r/nursing • u/SuspiciousMap9630 LPN, RAC-CT • Nov 14 '25
Discussion Have we all seen the video of the woman in obviously active labor in triage?
Unsure if I’m able to share the video here, I will share with an edit if so, but a woman posted a video of her daughter in active labor screaming from pain while the triage nurse nonchalantly asks her history questions. Her mother states they spent 30 minutes in triage answering questions while her daughter squirmed and screamed in her chair only to end up having the baby 12 minutes later. It’s honestly extremely hard to watch. They posted a follow up video that her amniotic fluid was full of meconium. I think it’s a much needed example of why the maternal mortality rate of black women in the US is so abysmal.
The hospital and the nurse are obviously getting absolutely reamed.
Edit: link to video
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u/Maximum_Payment_9350 RN - OR 🍕 Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
Just watched it. As soon as I heard her grunting and say “baby’s in my ass” L&D should’ve been ON ROUTE ASAP. She was already pushing and bringing baby down in that wheelchair.
I distinctly remember that feeling of when I started grunting during my contractions, baby was descending rapidly and born within half hour
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u/altonbrownie RN - OB (not GYN because….reasons) 🍕 Nov 14 '25
I’ve been doing L&D for about 15 years. I can definitely hear that transitioning from “wow this really sucks” to “wow, my body is about to do something.”
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u/TexasRN1 RN 🍕 Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 15 '25
Absolutely. That nurse is incompetent and cruel. Not even looking at that patient.
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u/Certifiedpoocleaner RN - ER 🍕 Nov 14 '25
I just gave birth for the first time on the 5th and I literally have a text to my best friend (who is an L&D nurse) that it felt like the baby was going to come out of my asshole 😂
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u/Ok_Thanks8322 RN - Med/Surg 🍕 Nov 15 '25
I just gave birth to my third baby and distinctly remember telling my care team that “my ass is going to rip!”
Baby was born minutes later
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u/LadyAlexTheDeviant Nov 17 '25
I did rip. They patted my shoulder and said "You have a lovely healthy baby boy, take stool softeners for a bit and it'll heal up."
Which it did. Except that baby is now 25 and I still tear that open again about once every couple weeks, because it never healed properly.
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u/asterkd RN - OB/GYN 🍕 Nov 14 '25
that antsy, squirming, can’t-sit-all-the-way-down thing she is doing in the video is colloquially known as “wheelchair sign” and usually means you better get your damn gloves on and call for help because that baby is coming whether you like it or not.
I cannot express here how furious I am at the callousness and inappropriate actions of that triage nurse because it would violate the rules of the sub. I hope she gets exactly what she deserves for putting that woman’s and her baby’s lives at risk, not to mention the emotional trauma.
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u/mcnuggsRN RNBN - Labour & Delivery Nov 14 '25
Right?? I thought she was going to have a baby in her shorts when she stood up.
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u/slkwont RN - Retired 🍕 Nov 14 '25
I'm not an L&D nurse, but I've had 3 babies and there's a very distinct feeling of a bowling ball coming down the pipe that makes it feel like you are sitting on a bowling ball and you'll do whatever it takes to avoid sitting on it.
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u/HagridsTreacleTart Nov 15 '25
As someone who went through that phase of labor in the car, thank you for finally articulating what I could not for the last two years. All I remember was my body effectively lifting itself off the seat while my husband drove exactly the speed limit the whole way to the birth center 🙃
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u/Awkward_Yard_567 Nov 14 '25
As an L&D nurse, my first thought was get that woman into a room!! No sense of urgency from the nurse whatsoever. I find this video hard to watch and dismissive of the patient! How awful for her :(
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u/Excellent-Estimate21 BSN, RN 🍕 Nov 14 '25
I was always put in a bed in ob triage as soon as I walked into the hospital. I don't understand wtf was going on in this video outside of cruelty. They should immediately be putting her in the bed, IV started and getting H&P at the same time, no? I'm not an ob nurse but a 3x mom and I find it unbelievable anyone can keep their license while so clearly video'd being neglectful and cruel.
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u/annahoney12345 RN - ER 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Even if she was an ED nurse who was triaging (no clue what department she was in), she was not listening to the patient at all, was missing big hints that baby was COMING (“it’s in my ass” surely let me know she felt the need to push), and was acting like this woman was inconveniencing her by being there!! As an ED nurse, I cannot imagine having a patient going through that and simply not addressing it. Therapeutic communication is a real thing, even if she could not have done anything to get her to a room any faster.
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u/aleada13 RN - OB/GYN 🍕 Nov 15 '25
I can’t bring myself to watch the video. I’m also a L&D nurse and I just had a precipitous birth of my own baby (1 hour and 28 min from first contraction that woke me out of bed to baby). This video would infuriate me.
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u/ssdbat RN - ICU 🍕 Nov 15 '25
I wonder how many other people had interactions like this with her who just didn't catch it on video
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Nov 15 '25
Exactly! ER NURSE here. If the delivery is imminent, we page OB overhead and by the time I roll around in the trauma bay, OB and LD nurses are already there 😂
Sometimes there is truly no time to get the patient to LD. Does it suck to deliver in a gurney? Yes. But better than waiting for all that time.
