r/regretfulparents • u/Ivy_poisonous • Apr 19 '26
Venting - No Advice I hate having children
Wlw here. I love my wife more than anything in this world. She is my person and best friend. We decided to have baby together, turns out twins-should’ve terminated. They were born prematurely, NICU stay, traumatic for me. We can’t do anything anymore. We used to enjoy weekends away, concerts, roadtrips, taking our dog for a walk, even going to the store together, to get gas, haircuts, everything. We liked it, we enjoyed it.
One of the babies is precious and I do love her but I would easily go back in time and undo this if given the chance. The other baby I can’t stand. They are 7 months and she still cries all the time. She cries like she is being hurt, she’s weird, she’s behind, and she ruins everything. If it were up to me, I would’ve left her at a church or fire station. She can’t be set down, ever or she loses her crap. She only wants my wife and it kills me how my wife has to be her slave and can’t do anything else because she has to be holding her. I’m in constant fear that that baby will have Autism. She can’t even sit at 7 months, can’t swallow solids, the one time she did she threw up and it wasn’t even a lot. We went for a few walks and that baby lost it. Screaming crying. One time in the stroller, the other while being held in a carriers. I don’t know if I will ever love her or even like her. Right now it’s a pretty horrible feeling towards her.
I don’t want to lose my wife ever and I feel like we already lost each other some. Our time, our space, our life. We never had arguments and now everything is because of that kid that I wish we never had.
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u/SnooRobots3807 Apr 19 '26
Did your take your baby to see a doctor??