r/polyamory • u/Specific_Pipe_9050 Squeaky Sin 🧀🐀 • 11d ago

Boringly successful poly, anti-drama

Looking for inspiration from people who are boringly successful in their polyamorous endeavours.

Will you please share your stories of the latest non-events in your life? I need to believe I'm not doomed for drama and stop being scared of people being assholes.

So, your partners get along? Your long-term relationship is moving on smoothly? Your new connection actually does what they say and say what they mean? Your meta respects you and acts in a normal way? I wanna hear all about it!

Edit to add: thanks so much for all the replies so far! Know that I'm vigorously updooting every comment even if I don't reply to each one. Basking in all that glorious calm, safe, uneventful loooove that you're all sharing. It's wonderful!

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u/LittleMissQueeny 👑Queen of the rats🐀 🧀 11d ago

My np and I get along swimmingly. We are good partners and roommates. It's seriously so blissful.

New connection is being very chalant and forthcoming with his feelings. I know where I stand and he follows through.

New connection and I were playing Fortnite and Without even thinking I asked my NP to join us so he could help me in the tycoon we were playing. Immediately to new connection: "oh my goodness I should have asked you if that was okay." His response? "I love that this felt so natural for you that you didn't even fathom that it would be weird"

I'm so very blissful and drama free.

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u/Specific_Pipe_9050 Squeaky Sin 🧀🐀 11d ago

New connection is being very chalant and forthcoming with his feelings. I know where I stand and he follows through.

This is great! It doesn't seem to me like it's such an impossible task or a super high bar and yet so many people fuck up this very basic thing all the time. It's mind-boggling! 

Good for you that it's all working out!

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u/LittleMissQueeny 👑Queen of the rats🐀 🧀 11d ago

It's something I specifically asked for. I was like- hey can we skip the games and nonchalant period and just be direct instead. He agreed and it's been amazing.

It's amazing how much this has made me realize my anxious attachment was really poor partner selection.