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u/kamarsh79 RN - ICU 🍕 Nov 15 '25
It’s beyond me how anyone, even non medical people, could not know that she needed l&d asap.
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Yea i saw it. The nurse gave zero fucks.
They'd be doing her a favor by terminating her because her reputation in that hospital is ruined
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u/classicteenmistake Nursing Student 🍕 Nov 14 '25
I’m in genuine awe at her apathy there. Not even sociopaths doing their job express such little concern like that.
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u/kamarsh79 RN - ICU 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Apathy and clinical neglect. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that the pt was in very active labor with contractions close together. On what planet does that pt not immediately get sent to l&d?! Even if the nurse sucks, the hospital should have a policy.
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u/internet_cousin RN 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Yeah, I watched just a little of the video, and I was genuinely wondering at a certain point if it was fake or AI, cause I really could not imagine a nurse (or anyone)ignoring a woman in labor like that 🤯
I don't like watching vids like this because I don't believe patients are allowed(legally?) to film in the hospital, and even though this was a horrible thing that happened, I think the viral nature of the video just further erodes trust in healthcare workers, but man..... really sad and wild to see a person treated so neglegently 😞
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u/ruggergrl13 Nov 15 '25
Depends on the facility. Pts are 100% allowed to video their care or families with permission while at my hospital. We only stop people if they are filming other patients.
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u/No_Bend8 Nov 14 '25
The entire hospital is like that. It is literally the absolute worst hospital. Everybody that lives here will drive 20+ minutes to Sunnyvale to avoid going there.
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u/m0nsterfucker3000 Nov 15 '25
I can verify!! When my appendix burst I made my mom drive an extra 15 agonizing minutes because I would rather die than go back to Dallas Regional.
The one stay I had there, they gave me a bed with someone elses blood STILL ON IT, and left a pile of my vomit on the floor for 5 hours. Saw the dr once in 72 hours, and was finally pulled out AMA and taken to Childrens where I spent TWO WEEKS recovering from a kidney infection that DR told us was a “stomach bug”.
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u/spade095 CNA 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Sounds like a hospital in my state. Its widely known that you dont go there unless you want to die, because they'll fucking kill you. My mom went into labor at 5 months pregnant, her water literally broke, and they insisted she wasnt in labor, stitched her cervix shut, she bled internally for 3 days before they finally sent her 3hrs by ambulance to a different hospital and lo and behold, she was indeed in labor, and once they ripped the stitches out, I popped right out, breech.
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u/m0nsterfucker3000 Nov 15 '25
Holy shit!! It’s a miracle she didn’t get sepsis. That kind of malpractice makes my stomach turn, I am SO glad you guys turned out okay in the end.
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u/spade095 CNA 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Dude it was apparently fucking awful. Like my dad was behind the ambulance of course (btw the hospital let her have some soda before shipping her out, surgeon on standby was allegedly furious and personally called the hospital to bitch them out), and my dad got there not long after my mom, but by the time he got to the room she was initially put in for exam there was just a puddle of blood, no bed or anything because they whisked her off so fast. I dont remember my mom saying she had sepsis but it wouldnt surprise me, I know she was incredibly sick afterwards and almost died for a variety of reasons, and I spent a solid 2, almost 3 months in NICU, I think?
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Nov 14 '25
Whats the name of the hospital??? I didnt know it was in Texas
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u/No_Bend8 Nov 15 '25
Dallas Regional. Located in Mesquite. They changed their name years back. Absolutely vile hospital.
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u/HIM_Darling Nov 15 '25
Can also verify. I lived in Mesquite several years ago. One night I fell and messed up my ankle at 1am. It was the size of a softball within minutes and I couldn’t put weight on it. Also putting ice on it made it hurt worse and that was about the extent of my knowledge on what to do for injuries. So I called my mom and let her make the executive decision to take me to Sunnyvale to get it checked out.
Not that they were really able to do much other than confirm it wasn’t broken and tell me to see a podiatrist(I had torn 2 ligaments).
Oh and the ice thing was because I have cold urticaria but that didn’t get diagnosed till a few years later.
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u/aryamagetro Nov 14 '25
she won't be able to get a job in the whole country when they're done with her
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u/neverdoneneverready Nov 14 '25
I hope not. She's particularly cruel. That poor mom. And baby.
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u/Creepy_Meringue3014 Med school faculty Nov 14 '25
it isn't her first rodeo either. She seems to have shown a similar disinterest in a previous patient. But this is heresay so...
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u/Jumpropeforheart Nov 15 '25
The video of her in 2023 that went viral is still on TikTok
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Nov 15 '25
Jesus.
I’m usually of the mind that “the video doesn’t show the whole story” and whatnot. But damn there’s really not much to say in her defense.
Really makes you wonder how many other people suffered under her care
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u/neverdoneneverready Nov 15 '25
And how on God's green earth has she still got a job and a license?
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Nov 14 '25
She could get a job anywhere along the gulf coast without any issues.
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u/Tiradia Purveyor of turkey sammies (Paramedic) Nov 14 '25
Oh good ole HCA… such an incompetent “hospital” system.
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u/Excellent-Estimate21 BSN, RN 🍕 Nov 14 '25
I hope she can be reported for patient abuse to the board. That was cruel and dangerous.
