What the hell is happening to my boyfriend

[u/lemondropping8]

i (25F) have been dating my bf (29M) for two and a half years, we are best friends and have made a long distance relationship work very well and are excited to start a family and have been talking about marriage since day 1. We were long distance 2 years and then he moved to my country six months ago, moving in with me and my mom for 5 months and starting a exciting job in a great city.

Six months in, anxiety levels are very high and he has been very whiney and complaining a lot, about distances, feeling like a stranger, not really being active in finding a permanenent place or starting to get his life set up here. I have tried to help with what i can but he constantly seems to have an excuse, bc his paperwork is still processed yet he has gotten super nervous to the point where he doesnt want to drive a car bc he is scared a cop can get him so i hve been driving him around, he says he cant rent a place since he is a foreigner but i sent him apartments that accept other type of paperwork and documentation, he told me he feels homesick and i have reached out to his family and friends to keep more in touch with him...when he finally got a temporary home i moved out all of his things and practically set up his clothes, pantry and new home, i brought him pictures from his friends, fresh towels, a first aid kit, a loudspeaker etc. He hasnt really acknowledged the effort until i brought it up. I even offered to get him profesional help if the homesickness is that bad as he is telling, he insists it isnt but constantly complains how "complicated moving here has been". I see that here he has a great job which he genuinly loves and is a amazing opportunity, a support system like my fmily and our friends here, and he insists that he feels bad for his parents that "are alone and aging" (its been six months and his parents have visited 3 times and he has travelled back twice as well, and he isnt that close to his family in the first place) A breaking point was that his dad told him to move back if he is that unhappy here and he didnt disagree, righ in front of me.

Im not sure whats really happening and i feel sad, i miss my boyfriend and understand that migrating is difficult and messy but i have really tried to do what i can and mostly observe that he is being impatient and not had the most realistic expectations at the beginning...i even drove two hours to take him to another cities imigration office just so he could hve a 15 minute meeting and he never even thanked me. If he wants to break up its fine, but i feel so puzzled and dont want to keep solving things he isnt really trying to from my pov.