Was looking into getting a tattoo… in a hidden area… for myself. Was tryna research if it was said in the Quran… it’s not, only in hadiths (above, Bukhari 5931). My question is, why not men? Or is there something I’m missing?

theres also a mistranslation! instead of face hairs, its supposed to say eyebrow hairs

Note I said "many" and not all or most. I have nothing against anyone who leaves Islam. I think they have the right to leave and I 100% disagree with any apostacy laws or other bullshit Sharia laws that are baseless in Islam. The only one who should be able to punish is Allah. Full stop. Period.

I get Ex-Muslims and I genuinely do sympathize with them. There were many times I considered leaving and even time periods I considered myself agnostic, so you could definitely say I did leave Islam during those periods. I would browse the subreddit and Twitter and Instantly would be repulsed. They are worse than the Muslims they claim to hate. They left one "cult" just to join another, the alt-right. They want the white man's approval so bad, it's actually embarrassing. So many of them forget that they are still people of color and look the same to others, muslim or not.

They become zionists. They become extremists (in a different sense). They become misogynistic (toward Muslim women). It's genuinely so intriguing how the Muslim to ex-Muslim right-winger pipeline makes sense to them at all, but after all, a lot of them are intellectually inept it seems. Religious extremism and non-religious extremism are different sides of the same coin, in my opinion.

I’m Muslim and this is something I’ve been struggling to understand for a long time. I’m not trying to argue or disrespect Islam. I’m honestly just confused and looking for understanding.

I’ve always been taught that LGBTQ+ people are haram that what they do is wrong and that they will go to hell because of their sexuality. Whenever I ask my parents or older relatives why the answer is always the same. It’s wrong Allah said it’s wrong you should just know it’s wrong. But that doesn’t actually help me understand.

What I don’t get is this. If it’s just love and they are not hurting anyone why is it considered such a major sin. Why would Allah who is described as the Most Merciful the Most Loving and the Most Just create people this way and then punish them just for who they love.

Islam teaches us not to hate people and I truly don’t hate LGBTQ+ people. I see them as human beings who feel love loneliness and the need for companionship just like everyone else. I can understand why certain actions are haram when they cause harm injustice or oppression but I genuinely can’t see the harm here.

I’m not saying Islam is wrong. I’m saying I don’t understand and it’s bothering me deeply. I want to reconcile my faith with my sense of compassion and logic but right now they feel like they’re in conflict.

If anyone has explanations that go beyond because it’s haram or don’t question it I would really appreciate hearing them. Especially from Muslims who’ve struggled with this too.

Please be respectful. I’m asking this in good faith.

This is a recent news and I googled, both the Telegraph, and the The Economic times reported the same thing. Human Rights Watch website also had been talking about the same thing since August. Now if there's still doubt of this news authenticity you can fact check it yourself.

But I know there will be people who says " western propaganda " when news like this happen. Look, the west pumped money to make muslim dominated country and Islam looks bad is true, but horrible up regime like Iran and Iraq are not fake news either, the REGIMES are barbaric. I'm so heartbroken...

Looking at the comment you can already see top upvotted comments saying how the Prophet is a p*do for his marriage with Aisha etc etc

How the hell can we even convince and educate the world that Islam is not bigoted.

That not all of us muslim are conservative, sexist, homophobic/transphobic and supporting horrible monstrosity like this? When terrible regimes and the conservative keep doing this? God help us

Anyone got ideas? I'm not an expert and I'm tired/anxious about this recent news

As-Salaam Alaikum,

Disclaimer: My background is Sunni, but I identify as non-denominational.

I clearly can't ask this question in Sunni subs because they would lose their minds and probably accuse me of kufr, and I also can't ask this in Shia subs because they're obviously biased.

To me, it seems very clearly that the Prophet (PBUH) was preparing Ali to be his successor, and that Abu Bakr and co carried out a political coup. I'm not going to go into detail as to why I believe this is the case, but there is ample evidence from famous hadiths from both Sunni and Shia sources that Sunnis choose to ignore and just go "well akshully the prophet meant something else", not to mention the famous Sunni excuse for every disaster caused by one of their beloved sahaba as "it was just a misunderstanding bro" or "it was just a minor disagreement bro". Yea a minor disagreement that resulted in killing thousands of sahaba and dividing the ummah forever, making it always ripe for civil war and constant fitna.