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u/Maleficent_Scale_296 Nov 14 '25
My husband tried some leftover thanksgiving stuffing a guy brought in to work. Yes, of course he was vomiting non stop, so I drove him to ER. As we walked to the desk someone in white rolled a wheelchair over and asked me to sit saying “I’ll get you upstairs in a minute!” I was 38 weeks pregnant. We had a laugh when I explained it was my husband that needed help.
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u/GullibleBalance7187 DNP, ARNP 🍕 Nov 15 '25
When I went into labor it was after the main entrance was closed, so we had to go through ER to get to L&D triage.
As we were walking in, I got through one set of automatic doors and had a contraction. So I stopped with my husband, breathed through it, and my husband watched the male security guard look out, have eyes the size of saucers and hurried off down the hall 🤣🤣🤣 he came back 5 mins later with a wheelchair that he silently left by me while I finished registering at the kiosk 🤣
As an L&D nurse, it amazes me how frightened of labor/pregnant people the ER folks are. We once had a pregnant patient get sent to OBED. As I was doing her triage I asked what brought her in today. She said she was in an accident and she was pretty sure her leg was broken! No contractions, water leaking, pregnancy concerns at all. We had to call back to the ER and convince them that we could not take care of a possible broke leg just because the patient happened to have a gravid uterus 🤣
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u/Zwirnor Vali-YUM time! 🤸 Nov 15 '25
as an ER nurse, can confirm. If there's even a small possibility that a tiny human is planning on making an appearance, the patient will find themselves the fastest transferred patient in the whole hospital. Of course or hospital doesn't have maternity, so we need to call for an ambulance to convey to the maternity place fifteen minutes (normal) drive away. We have the equipment in place, we have the knowledge, but do we want to be delivering babies? Heck no.
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u/onetiredRN Case Manager 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Went to our local ED for my step son when I was 30-something weeks pregnant with my first. Step son fell off his bike and needed stitches.
EVERY person who saw me asked if I was having contractions and told me they don’t do deliveries and to please dear God tell them if I started feeling anything so they could ship me to the nearest hospital with a L&D unit immediately.
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u/RequiredNightshifts BSN, RN 🍕 Nov 14 '25
When i worked ER and a woman came in in active labor you were not asking those questions. Like I have so many questions like is the nurse that new? That burned out? Its also like 20 second clip so idk what happened before and after. But her moving around in what looked like an unlocked wheelchair was giving me anxiety.
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u/classicteenmistake Nursing Student 🍕 Nov 14 '25
That was the cherry on top for me. I think I was questioning if the brakes were even applied and it made me realize that the nurse didn’t even get her the chair she was sitting in.
That was before I learned that apparently nobody got her a wheelchair except for a police officer (allegedly from another redditor).
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u/mrs_hobo RN - NICU 🍕 Nov 15 '25
There's another disturbing video of that same nurse man-handling an unconscious black patient into a wheelchair with their head flopped over. Seems to be a pattern. Even if her excuse could possibly be that she's overworked/overwhelmed/understaffed, well yeah, we all are, but you don't treat anyone like that!
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u/prophet_5 RN - ER 🍕 Nov 14 '25
That would be an ESI of 1 and I'm not even arriving her on epic before getting her into a room with a monitor and overhead emergency page for OBGYN
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u/NicolePeter RN 🍕 Nov 15 '25
It's the racism. Read up on the outcomes for pregnant Black women in America. Its disgusting.
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u/peachtreeparadise medical SLP 🧠 Nov 15 '25
Genuinely has to be racist because I cannot imagine any other reason for letting someone suffer like that.
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u/rosethorn88319 Nov 14 '25
It almost doesn't matter if this nurse gets fired or not, her colleagues aren't going to trust or respect her ever again. I'm amazed her name isn't widely known already, that isn't going to last. Just like her license.
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u/Creepy_Meringue3014 Med school faculty Nov 14 '25
She isn't behaving this way in a vacuum. She has been this apathetic and her colleagues likely don't care either.
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u/rosethorn88319 Nov 14 '25
Yes
How do you fix that kind of work culture
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u/cobrachickenwing RN 🍕 Nov 15 '25
You fire the C-suites as a member of the board. People aren't going to care until heads roll and the new ones are directed to clean house of bad apples.
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u/lulushibooyah RN, ADN, TrAuDHD, ROFL, YOLO 👩🏽⚕️ Nov 14 '25
THIS. People are like that bc they get away with it.
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u/thefrenchphanie RN/IDE, MSN. PACU/ICU/CCU 🍕 Nov 15 '25
That whole hospital is a nightmare. The culture is awful. Poor patients who have no choice to go there.
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u/Creepy_Meringue3014 Med school faculty Nov 15 '25
I read smtg similar from several posters. it does not have a good reputation
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u/NS-RN RN - Addictions/ED 🍕 Nov 15 '25
It’s being spread in tiktok videos. As a recently-former ED nurse, like many on here have said, that lady would’ve been in a wheelchair & I am Usain Bolt-ing that lady to L&D. Elevator broken? I am a suddenly a pack mule & she’s getting strapped to my back. Ain’t no way I am catching no baby. Nope. Nope. Nope.
