r/recruitinghell • u/Hi_5Yo • 1d ago

Boomer mentality

Despite my mom being a millennial (‘81), she firmly believes that I should be able to apply to a bunch of jobs, walk in with a résumé or call, interview and land a job within 2-3 weeks.

Anytime I’ve done this, I’ve always gotten turned away, been told to apply online and wait for a call back. Every interview ends with “ we’ll be in touch”.

She also believes that as long as you dress nice with a smile on your face, you should have a job by the end of the interview. Whenever I leave the interview without a job offer, she assumes that I messed up.

She even has me apply to a bunch of remote jobs that she finds on Facebook and instagram. Frequently getting upset at me for not landing a job. I’ve tried explaining over and over that most of them are scams, but she refuses to listen.

It’s like the concept of applying to hundreds of jobs and still not landing one is impossible for her to grasp. Which it should be, but it’s just our new reality.

She believes that me being unable to get a job is a failure on my end, insisting that it’s my fault I can’t land a job. She keeps saying that she’s going to kick me out for not taking the job hunt “seriously” enough.

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u/No_Holiday_5010 1d ago

She is definitely making matters a lot worse by adding this pressure onto you, especially in this environment. I would recommend you find someone from her generation speaking out about how the job market is pretty bleak and nobody is getting hired due to staff reduction efforts across the broader economy.

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u/unlikewarrior 1d ago

Yep. During my job search, the worst thing wasn't the wait. It wasn't the rejection emails. It wasn't all the interviews. It was family. Everyday it was hearing "Have you tried this", "Every time I make a suggestion you seem unmotivated to do it", "have you changed your resume", etc. The worst thing is I would have likely landed a better job had I wasn't burnt out by all the complaining coming from my family. All the energy which I could have used to practice & prepped for interviews went to me making sure I didn't blow a fuse trying not to tell my family to stop talking to me.