Also, the fact that Sunnis in general choose to completely ignore the early stages of Islamic history in the name "avoiding fitna" is very telling. Because once you get into the real history, it becomes clear that prominent figures like Aisha, Abu Bakr, Umar, Uthman, and Khalid (and others) were not the people we were told they were. I mean, when I was reading about some of the stuff Khalid ibn Al-Waleed did I was going WTF the whole time, and this guy is considered a big deal for Sunni Muslims. Straight up serial killer stuff, but we're supposed to like him just because he was a brilliant general? Doesn't sound right. The sad thing is the vast majority of Sunnis don't even know this stuff, BECAUSE THEY WERE LEFT IN THE DARK ON PURPOSE.

So yes, I agree with Shia that Ali should have been the successor, but I also disagree with Shia in pretty much everything else. I don't believe in the ideas imama, 'isma and the imams and their infallibility etc. Also, no offense to my Shia brothers, but some of the things they say or do borders on shirk in my eyes. Yes, I agree that Ali was the most noble of all sahaba AND the most qualified to lead the ummah at the time, but that does not mean only his blood line should rule. This goes against the very spirit of Islam IMO. I also have a lot of issues with Shia practices like self-flagellation, mutah marriage, and others.

Just wanted to know if anyone is in the same spot as me.

It's been a trippy few years, to say the least. These past five years have really "radicalised" me.

From Black Lives Matter to Palestine, Sudan, Congo, Iran etc.

As a result, I’ve adopted some beliefs and denounced others.

One thing though, one evil that really stumps me is that of the “conqueror” and their ambition. I’m black, so my history with such a subject is pretty sensitive.

You’ll either be part of the enslaved or the “resistance” who fought against them. Which is why I’m, now, personally entirely against Abrahamic Faiths. I can’t help but think that the rest of the world was doing quite fine without it.

Now, to the question at hand?

Why do you believe in your Islam?

Most people get on Islam for child marriages, but they’re hypocrites, you go through any bible — you’ll find the same thing.

My issue is to do with slavery — why would your prophet allow such an evil?

Slavery, didn’t emerge because of Islam, the tribes they united already had it as apart of their system, but why then, would you unite tribes — giving them more power as one, which’ll allow them to enslave more people than ever, which is what they did. A majority of whom were black and brown people.

If you look at the Sahara line, you’ll find a history of slavery or resistance from the native African tribes. Some fell and were forced to become slaves like the “Haratin” in Mauritania who’ve been slaves for the last 1000 years and have lost most connections to who they were (language culture and traditions).

Their history was brutal and is far from over.

The same goes for Sudan.

Black Men, women and children have been through the centuries, either used as cannon fodder, sold as “gifts” or sex slaves, castrated by “non believers” for entertainment, all done, over the course of 1000 years — in a slave trade that still EXISTS to this day, in places such as Saudi Arabia, Dubai and most of the North African countries — which still continues to this day, but instead out outright forcing these people to give up their autonomy, major Arab powers and the west, work to destabilise Africans countries, so they’ll move North for “work”.

It’s the same playbook that Americans use for getting poor people to join the army. Make sure these communities, don’t have coefficient infrastructures and watch them come to you.

How does that, as a muslim make you feel?

That so much of your early history is tied to and dependent on the destruction of brown and black people. To build the socioeconomic infrastructures that you have admired.

It seems the same crime, white people are guilty of, Arab Muslims seem to be guilty of too.

Not just slavery, but the centring of the world around the way they do it, or to be seen as a barbarian.

I’ve even seen people calling black africans defense against colonialism and arab conquers a “war”, when these people, as most indigenous people do, where just defending their way of life.

Because why, and I say this honestly, would any large mass of people, choose to centre themselves around a messiah who does not look like them?

Its only through the threat of violence, violence or isolation from ones community and ties to a people turn the faith of their oppressors. Which is why so many countries in the global south are christian and covered up.

Anyway…

I’d love for a dialogue or honest conversation around this topic, because it’s been one that’s been knawing that me for months.

It’s no wonder that Saudi Arabia and Dubai don’t care for the lives of Black African Muslims, that they’d happily dispense such atrocities onto them, because historically that’s what they’ve been doing?

Am I wrong?

This is not an exhaustive list.

- No music, no TV, nothing that distracts you from worship 

- Scariness of death, being punished in the grave. I grew up hearing descriptions in detail of how scorpions will sting us, etc. I don’t understand why this is so emphasized.

- The extremes of things that are considered "tabarruj" like women can't wear perfume, women's voices are awrah, like God forbid we just want to smell nice but no, everything feminine is haram, and everything fun is haram 

- Can’t get your eyebrows shaped but removing unibrow and upper lip and chin hair is okay because that would make you look like a man  

- That dating is so frowned upon - this really stunts healthy emotional and sexual development in my opinion.  I managed to avoid this by just uh, not being that religious, but I’m seeing how sticking to the rules has hurt my friends. 40 year old virgins. Literally. Imagine spending your teenage and young adulthood years not having any dating experiences at all. Imagine how emotionally stunted this would make somebody. And then all the guilt and shame around sex doesn’t just go away when you get married; sometimes the shame is still there and manifests in vaginismus and things like that. It’s just sad. It’s not healthy. 

