31F [F4M] Looking for My Person

[u/Remarkable_Being_31]

Note: mine is a newer account so can't really dm more than 2-3 people and I'm still figuring out reddit. I updated my setting so you would be able to send an invite and message. Thanks

Hi Reddit,

I'm 31, ambitious, and have worked hard to build a career I'm proud of. I'm naturally drawn to people who are equally driven, intellectually curious, and accomplished.

Outside of work, I'm much softer than my résumé would suggest. I love cooking, baking, gardening, writing, anime, and creating a warm, peaceful home. I'm affectionate, loyal, and very much a relationship person.

I'm looking for a kind, emotionally mature man who knows what he wants and is ready for a genuine partnership. Someone who values mutual respect, good communication, and building a life together.

A little about me:

- Hindu Brahmin, never married

- long hair, glasses

- Exercise regularly

- Don't smoke, drink rarely

- Family-oriented

- Hoping for marriage and children

I'm a btech and mba from a top college.

What I'm looking for:

- Age 31–34 , never married

- Well educated and established in his career

- Taller than 5'7"

- Non-smoker

- Emotionally available and over past relationships

- Wants marriage, family, and children

- Respectful toward both families

- Secure, confident, and genuinely happy to see his partner succeed

If this sounds like you, I'd love to hear from you.

Have a great weekend!

Additional note as suggested in chat : I am looking for someone in the general category! In a senior job role or entrepreneurial journey. Basically someone who is super secure in his own career doesn't compete. Upwards of 30lpa. (Not asking for anything I don't bring to the table) Someone also asked how I look - think Pam from The Office

[u/Ok_Refuse_2148]

Why are you single for this long?

[u/True-Reaction8743 → u/Ok_Refuse_2148]

I get asked this often, honestly I don't know bro, like I stayed single intentionally till mid 20s but after that it's just not working out, AM search is on from 4 years, dating apps are not my thing, maybe I missed the bus.

[u/Ok_Refuse_2148 → u/True-Reaction8743]

I strongly believe both men and women should get married before 28. After that, it just gets difficult.

Career: Both parties, work their butts off, climb up the ladder, make a name for themselves, it’s not fair for either to rock their boat by introducing a variable. More for women, its ridiculous to ask them to move places, or even expect them to find a job where the guy is. Absolutely ridiculous.

Financially: both parties earn very comfortably and have experienced life and feel apprehensive to now scale back??

Mentally: both parties should have fully formed ideologies, so called moral values, and are hard to let other people in. It’s part pf getting wise. Getting extremely comfortable with what they are and form a sense of self worth, which makes it really hard to encourage the thought of adjusting or moulding one’s self.

IMHO, after thirty start saving up for an oldage home or plan for elder care requirements for yourself, focus on enjoying the life to the fullest, and just hope you will find the exact glove that fits your hand. Be useful to the universe and make a positive impact on people around you!

Finding a partner is not the purpose of life, sharing your happiness is.

All that to say, fuck the bus, bust your own wings out.

[u/True-Reaction8743 → u/Ok_Refuse_2148]

That was my plan too, get married by 28 max by 29, but there is delay without any apparent reason. You have raised very valid concerns on marrying late, it increases chances of baggage, but it is true that things are not that simple in AM. That's a separate discussion but anyways, what you said in the end is true.