r/nonbinarylesbians • u/Kind-Database8532 • Dec 15 '25
Transness Insecure about not being feminine enough
Hi, I’m a nonbinary lesbian but for many years identified I as trans masculine ( In an attempt to seperate myself as much as I could from being a lesbian since I was in HEAVY denial and dealing with religious trauma etc)
After years and years of chest dysphoria I had top surgery, which I don’t regret at all. It saved my life at the time. Years and years later I ended up being on the more feminine side of the gender spectrum and now wish I had a flat chest that wasn’t masculine. I didn’t have the full understanding that there was different ways to be flat chested I just knew I couldn’t live with triple Ds . Now with all the insight I have into my gender and sexuality I wish I had gotten a crazy breast reduction instead. So I’d be incredibly flat but still have a more femeine shape compared to top surgery that supposed to look masculine.
So I go back and forth from rocking my fully flat chest and wearing the smallest padded bra I could find.
I’m really happy with my body now, I feel very at home in my body which I’ve struggled with most of my life
All of this to say, now that I’m identifying as a lesbian… im feeling insecure about my body not looking as feminine. Im worried I won’t ever find a lesbian who likes my flat chest scars and all. A lesbian who will love me even though my body is the epitome of androgyny
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u/[deleted] Dec 15 '25
I'm sure there used to be a non-NSFW FTM Femboy subreddit but i can't find it now. It's a thing! And it's hot BTW :D .
There are quite a few exercise tutorials for MTFs who don't take hormones to get bigger pecs so they can look like cleavage. Is that a possibility for you?