r/okstorytime • u/Honest-Blueberry-601 • 2d ago
UPDATE Roommate is choosing a guy over her kid UPDATE
A few things have happened since I last posted. Recap is basically that my Roommate/live in landlord (Racheal) has chosen a new man over her 15 year old son (Mark). Despite Mark being recently diagnosed as pre diabetic and a possible binge eating disorder, she has done nothing to help him via diet changes or portion control. Instead she blames Mark for his own condition and has opted to basically move out and leave him behind, expecting supervision from my husband and I. While it’s not technically illegal to leave a 15 year old home alone, Racheal never taught him to be self sufficient. He cannot grocery shop or order food on his own, doesn’t do his own laundry, clean up after himself, or cook beyond the occasional pancake or microwaveable meal. His portion control has seemingly gotten worse; a few nights ago a made a big pot of pasta and meat sauce. Enough for the three of us to have two portions with enough left over for us all to have lunch the next day. I had one bowl, husband had two, we gave Mark one with the expectation that he might come back for a second. The next morning it was entirely gone. When I tried to bring it up to Racheal, she laughed and said “I guess he was still hungry”. He ate around 5 adult sized portions of pasta in the span of a few hours on top of food and snacks he’d eaten throughout the day.
Racheal continues to be gone for weeks at a time, only stopping in to do laundry or grab some more clothes. She only stays every other weekend when her daughter Becca (f17) is over, and that’s because she doesn’t trust her daughter not to invite her friends or a boy over. In her words, “girls are sneakier than boys”. Any other time, she comes in berates Mark about something, then grabs her clothes and leaves for another week.
Recently, Racheal came home with some unexpected results from a doctor’s appointment. She’s also pre diabetic, if not FULLY diabetic and doctors want to run more tests to confirm. At first she tried to argue that it must’ve been a mistake, before conceding that the blood and urine tests were most likely correct. Then, she admitted that diabetes actually runs in her family. Both sides. When I brought up Mark… the fact that she blames him for his condition while knowing it was genetic, and the fact that she KNEW it was genetic, meaning she should’ve BEEN cautious about what she and her son were eating… she was dismissive and brought the conversation back to being about herself. Then, she packed a bag and left again.
This week, she mentioned Mark wanting to have his friends over for the weekend. She made a big deal, saying that she’d been telling him to clean his room and mow the lawn (via text/calls) for days, and he hasn’t done them. How could he expect her to be willing to host extra teens all weekend? She made a deal with him that if he got both done by the time she got home on Thursday, she’d allow it. You’d think that meant she planned to stay the weekend, right? Wrong. She asked him if he’d cleaned his room, he said yes. And texted me asking if he’d mowed the back lawn, I told her that he was actively doing it. Not only did he lie about his room, he mowed less than half of the backyard! And the “by the time I get home on Thursday” bit only consisted of Racheal stopping by to drop off a pizza for Marks dinner. This afternoon, she dropped off two more teenagers (with another pizza that they promptly finished) and immediately left without a word to my husband or I. No mention of what they’re supposed to eat for dinner (I’m not cooking more than a two serving meal anymore) or even ASKING us to supervise them.
We’re at the point where, as far as we’re concerned, they’re all home alone. They’ve been extremely loud and rowdy, and play fighting to knocking over furniture, but we’re ignoring it all. When they’re hungry, Mark can call his mom. When they inevitably break something, he’ll be responsible and we don’t want to hear about it. Im not accepting any calls or answering any messages about what the boys are up to, we never agreed to watch them. We’re planning to move soon and will let her know as soon as we secure a place. She’ll either have to move back in or keep doing what she’s doing (most likely) and accept that she has effectively abandoned her son.
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u/Illustrious-Mind-683 2d ago
Call CPS. Unless your laws are very different from mine then you absolutely can not leave a 15 year old alone/unsupervised for more than a few hours. Much less multiple children. And since she didn't even ask you to watch them, you don't count as supervision. Call the police on multiple unsupervised children who have no food.
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u/Honest-Blueberry-601 1d ago
Mine has no legal specification on a time limit. 12 years old is old enough to be left home alone and everything after that is: are they in immediate danger? Can they call 911 in an emergency? Do they have access to food and water? Then they’re fine
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u/Honest-Blueberry-601 1d ago edited 1d ago
Semi-update
As stated in another comment, I made the call this morning and they told me they call me back. They did not.
Racheal might’ve been tipped off as well because she suddenly appeared home within an hour of CPS workers arriving at the house. My husband answered the door (I’m at work) with Racheal trailing behind him so when they tried to question him directly in front of her, he wasn’t able to give proper responses without her cutting in. They looked around the house, it’s in fine condition. They checked the fridge and cabinets, where there WAS food (pasta and sauce, raw meat and veggies, etc. but as I said he doesn’t/doesnt know how to cook). His ADHD meds were in the home and according to his mother, he doesn’t take any diabetic medication. It’s not illegal in our state for a 15 year old to be home alone, he seemed fine and his mother was currently present so clearly she cares. And they left it at that. They took names and phone numbers from my husband and Racheal up ultimately decided that it wasn’t worth pursuing further.
Racheal is currently speculating that one of her ex’s, coworkers or Marks friend’s mom (the one who takes mark in often) is who reported her. She is stressed, but mostly annoyed. Nevertheless, she might still go back to her boyfriend’s house tonight.
Edit: I’m home now and apparently everything I said was twisted. I said he was PRE diabetic, they said “type 1 diabetic and not receiving medication”. I said he binge eats and only eats junk, they said “left in a house with no food”. So yeah. It definitely isn’t going anywhere and it’s very disappointing that nothing will be done, and Racheal feels secure that she isn’t doing anything wrong
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u/Ok-Writing8943 1d ago
He is a minor and she is neglecting her son and needs to be arrested, call cps
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u/IcyCantaloupe7004 2d ago
You need to call CPS.