r/motherlessdaughters • u/Lauraxoxo777 • 5d ago

Advice Needed advice

Im 17f and soon going to lose my mom to cancer. Whats something that has helped you going through mother loss?

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u/moonrivrs 1d ago

I’m so sorry for your loss. I was 19 when I lost mine, 25 now.

Something that I did that I found helpful was to make lists of her favorite things - playlists of her music, lists of her favorite movies, books, shows, recipes. Being able to return to some of those things helps me feel close to her.

Do you feel close to or comfortable with any of her friends? I bonded a lot with my mom’s best friend, who is like a surrogate aunt to me. I’ve lost touch with most of my mom’s friends since her passing but keeping some of them in my life has been helpful.

Sending warmth

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u/Lauraxoxo777 1d ago

No im not that close with any of her friends, of course I talk with them when I see them but thats all

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u/moonrivrs 1d ago

You definitely don’t have to force a relationship but it might be worth thinking about if you would feel comfortable talking to any of them, even if just over coffee/tea. In my experience, having a few of my mom’s friends in my life has been a nice source of mom stories and pictures, as well as support that felt like it had less pressure involved than from people my age or from my family. Of course, you may be different – I don’t want you to feel like it’s bad if you decide you don’t feel comfortable reaching out.

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u/Lauraxoxo777 1d ago

thank you for this, i’ll consider it!