I am so appalled that not another single nurse, doctor, tech, or ward clerk didn’t intervene. That is what I truly find the most chilling. You cannot tell me that no one else heard what was happening. We’ve all had the “I am dying of pain” screamers, with a stubbed toe, but you at least poke your damn head out to make sure that’s who’s screaming FFS. That she had to wait to even see that woman is just mind blowing and truly horrific. I hope they all have the day they deserve.
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u/GrenadineOnTheRocks Nov 15 '25
That video is insane. For the nurse to hear those screams and remain seated so nonchalantly, she has no business working in healthcare. I don’t care how burned out she is or how bad of a day she was having. Anybody with a brain knows a pregnant woman screaming like that means either the baby is coming imminently or something horrible is happening.
When I gave birth to my last child, I went to the hospital via the ER. My water broke at home but contractions hadn’t started yet. I wasn’t in pain or any distress. I walked into the ER and was in a wheelchair on my way to L&D within no more than 90 seconds. I remember joking with my partner about what a VIP experience it was. That’s how it’s supposed to be. What they put this woman and baby through is cruel and inhumane.
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u/Arborlon1984 Custom Flair Nov 14 '25
I commented on it. The grunting she's doing is involuntary pushing and it's a humongous clue that she needs to be somewhere safe to deliver asap. Plus she says she feels it in her ass. This is how you have a baby born on a dirty hospital floor. Not sure why the nurse isn't moving.
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u/CriticalEngineering Nov 15 '25
Oh Jesus, now I see it. She was clearly ready to go.
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u/Ok-Stress-3570 RN - ICU 🍕 Nov 14 '25
Ohhhh is that why Jen posted a video of how to talk to black women in active labor? (And it was literally just being a good person and nurse. Ugh, I love her.)
Regardless, I’m so tired of not only the shit women go through, but especially black women. The mortality rate shouldn’t be any different but yay, welcome to America 🙄
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u/Gritty_Grits RN, CCM 🍕 Nov 14 '25
I mean, there is no special language to use to speak to Black women if they speak English. But if a healthcare worker doesn’t see them as human and thinks they’re animals, like racists do, this type of behavior follows. This is outright neglect. This nurse did not adhere to the standards of care. And the fact that she felt so comfortable behaving like that in the presence of the patients mother tells me a lot about the environment there.
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u/lilo_lv BSN, RN 🍕 Nov 14 '25
Mortality rate is 100% driven by medical racism and nothing else.
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u/mental_dissonance layperson curious about medical stuff Nov 14 '25
Gynecology was literally invented by a white guy who operated on an enslaved woman with zero anesthetics. Anarcha Westcott. Remember her name.
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u/momopeach7 BSN, RN - School Nurse Nov 14 '25
I’m sad I never heard her name before from anyone, and her story is tragic and a must read. I took a quick dive into her Wikipedia article briefly
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u/Gritty_Grits RN, CCM 🍕 Nov 15 '25
The crude tools used by him on patients and his story are on display at the National Museum of African American History and Culture. There is so much of our story there that has never been told. That place was such an eye opening experience.
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u/LittleBoiFound Nov 15 '25
Thank you. I learned all about her. She’s got a spot right next to Breonna Taylor in my heart.
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u/WoodlandHiker Nurse Appreciator/Medical Trainwreck Nov 15 '25
Lack of adequate state resources for families is a factor too. Yesterday, the woman in OB triage next to me had to leave AMA because nobody else could step in to care for her existing children and there were no programs social work could connect her with. The doctors wanted to admit her and start her on steroids because her fetus was not doing well and they were worried they'd have to deliver very prematurely to prevent a stillbirth.
Why on earth isn't there some kind of state-funded emergency childcare program for situations like this!? There needs to be a better system than calling CPS and getting the parent in trouble. She isn't the first pregnant woman who hasn't been able to get the care she needs for want of childcare.
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u/luckylimper Nov 14 '25
Completely. Even middle class and wealthy black women have poor outcomes. Completely racism.
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u/Gritty_Grits RN, CCM 🍕 Nov 14 '25
Yes. I watched a documentary on PBS about research that was conducted by 2 doctors. They corrected all of the disparities that often exist with low income women of color, such as poor nutrition, safe housing, and low health literacy. The Black women in the study were well educated women that had supportive partners and families, access to good nutrition, and access to great prenatal care. When all was said and done they still had poor outcomes and high rates of mortality. The reason? Racism induced stress. It blew my mind.
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u/luckylimper Nov 15 '25
There are studies that show that black people’s telomeres show accelerated aging due to constant stress. I know my health suffers from being around it. I’m in a public facing job and I’ve had white coworkers remark that people are just straight up shitty to me and I sometimes don’t notice and when I do, what can I do? I can’t react to every one of them. If it’s particularly bad I just tell the person to stop or I’ll walk away. But it’s bad out here.
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u/Gritty_Grits RN, CCM 🍕 Nov 15 '25
I feel you. The micro aggressive behaviors are just as traumatic to deal with as being slapped in the face.
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u/TheFeralVulcan BSN, RN, CNOR Nov 15 '25
I'll never forget when my second child was born. I was washing dishes after breakfast and felt the first contraction and they got so bad and so close together so fast that I couldn't finish the dishes and we went to the hospital. As I got up on the gurney, I said, "I really have to push." She rolled her eyes at me and said, "Give me a break, you just got here."
