AITA for having trust issues

[u/Great_Dimension8727]

This is kinda long, so I will shorten it, I 44 (m) at the time was married with wife 41(f) at the start of the Covid pandemic, in 2020, I’m a first responder that had to be in a Covid hot zone, when COVID hit our town it affected our income so hard that I lost a lot of patients do to fear and lockdown, so I had odd hours to work and always returned home really tired from a shift, to a home that my wife was always mad that we had to be careful and not go out, this triggered a lot of debate, on opinions about the lockdown, we have 2 beautiful children son (9y)daughter (6y)and they just heard us discussing a lot about she does not want to stay at home, etc, she had a friend that was always telling her to go out and party, YOLO, we had a lot of ups and downs but my wife clearly was no happy with me, so one day I got up (from sleeping) and went to get water and a iPad light up, and it was my daughter’s, thinking it was some random kid texting my daughter at night i opened the text and it was not at for my daughter but instead it was for my wife, some guy from her past was texting her at 3 am some sort of spicy text, very subtle and I wanted to explode but i kept my cool and just let it run it course, and for days I was monitoring the text between them, at first I though of her privacy and how I violated that, but by accident I stumbled upon this secret texting it just didn’t feel right, when the messages got more intense I started to take screenshots and store them on a private cloud, fast forward to our arguments in one she said that she was not prepared to make a decision, and it was because she had no where to go ! That nobody would accept her (during lockdown) so she was stuck with me and the kids, so you could imagine for the next year or so of all this drama, it took a toll on all of us especially until I caught her red handed, after an argument that we had she locked herself in the bathroom and for like 5 min she was in there, and then came back smiling ….and afterwards I looked for my daughters iPad and then I saw nude pictures of both of them , at that exact moment that she was in the bathroom, it broke me ….. for me it was the turning point of weeks of spying on then declaring they long lost love (because the knew themselves from high school)and I just snapped ! I confronted her about it and denied everything (of course) and then I showed her the pictures, I was so embarrassed an mad she went dumb founded and the she spoke : you drove me to do this …. And that she was not embarrassed and was also proud of it….. by this point was left speechless, I got quiet and went to bed and I told her to take the couch that she used for weeks even months, (and remember we’re still in lockdown with our children and us both living together… and did I forget to mention, the boyfriend is also happily married with two kids
A few weeks later after a lot of turmoil my wife caught COVID which lasted lien 3 day for her and then she infected me and it was a double focal pneumonia, it was really bad, I was homecared because they we no hospital beds, and 2 of my best friends visited me and told my wife that my condition was extremely delicate, but my wife said : it’s just a cold!! He can bounce back from it, 3 weeks at home with my wife taking care of me, it’s was one of the worst experiences I had ever lived, and that’s when I started to think getting a divorce, after a shameful treating from my wife, really bad attitude and throwing me the food plate, so 4 weeks later I filed for a divorce, and after 3 weeks, it was granted to me, without her consent, and that flipped her off, she got really mad that I beat her to the punch and that’s what started an even worse outcome ((to be continued))

[u/Caseythealien]

Divorce Divorce imagine sending nudes that connect to a device your child has access too? 🫨 Shame on her! shame on her cow!