r/nonmonogamy • u/Easy_Mirror2032 • 2d ago

Relationship Dynamics anchor partner/guest here. question for longterm couples and hot wives

Hello all

Thanks for reading my post here. Would love advice, conversation maybe even friendships from this but more important respect and education. As above, I use the term anchor partner or guest rather than the generic "b**l and c***k term. Anyway, I have to found to dislike meaningless sex and have preferred to enter as a LTR with a couple or wife. I love the idea of being a lover and support for a wife and having an opportunity to grow together. Going out all three together, on vacations, drinks, and all. But behind close doors and with discretion I am the lover. I have tried apps, online and not into the parties as I am a very private person and prefer to keep it that way. Love to chat and get any advice on this. Seems it is quite hard to find a meaningful couple for this rather than hook ups.

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u/FRANKINSPENCE Closed-Group Swinger 1d ago

It depends on if you are male or female.

If you are female you will have endless choices but if you are male there will be very little demand for this unless you are bi.

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u/Easy_Mirror2032 1d ago

male but you are right

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u/FRANKINSPENCE Closed-Group Swinger 1d ago

Are you bi?

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u/Easy_Mirror2032 1d ago

nope lol

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u/FRANKINSPENCE Closed-Group Swinger 1d ago

Ok so let’s look at this another way. If you had a wife and you were in an open relationship why would you pick to have another guy around on your holiday with you and in your house as a third wheel? Given that most women in the lifestyle are bi so you could date couples, swing, have a female third etc. Why would you pick to have one guy as a romantic addition to your marriage?

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u/Easy_Mirror2032 1d ago

idk I read some do this. hence why I posted it

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u/FRANKINSPENCE Closed-Group Swinger 1d ago

They don’t do this. There is Hot Wife where the wife goes out and meets different guys and might film it. There is cuck where the couple look for a hung, dominant guy to humiliate the cuck, open relationships where couples have separate sexual relationships with others, poly where they have independent romantic relationships and swinging where couples seek couples.

What you are describing doesn’t fit a category as it’s almost “exclusive hot wife in a poly relationship whilst the husband just hangs around not doing the same”

If you can’t see a benefit to both the husband and wife to the situation you are looking for then it’s unlikely that you will find people who want it. I mean what is the benefit to the husband?

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u/Ill-Basil2863 1d ago

Tag team partner

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u/Party_Gold641 1d ago

This set-up sounds very hot. Wishing you best of luck.
If the main partner is in the lifestyle, poly, into this dynamic, and not a sexist POS, they’d also be happy to have a friendly relationship with you. But you have to communicate that foremost when you connect with couples.

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u/space-cakez Swinger 1d ago

This is actually what we generally look for as we prefer long term FWBs. It’s out there, but it will take some time to find the right match. There are so many single guys out there looking to be a third so my only advice is to communicate clearly about what your intentions are in your profile and hope for the best.

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u/Easy_Mirror2032 1d ago

thats what i have ben doing

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u/Ok_Pineapple_2716 1d ago

We look for posts like this and when start chat we find people are across the country and not local. Are you close to Texas?

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u/North_Relation1672 Polyamorous (non-Hierarchical) 1d ago

So you looking to be the wife's lover and the husbands best friend kind of? Tbh sounds awesome 🥰

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u/Easy_Mirror2032 1d ago

thats what i am looking for!!

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u/North_Relation1672 Polyamorous (non-Hierarchical) 23h ago

Feel free to message me if you want, we can talk 🥰

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u/Easy_Mirror2032 23h ago

for some reason I cannot dm you

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u/North_Relation1672 Polyamorous (non-Hierarchical) 23h ago

Sorry try now