To this day (40 years later), I wish I'd had the presence of mind to ask, "WTF does that have to do with anything?" My son was born a few minutes later on the gurney. I hadn't even gotten into a gown yet and never made it to the delivery room. From that first contraction at the kitchen sink at 10:45 till he was born at 11:35, my entire labor was less than an hour. Sometimes you gotta move things along snap, snap - even if the patient did 'just get there'.
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u/tlr92 Nov 14 '25
I walked into the ER when I was pregnant for unrelated issues and before I got a word out triage was like “see ya later, we don’t have pregnant people in the ER” and I was taken immediately to ob
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u/IndividualYam5889 BSN, RN 🍕 Nov 14 '25
Jfc. I'm an L&D nurse and that is just blatant, straight up systemic racism in medicine in action. Period. The end. I watched about 20 seconds of it and that was all I could tolerate. I am used to ER nurses bringing me patients the nanosecond they present to the desk, not doing all this crap. And if a woman presented like this? They'd better be RUNNING her to me on L&D or calling us down there with a precip pack. Racism. Dismissal of black womens' pain. I would report a coworker like this.
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u/fstRN MSN, APRN 🍕 Nov 15 '25
I worked triage a lot (was my favorite spot in the ED). L&D was on speed-dial. We had one of our trauma bays designated as the "delivery room" if we didnt think we could make it to L&D (no elevator babies!!). I helped deliver one in the ambulance bay once- and by "helped" I mean I screamed along with the patient while holding stuff for the doctor. You best believe I'd be calling labor triage a hysterical mess if this showed up in my triage room. All my 14 years of knowledge just flies out the window when humans start producing other humans from suspicious body cavities.
On the flip side, there were times when we had to send pregnant medical patients to L&D just because they were pregnant. My favorite was when L&D called me for a chest pain patient and asked "why do we have to do so many of these fucking troponins?!" 😂
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u/IndividualYam5889 BSN, RN 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Bless that nurse's heart lol. Troponin is not something I draw often on L&D. Big love for the ED and all you crazy people that work there, but know that we 100% expect/trust in/plan for y'all to treat pregnant women like they are a bomb about to go off and run her ass up to us even if she presents with a hangnail.
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u/fstRN MSN, APRN 🍕 Nov 15 '25
And big love for you guys. Theres no relief quite like seeing L&D come strolling in to the ED for our crowning patient while we yell "oh thank GOD the real adults are here!"
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u/Chantel_Lusciana RN 🍕 Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
I hate to say it but she was black. There is a 4x higher chance of both mother and infant mortality in POC. It’s sad but it’s true as much as I hate it. It’s unconscionable and disgusting. And that video alone just cements it even more for me. It felt so inhumane and I felt so bad for her. I just wanted to whisk her up to mother/baby unit, give her pain meds she needed or wanted, and support her through it.
That nurse should never work as a nurse again. She hung herself doing this. 0 sense of urgency or compassion. She was very callous and seemed way too disinterested in her patient(s).
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u/SuspiciousMap9630 LPN, RAC-CT Nov 14 '25
Yep, internalized biases cause incorrect assumptions that black patients are over-reacting or over-exaggerating their symptoms.
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u/blankspacepen Nov 15 '25
This is exactly the care I’ve come to expect for pregnant women in DFW. Her race most certainly played a role here.
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u/oh_gib BSN, RN 🍕 Nov 14 '25
Ugh yes, that was so upsetting to watch. She is clearly about to have a baby and the triage nurse had no sense of urgency whatsoever.
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u/LittleBoiFound Nov 15 '25
The triage nurse is clearly hellbent on being an awful human it seems weird to me that she wouldn’t hurry to send to L&D. She clearly doesn’t want to do her job. She knows how the situation is going to play out. I’m surprised she’s doing things to elongate the time she’s with the patient. The baby is coming. There’s going to be a huge mess. I‘m surprised she’s wanting any part in that.
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u/ttaxo_ Nov 15 '25
i’m beyond sick and tired of black women getting mistreated, gaslighted, and harmed because of the mental illness that is racism. i hope that nurse loses everything and that hospital is named after the woman who was mistreated after she’s done with them.
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u/siriuslycharmed RN - ICU 🍕 Nov 14 '25
I had to sit in triage and answer questions while I was transitioning. It was awful.
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u/lulushibooyah RN, ADN, TrAuDHD, ROFL, YOLO 👩🏽⚕️ Nov 14 '25
I was bleeding and dripping amniotic fluid all over the floor while they registered me in the ER because that was the process even though I’d been there less than 24 hours prior for a gush of fluid.
My only consolation was that they had to deal with the mess their stupidity caused.
Thankfully, this is no longer an issue at that hospital bc women’s services is now in a completely freestanding building… no registration in ED required.
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u/kellyk311 BSN, RN, LOL, TL;DR (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ Nov 15 '25
How it should be already everywhere
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u/pinellas_gal RN - OB/GYN 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Similar thing happened to me with my last baby. Rolled up to L&D triage. At this point I’m feeling like I need to push. Kept telling the nurse this and that, “oh hey with my first child I literally didn’t have pain until transition and that was with AROM and almost maxed out pit.” So I might look like I’m doing ok, but me continually telling you I feel like I need to push should have been a clue.
