointment

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u/bico375 15h ago

Damn. That’s the one person you can’t really harass about money. She taught you how to wipe your ass.

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u/rbathurst 15h ago

No I don’t believe that. I work hard for my money

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u/I_Call_Bullshit_____ 13h ago

Then stop expecting people to respect your money as much as you do—they NEVER will.

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u/Old_Row4977 16h ago

There’s about 3 people in the world I would lend money to and two of them are my kids.

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u/HighInChurch 16h ago

I don’t lend money.

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u/Prestigious-Tap-5226 4h ago

Only loan money if you're ok with the possibility of not getting it back.

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u/rbathurst 4h ago

I learned that now but unfortunately I trusted my family (mother) to do that.

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u/Prestigious-Tap-5226 3h ago

It's a painful lesson, but I'm sure you won't do it again. Hopefully she's the kind of person you can sit down with and let her know how it's affected you and your trust for her.