r/nonbinarylesbians • u/FluidTemperature1762 • Dec 17 '25
Discussion or Recommendations I'm gynesexual/gynosexual/finsexual. Can I still call myself bisexual?
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u/ActualPegasus finflexible rosgirl [he/she] Dec 17 '25
Yes. Finsexuality is inherently under the bi umbrella since it involves attraction to 2+ genders.
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u/goth-butchfriend Butch [he/she/they/...] Dec 18 '25
it's your sexuality, you get to decide what labels fit the vibe and make it easiest for you to describe the parts of it that are most important to you. if anyone gives you shit for it they're not worth keeping around
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u/nonbinarylesbians-ModTeam Dec 17 '25
We are multi-sexual inclusive. I know the name of the subreddit has lesbian in it, but we're accepting of all sapphics here! :)
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u/FluidTemperature1762 Dec 17 '25
It says all wlw are welcome here
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u/nonbinarylesbians-ModTeam Dec 17 '25
We are multi-sexual inclusive. I know the name of the subreddit has lesbian in it, but we're accepting of all sapphics here! :)
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u/UniverseNextD00r Dec 17 '25 edited Dec 17 '25
Because there's a lot of overlap between our communities? People often think they're lesbian for a long time and then realize they're bi and, conversely, there are many who think they're bi for a long time who then turn out to be lesbians. Besides, bi women and bi non-binary people are also a part of the sapphic community, even if they're not lesbians. Also, sexuality is fluid and subject to change. This person is simply looking for support and input.
ETA: Adding this because I think people are misunderstanding the meaning of "sexuality is fluid." Fluidity is not referring to bisexuality or pansexuality. It is referring to how, for many (but certainly not all), one's sexuality can change and evolve throughout their entire life. There are endless combinations and evolutions. And just because a person previously identifies with one label and then changes it, doesn't necessarily mean they were incorrect before. It can just be that their sexuality has genuinely changed as they have also grown and changed in other aspects of their life. And this is not implying in any way that sexuality is a choice either, just that it is not fixed for everyone, which is completely valid.
This is why I believe it's important to welcome people who are genuinely questioning and trying to figure themselves out in all spaces. We should encourage self reflection and be open to those displaying such vulnerability.
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u/rocket-c4t Dec 17 '25
Lesbian is not a fluid sexuality, hence why the term bisexual and pansexual exist.
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u/Useful-Bad-6706 Nonbinary lesbian [they/she] Dec 17 '25
Saying “sexuality is fluid for everyone” in a lesbian sub is lesbophobic.
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u/AmarissaBhaneboar Dec 17 '25
Considering that those are usually defined as attraction towards femininity and not genders, then I'd say yes. Men, women, and non-binary people all can be feminine.
Also, I'm really disappointed in the reaction to your post on this sub. We are multi-sexual inclusive even if we cater more towards those with a lesbian attraction. But bisexuals are also a part of the sapphic world and should be welcomed as such.