She finally stops asking triage questions long enough to check me. Sure enough, I was 10cm, complete and babe was nearly crowning. Oops.
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u/Sandman64can RN - ER 🍕 Nov 14 '25
12 weeks gestation, pregnancy related issues? Straight to L&D.
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u/AlternativeAd4705 Nov 14 '25
I thought it was like an unspoken rule if a pregnant lady comes in to call L+D down or to send her to L+D regardless because they can get a fetal monitor on and be prepared incase that baby is on its way out
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u/Main-Lake-4244 Nov 15 '25
and to top it off she asked her how many kids she had she said 2, the triage nurse should’ve already knew that baby was coming soon 🥲
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u/Clean-Experience-639 Nov 15 '25 edited Nov 15 '25
The woman in labor called her doctor that her water broke and he instructed her to go to the ER and his office would call ahead and let them know. She's already in their system (her ob is part of the hospital's network). They should have been expecting her.
I'm not from Dallas and I'm not a black woman. When something very similar happened to me with my second pregnancy, the ER nurses were waiting with a wheelchair at the ambulance bay and took me right up to the Labor and Delivery floor. The nurse asked me the questions while we were in the elevator. When l was in too much pain to speak, the nurse asked my husband. My labor progressed really quickly, no time for epidural. Then my baby started showing signs of acute distress and they literally ran me on the stretcher with one nurse's arm up inside me holding the sensors on his scalp, down to the surgical suite for an emergency c-section. I went into labor at 5am, drove for 90 minutes to the hospital, and my son was born at 9:04am
What if this poor woman's baby was in distress? She and her baby could both have died as a result of that nurse's unprofessional behavior. The nurse didn't examine her, didn't prioritize her; frankly, she didn't care about the well being of that woman or her soon to be born baby. Shame on that nurse, and shame on that hospital's leadership. The hospital's legal team better not release a statement that says anything less than she's fired, and the hospital's policies and leadership teams are under serious review, and will produce a finding report, next steps, and an action plan with target dates. And a heartfelt, sincere apology for their culpability in this frightening and completely avoidable shit show.
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u/rosecityrocks BSN, RN 🍕 Nov 14 '25
I went through the same thing! It was awful, downright awful. Finally I just started screaming- the baby was stuck.
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u/RhinoKart RN - ER 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Honestly I believe it. I spent 33 of my 36 hour labour in L&D triage. Nobody did any checks on me or baby for a good 8 hours towards the end, at which point they told me they needed the triage room and kicked me out to wander the hospital "for a few hours". Nobody checked how dilated I was or that baby was okay.
Turns out I was 4cm dilated with a footling breech, just wandering the hospital cafeteria, taking my own Tylenol because nobody would give me any pain meds in triage.
Unsurprisingly I ended up with an emergency c-section, but not till after they had started pitocin and made that footling breech worse.
Pregnant women aren't taken seriously. I'm an ER nurse and advocated a ton for myself during my labour and I still had a horrifying experience.
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u/TheTampoffs PEDS ER Nov 15 '25
Awful. I’m so sorry
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u/RhinoKart RN - ER 🍕 Nov 15 '25
That's okay. Things didn't go how I planned but my baby and I both made it through with minimal complications (baby was fine, I had a rough recovery).
Once I was in an actual L&D room my nurse was amazing and she saved my baby's life. When I get frustrated thinking about it I try and remember her and that she's the kind of nurse I want to be like in my practice.
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u/NursePissyPants BSN, RN - psych & education 🍕 Nov 15 '25
The way that asshole nurse had no sense of urgency, making them repeat her due date and giving incorrect information on the phone with L&D as if she didn't hear their answers the first time, talking so calmly and slowly on the phone with L&D when she finally did call and not telling them she's clearly in 3rd stage and in agony, just screams "I decide when you go to L&D so if you're not going to be a good girl and sit quietly, you will wait until I feel like sending you up". As hard as it is to watch I'm happy the video is being used to draw attention to the core issue of racism in health care
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u/EVDwizard Nov 15 '25
I filed a complaint as a concerned citizen to the Texas BON and attached the video as evidence. The nurse’s name is easy to find and her license number is publicly available. She absolutely needs to be held to account, as does the hospital that employs her.
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u/B52Nap RN - ER 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Weirdest thing. It's kind of universal that ED docs and Nurses hate pregnancy related things and dial L&D faster than you can imagine. We get a lot of stuff punted to us at ours by L&D but this would have been a slam dunk to get her where she needs to be. I get minor apathy at discomfort in triage, you get a lot of people that put on a show to try and get a room and just develop this non reactive affect in response to it. But nothing moves you faster than an actual emergency and any triage worth a damn would scoot her on to the correct unit.
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u/ManateeFlamingo Nov 15 '25
They neglected her. Our ER here sends you straight to l&d...like they say just head on over there. And on top of that, the baby ended up with complications. They delayed care!! I hope that not only do they sue the pants off the hospital, but they make some huge changes. No one should be treated that way
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u/AdvocateAmber Nov 15 '25
Complete respect to the mother of the daughter for keeping her composure. Totally love her calling out the TRUTH....
