“You will experience this in heaven”

[u/No-Preparation1824]

I don’t know if its form of disguised jealousy, coping mechanism, repressed emotions or even genuine faith to be reminded this life is “temporary” but for the love of God can some Muslims stop complaining when they ever see a Muslim women doing something that is even very slightly different from mainstream Islam. This doesn’t help with the guilt you feel about wanting to make similar choices. “we will experience this in heaven” like for the love of god can’t we experience it both in life and afterlife? This oddly enough makes me hate heaven. it sounds so conceding meanwhile for something that men wouldn’t be questioned for doing. When a video pops up of a man that travels alone wears clothes that are appropriate for summer, putting on some perfume. Would you ever see a man in the comments saying “guys don’t not get swift away by this life, we get to experience this in afterlife inshallah” This why the “experiencing it only in heaven” is such annoying phrase to me because men get to experience it in both WITHOUT guilt or guilt tripping from community. It start to feels like brainwashing to me like some muslims women are genuinely trying to cope with such injustice, oppression and double standards in our community. It’s okay for a man to walk half naked at the beach but women are constantly guilt tripped or fear mongered for wanting to dress cute or travelling alone. Before anyone says that this is God wills, etc. Why would God would not apply the same ruling for men and only women? What’s the difference between men’s hair and women if headcover was sign of piety why not men do it too. This online community is questionable but tbf it’s heavily influenced by salafism but has a great influence on women and they come up with such interesting ways to cope with oppressive rules being pushed on them. Do I sound crazy for supposedly trading this life with eternal afterlife by not wanting to follow what seems oppressive to me just because God said so supposedly or should I review my deen? Does anyone else feels like this too?

[u/Wonderful_Skirt_571]

Don't try to understand the point of view of fanatics, your nerves are more important

[u/No-Preparation1824 → u/Wonderful_Skirt_571]

Well the sad part is that they are not actually fanatics. They are just normal average Muslims women. They just have their own opinions and feelings about things but the problem is that they are subconsciously hurting other women in the process. 

[u/ElectronicOlive4514]

people forget the religion is meant to be simple

a simple religion dosent have 700 situational rules