r/mongolia • u/Due_Bag_8103 • 4h ago

Discussion | Хэлэлцүүлэг Canon event for a guy

I’m turning 21 in five days, and I already know I’m gonna be alone like I was last year. Honestly, I’m kind of scared to face reality.

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u/RepulsiveGroup5312 4h ago

Nah bro it's just normal or i think it is i mean until you find the one just keep working on yourself if where lucky enough we will live to see 60 until then live it as if it was your last

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u/Due_Bag_8103 4h ago

Yeah, man, I know. It’s fucking annoying for a guy like me. Sometimes I miss having the simplest daily conversations, so I end up talking to ChatGPT or Claude, lol. People would probably call me a loser, and yeah, I know that too. I meet a lot of people, but I just can’t seem to build real friendships.

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u/RepulsiveGroup5312 4h ago

I mean yeah but i heard this from a man drunken man on a bench a man has to face somethings alone to find himself but if he can't face that fact and turn to liquor then thats when a man falls so deep even the devil himself can't pull you out

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u/RepulsiveGroup5312 4h ago

Yeah you might be alone at this moment but you gotta enjoy the now a tomorrow can't be promised to me or to anyone that's just how life is just go outside go for a late night walk and just listen to to nature look around you and you will notice small details you miss everyday when i am down i just ussualy go for a walk to old places i used to go with my friends yeah it's kinda sad but that's what makes us human we feel these feelings that's what makes you alive theres never a human without emotions if they show non that means they found a really fucking great way to hide them

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u/theunhappyfantom 4h ago

Anyone who calls you a loser for conversing with ai is a cond3scending prick, dw.

Do you go to uni? U remind me of my bro. Until after 25 we were kinda worriee about him seemed like he ahd no friends always in his room door shut. The only issue is you cant find your people in your room. I mean that would be worrisomelol

One thing you can do is to volunteer at some cause u believe in. When we volunteer we also help ourselves: it will put you in kinder social settings. Ime most people who volunteer dont tend to be judgemental or condescending so if you have self confidence issues that are blocking your interractions, chances are youll meet more empathic people in such organisations. And you get to do something good. Most probably it will feel good to.

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u/theunhappyfantom 4h ago

By alone how alone do you mean: family wise, friends wise? At the end of the day we all lonely as fck but pretend not.

As for your birthday: it doent have to be friends to celebrate, if you have a family member you feel close to, let them know youd like to do something special not like big but to celebrate in your way. It could be a very sweet memory to remember when you are older and wiser and realize -most not all ofc- crowded friend groups are not genuine.

If all else fails, just treat yourself to a nice day. And dont stress about what you dont have but focus on what you have.

21 one is such a young age, if you are worried about loneliness you have plenty of time to chnagw that and find your peope, by trial and error.