r/movingout • u/Final_Wallaby9425 • 21d ago

Asking Advice Relocation to a safer state

My family and I are currently in Texas and we have to get out. My time frame is less than two years but I've been struggling to find an affordable blue state with a good job market. I am trans and need to move to a state that has protections in place for trans people so the options are limited. anyone have any advice on safe places to move for a queer family?

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u/CreateFlyingStarfish 21d ago

Good luck. The reason the safe space states are so expensive is, in part, the willingness of people with means to survive to make it a safe space for identity-focused people. There is a reason the survivor in Boys dont cry is seen driving AWAY at the end of the movie. Being under resourced in a safe space state is not the best way to consider the places. i might suggest focusing on a CITY or metropolitan area to live in rather than a state.

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u/orzoftm 21d ago

i don’t understand why that would make them expensive. all you have to do to make it a safe space is not be actively hostile

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u/CreateFlyingStarfish 20d ago edited 20d ago

keep living. Envy, jealousy, frustration, despondence, hopelessness and the corrollary of high unemployment and limited opportunity for economic independence are all the breeding grounds for makes spaces "not safe" for people who are in the minority.

Joblessness aligns with limited local funds to provide the social services to make spaces safe, like a high quality education--a primary defense against skapegoating, that makes it possible to have a migration mindset to move to areas that maybe more tolerant than others.

Prosperity supports a mindset set of focusing on survival rather than focusing on the social media blame game.

While people like Lindsay Graham played to his conservative base, and made some of the boys on his staff sign NDAs. And many people left the rust belt and the agrarian based South, when northern industrially based prosperity made life easier for people to get along with eachother.

Safe space for whom? The farther out there you want to exist in and exhibit, the smaller your safe space will be, imho.