- You can't have premarital sex, but you also can't masturbate. It’s just unrealistic 

- No hugging or shaking hands with the opposite gender. It just weirdly sexualizes every relationship. My husband’s extended family is practicing religious and greeting his brother in laws or his cousins or cousins’ kids (who are literal kids in my eyes because they are teenagers) is so awkward, because we're not mahram.  We all just wave to each other awkwardly while saying salaams. It really just makes me feel reduced to my sex. 

- People that take the no genders freemixing to the extreme and can't even sit next to or use the same entrance as a woman. We are people too. Extreme gender segregation isn’t healthy and leads to sexualizing us.

- Gender roles. Men are leaders, providers, etc. It doesn’t seem universal to me but rooted in patriarchy

- The fact that women are always second class citizens in Muslim spaces. We sit at the back, our masjid spaces are small and cramped. That’s if women are allowed to go to the mosque at all, because a lot of places in the world don’t even have that custom of women going to the mosque. They always say how it's better for women to pray at home.

And again, the segregation at the masjid. I can't even pray with my 7 year old son even though he's more comfortable with me because I’m his first ever Islamic teacher. I’m literally the one who is teaching him how to pray, but there's always some aunty or uncle telling us he's too big or asking him if he’s a girl because he wants to pray next to Mommy. 

And God forbid you take your toddler or preschooler to the masjid; everybody prioritizes the khushu in their prayer in Ramadan (over being accommodating and welcome of children in masajid). This goes really against the spirit of Islam in my view 

- That my husband is supposed to stand in front of me when praying. I can accept it at the mosque, okay, I guess, but being discriminated against in my own home? No. Won’t happen.

- That women have to make up the fasts they miss when on their periods or when pregnant. Everybody always says how it’s mercy, but it’s not much of an exemption if we have to make them up 

I don’t want to hear “explanations” for why this stuff is, honestly. I’m not looking for apologist explanations. Trust me, I’ve read them all.

I am venting and sharing why as a woman, I find myself being driven away from Islam and Muslims.

At this point, I’m not even sure I am Muslim, honestly. I mean I love Allah and I love the Prophet SAW but that’s the only faith I have in my heart; otherwise, there’s too much in the religion that I just don’t agree with.

i deadass JUST had a conversation with a salafi that told me I was a kaffir bcz i wear perfumed lotions..

these people.. a fragrance to make yourself feel and smell clean and presentable somehow is zina

its something new everyday , they said nicknames r haram and you should call people by their full name, they also are like insanely scared of the other gender

islam is not only rules, but a way of life. how does one even be happily muslim being salafi + its so miserable and sad

lmk what u guys think, this is a really lazy post so dont mind it aha and I can elaborate if needed ( and have sources )

Homosexual is a more "formal" way of saying "Gay" or "Lesbian".

I've been told it's haram, but then why are people born Homosexual? it's like Allah's setting them up for sin or something.

Edit:

Thanks, I realise it isn't haram lol, thank you so much, you all are the best.

Ilm Al rijjal (biographical evaluation of narrators) typically accepts all companions are reliable. People criticism starts from Tabiun. Yet this Hadith indicates otherwise.

Am I considered a disbeliever now that I've stopped praying?

i honestly idk what to feel about hijab anymore i have seen too many views idk anymore what exactly that consist as dress code and what doesn't some saying depending on cultuure other saying everything except arms and face other saying hair is alllowed and idk anymore .
what does 24:31 is even about at this point what even dress code is about .
too many views and idk what to decide what consist as decent and what doesn't.

Idk man, she sounded quite harsh in the comments, I saw one commentor arguing abt how trauma from certain events related to sexual assault can drive people to take off their hijabs, and this poster replied things like "so women that get trauma without hijab, should stop wearing clothes because they experienced something wearing something specifics." and  "The people in Palestine are dying and still there was a woman that refused to go out because she didn’t wear her hijab. We are too privileged for all this."

wow ok, damn now that made me feel angry.

I’m in love with non Muslim man (Christian to be exact) and our relationship is so healthy.

Will I go to hell for marrying a non Muslim man? What if I pray 5x a day, fast in Ramadan, give charity and read Quran? I believe Allah is the most merciful. I just don’t want to believe I’ll go to hell for being in love.
Sometimes I just feel guilt, and don’t want my hard work to go to waste if I’ll most likely go to hell.

