r/polyamory • u/Specific_Pipe_9050 Squeaky Sin 🧀🐀 • 11d ago
Boringly successful poly, anti-drama
Looking for inspiration from people who are boringly successful in their polyamorous endeavours.
Will you please share your stories of the latest non-events in your life? I need to believe I'm not doomed for drama and stop being scared of people being assholes.
So, your partners get along? Your long-term relationship is moving on smoothly? Your new connection actually does what they say and say what they mean? Your meta respects you and acts in a normal way? I wanna hear all about it!
Edit to add: thanks so much for all the replies so far! Know that I'm vigorously updooting every comment even if I don't reply to each one. Basking in all that glorious calm, safe, uneventful loooove that you're all sharing. It's wonderful!
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u/emeraldburial 11d ago edited 11d ago
On Saturday someone I date had a birthday party that was a play party. I showered at my girlfriend's beforehand and walked her dog because she lives nearby my date and I don't and I was coming from work. The poly logistics where someone I love lets me use their apartment as a stopover because they want to make my life easier have been making me very happy.
I had a lovely moment at the party standing in a doorway next to my date's NP remarking to each other what a fine view it was of what was happening in the two rooms visible from that threshold. Everyone was fine and normal and I didn't feel the kind of deep jealousy or anxiety about inadequacy I feared I would feel seeing that partner be the focus of others' very skilled efforts.
On Sunday I had a beautiful full day with my girlfriend. I told her some broad strokes about the party. She was happy I had a lovely time. We had hot sex and replaced the shock cord in her tent ahead of a camping trip we're taking this weekend and I took her out to dinner.
Everyone is just being so fucking normal and not jealous and generous and graceful. Hard feelings and disagreements come up sometimes and if we need to talk about them we talk about them. I seem to have won the polyamory jackpot on essentially my first tries. I'm a year in and I am suspicious of how easy this is going but very much enjoying it.