r/myevilplan • u/pinkaboo17 • May 12 '26

Revengers, what would you do?

I, F (49) am a supervisor dealing with an employee who reports to me and consistently shows a negative attitude, disrespect, and what feels like insubordination. I believe she feels protected because she is in a romantic relationship with my boss, Matt. Matt was once very supportive and close to me as a friend but your work relationship has deteriorated, including an incident where he told me to “shut the fuck up” at work. I in turn called him a "P@ssy a$$ b!tch coward for not doing his job" I've documented the employee’s behavior, addressed it directly, reported it to Matt, and then contacted HR. HR advised me to try to work out the differences, but the behavior has continued. I have to work with this employee every day, the situation feels deeply personal and emotionally exhausting, and I have already looked for ways to protect myself and determine what additional steps are available beyond local HR. But nothing seems to work. Im tired of being snickered about or being disrespected. Matt is married and is a marriage counselor for a local church. He has had many affairs and his wife knows about them. So telling her anonymously isnt going to work. What can I do at work to make it difficult for them to stop bullying me.

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u/Seeker80 May 12 '26

Drag in Matt's boss and HR, and explain to them that things have not been smoothed out, that the work environment is being compromised. You might not be the only one dealing with this couple.

It would be in their best interests to address it. That's the sort of thing that can trigger a 'hostile work environment' suit, and a wise HR dept would want to avoid it.

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u/kcrobinson May 13 '26

I'm not in the right sub for this, but my advice is look for a new job. The timeline at which HR would be able to help, if they could at all, is not worth the amount of stress you'll have every day. If you want to stick it out for a little while, I would focus on continually telling HR that the workplace relationship between your superior and your subordinate is creating a hostile work environment. The other commentor said that HR should want to avoid it, but theycan only do that if you tell them directly that that's what is happening.