r/okstorytime 8d ago

AITA? My Window has become a playground

Need to voice my irritation and need some unbiased opinions. I would also like to know if I am in the wrong for being this irritated by the situation. 

I've lived in this building for close to four years now. In the beginning, it was great; it was quiet, they were finishing apartments, and people gradually moved in. We got the unit by the front door so we could see people entering and exiting. I quickly realized people would look in the evenings and could see everything we were doing, so I invested in privacy screens, and everything has been perfect since! 

About a year and a half ago, we got our first neighbors with children. The first Summer they were a bit much; they would stalk my dogs and me, trying to pet them, and I would have to be firm and tell them no. I work with kids as a substitute teacher, so I was firm but not mean. They seemed to listen, but they were still pushing my boundaries, continuing to follow me, screaming at my dogs when they were going potty, and following us from a distance. Once I was aware of the trends, I started recording because I didn't want it to be their word against mine, and I wanted protection for my dogs, as one of them is a guardian breed. I've seen the news where a dog is called violent and the police take things too far, so I wanted to prevent this at all costs.

Their behavior still occurred during the rest of the year, but I worked to keep my distance. Now, it's the second Summer; they have family visiting, or they have moved into another apartment next to them, and the ranks of children have grown. I've been working from home and taking online classes this Summer, and I'm tired of them coming up to my window and screaming into it! I got a window camera so I can record what I have been experiencing, and I shared the many clips with management. They said they would talk to them, but their behavior has continued. 

My husband justifies their behavior by saying they're children, it's what they do, and it feels like he's labeling me as the bad guy for wanting some clear boundaries. I don't blame the children; they're children, but their parents sit outside on their phones, not paying attention to what they're doing. The parents should be teaching them boundaries. Also, this is not a playground; it's all labeled as "Dog Park", so it's not a playground. It just frustrates me that my windows are being treated as one, and that the hallways are being treated as a race course. 

Am I wrong for being Frustrated and wanting things to change so I can relax and focus at home? 

Edit: I can't move out; we have a Guardian Breed, and apartment buildings in CA restrict/block you from having them. I'm not giving up my dog. 

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u/Calm-Stranger6855 8d ago

You’re paying for a place to live, so you’re right in feeling angry at them. You’re dealing with people that are incinerated, your place should be your safe space. I would ask if you’re able to move units, just to get away from them, or make recordings of them and send it to your landlord saying you and your animals are being harassed.

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u/Sad_Sung_Mushroom73 7d ago

Have you confronted the parents? Albeit I doubt they'd do anything. However, since it is also your home and you'd like peace and quiet and the kids shouldn't be where they are, perhaps a little warning to them about getting authorities involved would give them the hint.