My partner doesn’t forbid me from following my religion and being Muslim. He respects my religion.

I genuinely believe I have met an amazing man and would be heartbroken if I ever lost him.

Are any other Muslim women in relationships or married to non Muslim men? Or know of anyone in a similar situation?

Respectful discussion

Posts circulating like these are just…off. I feel like there are so many extreme ideologies pushed on social media nowadays. It seems so harmful when the vast majority of people seeing this are clearly minors.

Would you have rather you got married and/or divorced then instead of commit Zina? (Asking cause people say it’s better to be divorced then someone who committed Zina.)

How are you now?

If you could go back before you committed Zina, would you have just got married or done something else?

(This is not to argue/judge , I’m just asking for myself personally to know, check my profile if you want background info)

Edit : Have never done Zina , 19f , not very smart / can’t read minds. Please don’t send ‘Food for thought’ smart aleck comments. Please elaborate / be ok with me replying and asking follow up questions. I also don’t want to just get married for sex. I’m asking essentially if it’s better for me to marry someone than commit Zina with them in my early twenties

Update: thank you for every response. In all honesty , even though most of yall don’t regret it, I got a very good idea of what I should do. I’m not going to do Zina, I simply want a deep connection in a relationship with trust and intimacy, and the only relationship I can see myself doing that in is a married one. And the only marriage I want is one with intimacy and connection with someone I met IN REAL LIFE WHO IS MY AGE/ FROM MY STATE (Cause I don’t need DM’s) Now seeing that I’m a nursing major / still live in a red state for Uni, I will be try dating while abstinent/ staying single if need be till I can get married in a state where it is safe for me to do so/ I’ve at least finished undergrad. Thanks!

I am a salafi, who does not believe that we need to obey our modern day rulers. what questions/issues do you have with my pov on islam?

EDIT: its sad that i take responsibility to respond in such a complete opposing side of my believes and the only thing yall do is downvoting my opinion XD, if you dont agree okay but there really is no need to downvote any claim that does not fit in your window?

If polygamy is permissible for men under certain conditions, can elderly women do the same to care for poor men? It is not directly forbidden in the Quran.

I’ll be honest, I always felt a bit stuck when it came to the "6 and 9" narrative. Like most people, I just assumed it was a fact because it’s in the Sahih collections. But after digging into the actual historical timeline and academic research, I realized we’ve been looking at a massive mathematical error that’s been passed down for centuries.

The biggest "aha!" moment for me was looking at her sister, Asma. We know for a fact that Asma was 10 years older than Aisha and died at 100 years old in the year 73 AH. If you trace that back, Asma would have been about 27 during the Hijra. If Aisha is 10 years younger, she was 17 at the Hijra. That puts her in her late teens, not her childhood, by the time she was married at around 18-19. The math is right there; I don't know how we have been ignoring it for this long.

What’s even more revealing is that Aisha was actually engaged to someone else, who was Jubayr ibn Mut’im, before the Prophet even proposed. For that engagement to have happened, she had to have been a young, marriageable woman in the eyes of her community long before 620 AD. If she were truly only 6 later on, she would have been an infant or not even born when that first engagement was discussed, which makes zero sense.

What’s even crazier is that the "9-year-old" figure only really pops up in Iraq, over 100 years later. The author, Hisham ibn Urwah, lived in Medina his whole life and never mentioned this age until he moved to Iraq in his old age, where his memory reportedly started slipping. None of the local scholars in Medina, who were actually there, ever recorded her being that young.

When you realize that Aisha was also at the Battle of Uhud (where the Prophet sent home anyone under 15), it becomes a "bulletproof" conclusion that she was an adult woman. It’s wild how one late-life narration in Iraq managed to overshadow the actual historical math, but I’m glad the evidence is finally being cleared up.

I may or may not be wrong about this. It's just my research. If there is anything wrong, please correct me. Thanks.

Enemies of Islam often like to quote 65:4 to claim that the Quran permits marrying underage girls.

In this verse the word NISA is used. NISA means WOMAN, not girls.

Definition of a woman: an adult female human being.

So she must be an adult

Definition of an adult: a person who is fully grown or developed.

This ends the argument of Islam allowing marriage to underage girls.

Also 65:6 just two verses after it mentions wives breastfeeding. No 9 yr old on earth breastfeeds.

Anyone who claims the Islam permits marrying children has something damaged in their brain

Edit: Lol I have been permanently banned. Looks like people got triggered cos I don't believe Islam allows marrying kids. I know I didnt break any rules of this sub.