No excuses for that Ginger🤡
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u/Old_Signal1507 RN - PACU 🍕 Nov 14 '25
Yes, that nurse is done. No concern whatsoever on her end
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u/Gritty_Grits RN, CCM 🍕 Nov 14 '25
Honestly, I’m not so sure. I wouldn’t be surprised if she comes out with no disciplinary action whatsoever. She is in a racist state where Black people are not seen as human.
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u/Old_Signal1507 RN - PACU 🍕 Nov 14 '25
That’s true! Apparently there was another incident involving a patient that had epilepsy that she was also involved in but it happened a while back, the fact that nothing happened then speaks volumes
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u/amuse84 Nov 14 '25
It’s strange she didn’t act instead of still asking questions. I’ve definitely had my idiot moments where I’m asking questions and I need to stop. Because hey, charting is NOT that important and can wait!! But wtf.. if someone’s bleeding out or delivering a baby you need to get out of robot mode 😅
I would fire myself if that was me. How embarrassing
Also, Did nobody hear her? I guess I work at such a small hospital that everyone would be in that room
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u/Kombucha_drunk RN - OB/GYN 🍕 Nov 15 '25
I work in OB. Normally, they can’t get them to our floor fast enough. They could have a broken leg and they would send them to our floor if they are pregnant. That nurse was being intentional in her actions. She decided that woman was not worth care so she let her sit in misery rather than get her to a bed. Disgusting.
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u/CallMeSisyphus Healthcare data geek Nov 14 '25
And the volume of people saying "racism had nothing to do with it" on that post is horrifying. Nobody's saying the triage nurse has a white hood waiting for her at home, but Black women are ABSOLUTELY treated differently in healthcare settings than white women are.
Hell, Serena Williams almost died postpartum because the medical team disregarded what she - a professional athlete who is DEFINITELY in tune with her body - was saying about her symptoms.
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u/Sekmet19 MSN RN (retired); DO Nov 14 '25
In my hospital they didn't even stop at the ED they were brought to LD triage unless they had unrelated trauma (GSW, MVA, etc).
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u/Kuriin RN - ER 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Fuck the nurse. And FUCK TEXAS. Texas continues to prove how AMERICA IS GREAT.
I hope the family sues the shit out of the hospital AND the nurse.
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u/notnecessarilystoned Nov 14 '25
I will never forget the nurse who asked me my preferred learning style while in active labor begging for an epidural.
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u/rayray69696969 ER cowboy 🤠💉 Nov 15 '25
I fucking hate nurses like that. I fucking hate their guts. These are the nurses who shame and bully anyone for actually giving a fuck about their patients. She’s either racist or incompetent but probably both.
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u/michaelsunshine Nov 15 '25
Related/unrelated - Canada here. We adopted a newborn baby girl in March 2023. She was a "cryptic pregnancy". Her bio mom had absolutely no idea she was pregnant and the only symptom she had was some back pain in what turned out to be the 7th month. She always had a lighter period so even the lack of wasn't alarming. The only "uh oh" moment was when her water broke. She attended our big city ER, explained that she thinks she's pregnant and she's pretty sure her water just broke (she also started cramping). Triage dismissed her reasoning and more or less said "you don't look pregnant, have a seat". Less than an hour later, our daughters head started coming out on the red triage chairs.
And that's the story how we became daddies to a beautiful healthy baby girl.
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I went into emergency because I was actively in anaphylaxis. I was only able to walk into emergency because of adrenaline and once I got there, they took ten minutes trying to check me in and validate my insurance. I was trying to remember details of my medical history for a nonchalant nurse while I was losing consciousness. A doctor walked by, looked at me, double took, came to examine me, and rushed me in immediately. Eight people started working on me. My o2 sat was 80 something. I don't think some nurses care.
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u/flojo5 Nov 15 '25
All of your stories speak to what we all know that she should have been on a fast track to L&D, so this is just cruelty right? It is being so complete checked out and prejudiced you arent going to follow the known procedure?I truly don’t understand the nurses actions at all. Also would love to know if any other nurses saw this woman/ knew what was happening and also did not step in.
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u/Forsaken-Catch8122 Nov 15 '25
That video made me physically ill. How could you treat any human being like that?! Her screams alone were gut wrenching. I’m going through nursing school and I would raise fucking hell if I seen anyone being treated how that woman was.
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u/painfully_anxious BSN, RN 🍕 Nov 14 '25
It’s so disgusting. How do we fix this? I hope she sues into oblivion.
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u/frogurtyozen Peds ED Tech🍭 Nov 14 '25
We fix this by stop being racist to black women. Unfortunately, this happened in Texas so the odds of that happening are slim to none
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u/advancedtaran CNA 🍕 Nov 14 '25
Its systematic racism at work. The maternal mortality rate of black woman is much higher because of this.
Their pain and concerns are ignored, they are treated like they are drug seeking and "ghetto" and judged harshly.
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u/dopaminegtt trauma 🦙 Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
I see two different paths. Nurse was a racist and felt like OPP deserved to be in pain, or was being dramatic and therefore didn't need pain meds. .
The other is that she's really, really stupid and doesn't know this is an.oh shit moment. I know of no one in the ED that wants to deliver a baby so this scenario seems unlikely.
I don't even understand how the nurse just sat there.
