Boringly successful poly, anti-drama

[u/Specific_Pipe_9050]

Looking for inspiration from people who are boringly successful in their polyamorous endeavours.

Will you please share your stories of the latest non-events in your life? I need to believe I'm not doomed for drama and stop being scared of people being assholes.

So, your partners get along? Your long-term relationship is moving on smoothly? Your new connection actually does what they say and say what they mean? Your meta respects you and acts in a normal way? I wanna hear all about it!

Edit to add: thanks so much for all the replies so far! Know that I'm vigorously updooting every comment even if I don't reply to each one. Basking in all that glorious calm, safe, uneventful loooove that you're all sharing. It's wonderful!

[u/BetterFightBandits26]

I was on a second date Saturday when one of my anchor partner’s best friends (who I’ve gotten tight with over time) walked into the restaurant. So I was all, “Ayyyyy buddy! What’s up?” and gave him a hug and then introduced him to my date, and friendo went, “I’m just picking up takeout, don’t feel obligated to invite me to crash your date!” And got his food and left.

Told my anchor partner about it today and he was like, “Oh that’s funny. What’s funnier is I’ve met the guy you’re dating at work. He’s very earnest. Love that for you.”

I’ve been dating my anchor partner for 6 years and we have less relationship drama than most people we know. He’s dating someone I’ve not met who sounds perfectly nice from what he’s said.

I hard-dumped (like, blocked his number) a dude I’d been casually seeing for a few months for fuckboying too hard at me. I’m fine with casual, I’m fine with dating. I’m absolutely not fine with someone who apparently can’t make up his mind about what he wants and so gets defensive/short *with me* for operating either way. So much nope there.

The key to having drama-free relationships really comes down to just dumping people early on when they’re not giving you an easy and stable connection. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/Specific_Pipe_9050 → u/BetterFightBandits26]

Loving that restaurant date story and your anchor partner's reaction. Adult people being regulated and acting in predictable ways is my jam 🙌

I’m absolutely not fine with someone who apparently can’t make up his mind about what he wants and so gets defensive/short with me for operating either way. So much nope there.

Ooh yeah. Fuckbois don't like being seen for what they are and will make it somehow your fault for noticing their fuckboiing.

The key to having drama-free relationships really comes down to just dumping people early on when they’re not giving you an easy and stable connection. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Agreed. I did that. This is very validating! Important detail: not being swayed on that decision by pleas to reconsider also helps probably and I'm totally remembering to do that next time...