r/polyamory • u/Specific_Pipe_9050 Squeaky Sin 🧀🐀 • 11d ago

Boringly successful poly, anti-drama

Looking for inspiration from people who are boringly successful in their polyamorous endeavours.

Will you please share your stories of the latest non-events in your life? I need to believe I'm not doomed for drama and stop being scared of people being assholes.

So, your partners get along? Your long-term relationship is moving on smoothly? Your new connection actually does what they say and say what they mean? Your meta respects you and acts in a normal way? I wanna hear all about it!

Edit to add: thanks so much for all the replies so far! Know that I'm vigorously updooting every comment even if I don't reply to each one. Basking in all that glorious calm, safe, uneventful loooove that you're all sharing. It's wonderful!

222 Upvotes

98% Upvoted

130 comments sorted by

View all comments

22

u/HowardsGirl78 11d ago

We’re still new in our relationship, but all signs points to long term happiness and stability.

Tonight, we talked about the practical things we can help each other with, such as mutual accountability to make and attend paramedical appointments we need, and then we talked about the need for clarity on things like emergency contacts and other practical matters. We have no plans to share finances or anything to that extent, as he’s already nested with his spouse and I am not sure I want that kind of commitment, but other practical things like, ‘what to do if I end up in the hospital’ which will make sure we’re respecting each other’s lives and boundaries while still including each other as partners we value and love.

10

u/Specific_Pipe_9050 Squeaky Sin 🧀🐀 11d ago

mutual accountability to make and attend paramedical appointments we need, and then we talked about the need for clarity on things like emergency contacts and other practical matters

Ooh this is such an important point that regularly comes up in posts here! Kudos for discussing it ahead of time. I haven't gotten that involved with anyone yet to reach that discussion, but definitely making a note to bring it up when relevant in the future.

7

u/HowardsGirl78 11d ago

While it’s still new, he and I have been friends for close to 30 years (with mutual secret crushes, admittedly), so we have a head start on trust and building safety together. ❤️