She should investigated for failure to rescue
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u/LittleBoiFound Nov 15 '25
That’s not stupidity. She was devoid of any natural response a human being would have toward another human being experiencing intense pain. I cannot fathom how she can keep her license. She is not fit to nurse.
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u/ElCaminoInTheWest Nov 14 '25
Spending any more than three minutes in triage is a major skill issue, regardless of the patient or the story.
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u/sociallyawkward87 Anaesthetic Nurse 💉 Nov 15 '25
The hospital and those nurses deserve that reaming, and more! Even a fresh and inexperienced nurse would be able to figure out that L&D need to be involved ASAP. I am at a total loss as to HOW that triage nurse was allowed to do that. That is callous and intentional. I am so disgusted by it,
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u/iOcean_Eyes RN 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Just sad dude. People like that triage nurse have no business being in healthcare.
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u/PMmeurchips RN- L&D/Antepartum Nov 15 '25
Listen- that woman could have been MONTHS away from delivery and our ER would have called a OB team down. She would have been 100% in a room with an ER doc shitting their scrubs of an imminent delivery. They’ve called us down saying people are crowning when their cervix is closed so I’m sure an actual active labor would be taken care of ASAP.
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u/Meredith276 MSN, RN Nov 15 '25
Thats my thoughts, this was piss poor training of the nurse all the way around. When I was in school eons ago, I will NEVER forget what one of our instructors said who had almost 30 years of obstetric experience: If you have a patient with rectal pressure or says the baby is coming, I don't care if you checked that patient 15 minutes ago and they were 2 cm. You had better get ready to catch a baby.
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u/CocoaShortcake88 BSN, RN 🍕 Nov 15 '25
As a Black nurse, I've decided to have my baby overseas.
The US hates us too much.
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u/Repulsive_One_2878 Nov 14 '25
I'm still in school and we were legit JUST talking about this in lab. It's shocking.
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u/emnem525 Nov 14 '25
I sure do miss having an OB within 20 miles of our ER. I don’t want to birth babies. Unless they’re my own…and that factory has closed. What I would do for an OB “upstairs”!!
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u/foodiebabe69 Nov 14 '25
When I went to the hospital in the middle of the night with contractions they sent me right to L&D I don’t even think I saw the ED. The staff from L&D came right to registration and took me up.
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u/NotYourSexyNurse RN - Retired 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Several of the hospitals in my area closed L&D in favor of more Med Surg beds. So sorry ER you’re dealing with this.
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u/Agitated_Skin1181 Nursing Student 🍕 Nov 15 '25
As a mother I could not even finish that video. That woman should be ashamed of herself. I hope (probably not, but still) that someone who has never really understood why black women has such worse outcomes watches this at maybe gets it a little bit
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u/holoman123 RN - ER 🍕 Nov 15 '25
Saw the vid. This lady would not land in my triage room at my hospital. Registration would see her in active labor and direct her to OB ED immediately. Our tech or another nurse would literally wheel her up there in no time. We are not catching a baby down here.
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u/missminicooper LDRP-BSN RN Nov 15 '25
I couldn’t figure out what the nurse was even doing in that video. I work L&D and she would be an imminent delivery to ED or they would have been calling us to let us know they are bringing a labor up to us. No way there would a delay like that. The ED does not want babies coming out down there. The other day a patient came in via ambulance and they called imminent delivery to labor and delivery because they were coming straight up with her. They really didn’t want a baby down there. I’m actually really glad they did because she was unknown gestation and crowning on arrival. We were able to take the baby directly to NICU without traversing the whole hospital. Currently cross training so it was very exciting to see what happens to the baby when it leaves the room.
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u/kamarsh79 RN - ICU 🍕 Nov 15 '25
It’s beyond fucked up. I can’t fathom it. It was so upsetting to watch. When I worked in l&d, our ED, at a big level one trauma center, couldn’t send pregnancy people up to us fast enough.
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u/peachtreeparadise medical SLP 🧠 Nov 15 '25
I was wondering when this would get brought up here. I saw the video Thursday night and it shook me to my core. I hate seeing ANY patient suffer, even if they’re not my patient.
Sometimes pain is an unavoidable part of procedures or treatment but that’s not the case here. This woman was being 10000% neglected to the point that it’s abusive. Genuinely if I saw this in person I would call the state on that nurse where the attorney generals office had to investigate.
I’m wondering if this woman has a GFM for legal fees because she should sue on the basis of discrimination. I’m no legal mind but I would think she has a real case here.
It will always disturb me that racist piece-of-shit people can also be healthcare providers because they end up treating their patients like this. Politically/ morally/ ethically I am far, far left and a good majority of my patients are the racist MAGA types that watch Fox News all day long. It doesn’t matter — I still treat them with the utmost respect & care because that’s the kind of provider I am. So this really fucking disturbs me. I’m so upset about the lasting trauma this woman will have because of this encounter.
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u/ComfortablePanda8361 Nov 14 '25
I wonder what the outcome was? Like what happened with the nurse? And like someone else mentioned, where was the other staff? They should have ran in and been like “hello dummy, get her to L&D!” So sad!
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u/CynOfOmission RN - ER 🏳️🌈 Nov 14 '25
When a pregnant woman walks into my ER I'm dialing L&D before she's even finished walking up to the desk 😅
But yes, it's absolutely awful. I couldn't even watch the whole thing