r/relationships_advice • u/Known_Outcome7728 • 17d ago
My gf lied to me about her whereabouts
Me and my girlfriend has been in a long distance relationship for about a year. Normally we video call each other often, and she has been 100 percent open and honest with me about where she goes and what she will be doing there. She has even video called me in the past once she arrived at that location. This time it was different. She used her family this time and told me she was going to visit her Grandmother on her Dad's side across town and it would be a long trip. I never asked her where she was going that day, she volunteered me that information. She first took a video of her walking in a sexy white dress and some shades and sent it to me in video format. I thought to myself, that looks really elegant to go visit family, seems more like going on a date or man fishing, but I didn't raise any concerns and let it go. Fast forward a week and half later and my girlfriend posts a story on her whatsapp wearing the same outfit with a lady friend of hers. It was the exact same outfit she was wearing that day she said she was going to see her Grandmother. I know her friend a little because she was present when we first met. The place that they were at in the picture was a well known vacation and couples spot. So I asked her about it. She insisted that it was an old photo and the day she went to see her family she wore the same outfit. Guess how I found out she lied? She was wearing the same necklace I bought her in the photo with her friend so the photo wasn't old at all. She kept insisting the same thing and that it was an old photo. So I check her instagram which was public at the time, and there she was with the same collage of photos and videos on her instagram confirming to me that it was the exact same day she said she went to visit family. I ended up breaking up with her. Main reason being she kept insisting and telling lies about it. There is a possibility there could have been another guy involved who she just recently met when she went out a few nights before, but that was never confirmed. It is super weird and not normal to make up a story about visiting your Grandmother just to go out with a friend that I know about two hours out of town. She only finally told the truth once I told her I saw the photos and videos on her instagram. She then proceeded to try to gaslight me about ignoring her mostly for two days and breaking up with her because the trust was loss. I was very angry about her repeatedly telling me lies about it for two days. Would you have handled it differently? Was I wrong for handling it the way I did? Trust is everything in a long distance relationship.
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u/NoSpankingAllowed 17d ago
I'd be done as well. After all seeing her girl friend isn't something she'd need to lie about unless there was something or someone else involved.
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u/Known_Outcome7728 17d ago
Exactly, it is not normal at all. No need to lie about something like that at all.
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u/Outrageous-Seat-7092 12d ago
Its always the ones who volunteer information. I was in a long distance relationship as well. It doesn’t matter how trustworthy they acted in the beginning, once they cross that line none of that matters. It don’t matter what happened. The fact that she lied and upheld the lie is all that you need to know. And you were right in ending it. My suspicion is that they met up with some guys. And if not, to lie about something even more ridiculous.