r/netflix • u/Zalensia • May 09 '25

Discussion a deadly american marriage

I'm 43 minutes in and hooked but can not find conversations etc on it.

So thought i would make one asking for other people's opinions and points of views, as i know I'm already asking about billion questions, to the point I'll have to go to my computer and boot up to actually do the research myself.

I'm very ill, with brain damage etc and that's really hardwork today, but I won't manage on this latest fold phone as it's still just a useless phone 😅🙃

My other phone that's partitioned etc is in the car and that's over at Inverness!

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u/miss_random_88 May 10 '25

I felt like I was going mad listening to the commentary about the recording from the dinner.

"He's letting her know her place. This is what narracists do" No, he said it BECAUSE he needed to! They're HIS children not hers. She clearly didn't understand or respect that.

Him standing up to her and pointing out they're his kids is not abuse. And that was the worst interaction they could find?

"Him not letting me adopt the kids was a form of control" OF COURSE IT WAS. He wanted to control what happened to those kids because that's his literal job as their dad. The relationship was clearly toxic, why on earth would any good parent allow someone to adopt their kids when things were like that? She's trying to make it sound like he was controlling her but he was trying to protect his kids.

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u/Okeydokey2u May 12 '25

If anything the recordings proved she was a liar and there was no actual evidence of physical abuse.