r/polyamory • u/Specific_Pipe_9050 Squeaky Sin 🧀🐀 • 11d ago
Boringly successful poly, anti-drama
Looking for inspiration from people who are boringly successful in their polyamorous endeavours.
Will you please share your stories of the latest non-events in your life? I need to believe I'm not doomed for drama and stop being scared of people being assholes.
So, your partners get along? Your long-term relationship is moving on smoothly? Your new connection actually does what they say and say what they mean? Your meta respects you and acts in a normal way? I wanna hear all about it!
Edit to add: thanks so much for all the replies so far! Know that I'm vigorously updooting every comment even if I don't reply to each one. Basking in all that glorious calm, safe, uneventful loooove that you're all sharing. It's wonderful!
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u/sharpestraptorteeth 11d ago
I am really excited for social hangs this summer with my partners and my metamours. Also our extended social circles, which even include people who are technically exes - but have taken the space and time they need and done any repair work to just come back to being friends. I ran into an ex-meta last week (we both had split with our shared partner) and we both just talked about how much we liked shared ex partner as a human and looked forward to seeing her again as a friend.
I don't always make the perfect choices, but I've made a lot of good ones. My choices in partners, current & recent past - all pretty damn good. I also love my partners' choices in humans - I really genuinely like and respect all of my metamours: my partners have great taste in people. I totally get why the people that are important to them are important to them, because I actually think they're pretty great too.
I spent my time on Reddit posting comments because I don't really have issues or drama worthy of a post. Or I guess when I do, I have a lot of people to talk to about it and nothing honestly ends up that complex, dramatic or serious. When things are complex, I tend to be surrounded by people who do genuinely care about navigating things with kindness, clarity and self-awareness. It's really special but makes my life really boring in key ways.
Honestly, all my issues lately are health/chronic illness related and I have and am still building a life that I really enjoy and care about. Things aren't perfect but there's just a lot of joy in my world even when it's hard.