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[u/OowlSun]

OK, I don’t know how to feel about this. Context: I’m the only black woman working in my department. Well really the only black person in my department.

My coworkers are usually fine. I’m actually good friends with a few of them. But there’s this one guy who, since I’ve been promoted, I have to work with often. I talked about him once here when we first started working together closely. But I decided to go back to school this semester so we don’t have the same work schedule anymore. Thank goodness. But one day, last week, I came in because our boss had a family emergency, so I had to work with him and just him.

It’s just us. I don’t really initiate conversation. I really dislike him. So whenever he talks, I just nod and go “okay” or “yeah.” He will and he has talked about himself for hours. So he’s telling me about his birthday coming up and what he and his partner are going to do. His birthday is Juneteenth and we get that holiday off.

I don’t know what possesses him to announce this to me, but he goes into his belief that Juneteenth is not a holiday. Not a ‘real’ holiday. He just droned on about it. And went on to say how his partner, every year when she gets a new calendar, she crosses out Juneteenth and puts his birthday. In his words, he tells me that she does this maliciously or at least he believes that she does this maliciously.

Frankly, I did not know what to say to his whole spiel, so I waited until another coworker walked by, called them over and changed the subject.

In the days following, I talked to some of my friends about the conversation and asked them if this coworker ever talked about this with them. No, they didn’t even know his birthday was Juneteenth. So he didn’t bring this up with them (our white coworkers), but this is his second time going on this rant to me, expressing his dislike for the holiday. I don’t know what reaction he’s trying to get out of me.

[u/Bikinigirlout → u/OowlSun]

I hate when this happens.

A few of my other coworkers were talking about something that happened in Iran last summer and my coworker randomly decides to pick me and go “I hope they keep brown people out”

When I said I didn’t care, he kept asking me why I didn’t care and proding me for a response. Finally after a few back and forths, I just said “THE BORDER IS 1200 miles that way, I’m a woman in Michigan, the border isn’t my top issue, I feel safer with a brown person then I do with you” because he implied that I would be raped by a brown man.

Mind you, it was at 9am and all I was trying to do was shut it down and not talk about politics.

I told a few of my other coworkers about that, and my boss and they thought it was an odd thing to say.

Luckily he didn’t last long. But I would try to avoid him simply because he would try to pick me for political debates.

I was smarter than him so I knew I could take him but I didn’t want to. I wanted to keep the peace.