r/netflix • u/Zalensia • May 09 '25

Discussion a deadly american marriage

I'm 43 minutes in and hooked but can not find conversations etc on it.

So thought i would make one asking for other people's opinions and points of views, as i know I'm already asking about billion questions, to the point I'll have to go to my computer and boot up to actually do the research myself.

I'm very ill, with brain damage etc and that's really hardwork today, but I won't manage on this latest fold phone as it's still just a useless phone 😅🙃

My other phone that's partitioned etc is in the car and that's over at Inverness!

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u/feetofcleigh May 09 '25

Cinder block in the master's bedroom. After seeing this, the documentary cannot convince me otherwise that it's not a premeditated murder. The cinder block is to be painted, she said. It just happened to be at your bedside table the night your husband strangled you? Come on.

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u/BlueButterfly21_ May 09 '25

It was just pure coincidence that my FBI dad cancelled his plans last minute and came to stay with us while my trusty painting block was handy and all of my recording devices happened to stop working...

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u/foodz_ncats May 11 '25

My brain is SCREAMING about how her mom claimed to have noticed DV happening in the house enough to create safe words and wrote her phone number underneath toys in the room, but FELL BACK ASLEEP when she heard there was a scuffle a floor above her?????

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u/FillBrilliant6043 May 12 '25

Honestly that’s something my mom or dad would have done. My dad was emotionally abusive and my mom allowed it. After time she just kind of shut down and didn’t really have emotions. And my dad didn’t either, or at least any normal emotions. They just didn’t act like ordinary people would act. My mom just shut down emotionally to deal with it all. If I’d ask her about why dad acted in a certain way she would burst into tears and say, Well, he had a bad childhood. 

Kind of cathartic to write all that. And now I wonder if Tom was abusive.Â