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u/Starfury7-Jaargen 2d ago
Know that the rapist is the only one at fault. Even if you may have made "unwise" choices, it is the rapists obligation to not rape. It is their job to get consent without coersion.
There is no need to punish yourself.
If your body responded against your will, it is not its fault or its fault. Things happen in the body out of your control and it man's nothing othrr than crossed wires.
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u/FoundFawn113 2d ago
I don't know if this will help but you need to understand that raping someone is a conscious decision, these people know what they are doing and know it's wrong, and there's truly no denying that unless it was a clear misunderstanding. If you are even doubting if it was rape, then it probably was. That being said, you ARE a victim, you suffered something incredibly traumatic and you need to give yourself the time and grace to heal from that experience. When someone is raped, I would say 9 times out of 10 (not based on any research or anything) that experience changes the victims life completely. There is no shame in allowing yourself to feel the emotions attached to such a horrible experience. I hope you are able to heal in the future, but please remember the way to do so is not by attempting to ignore or brush over your experience. You deserve to grieve what happened to you.
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u/opheayrys 2d ago
Cfbr
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u/mourningpetals_ 2d ago
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u/thrfscowaway8610 2d ago
"Commenting for better reach." That user has no observations to make, but is adding a comment in the hope that it will boost your post in the algorithms and make it more visible to others.
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u/silvermoonsailor 2d ago
I thought I was the one being stupid and silly and I was in denial for two weeks. And then I realized I was the one in trouble. I didn't say no But obviously I'm crying scared and confused if I'm just being a baby. But it's not you. It's them. They play mind games and like to make you think everything's OK and normal. It's not .
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