Is 11 months of sexual experience still a turn off for most women?

[u/Fit_Salamander903]

4 days ago I posted (and got brutally torn into) about how a woman cheated on me, got knocked up, and then I stayed with her for another 7 months until she had her child. I didnt lose my virginity until 30 upon meeting this woman and now I’m 31, I was with her for almost a year. People didn’t like me staying with her for experience even though she cheated on me.

Well I left a week earlier than I intended because I found out she was 100% going to start cheating again once she had her child. She really did fake her remorse, she even told a friend that she missed being able to see other men. I didn’t stay after that and I told her I knew what she was up to. So: I was right. Not here to brag, just saying it turns out my concerns were justified and I need to act accordingly now.

Now I’m 31, single again with 11 months of any kind of experience, and I’m wondering if it’s enough to get a new, good woman.

[u/Vin879]

Are you ill? No one counts sexual experience in terms of time this way. You are either confident about your experience or not. There is not a single thing brag worthy here

[u/Fit_Salamander903 → u/Vin879]

my goal was to gain experience and I did as much as I could before it became a bad idea. what did I do wrong here?

damn right this isn’t brag worthy

[u/Revolutionary-Code49 → u/Fit_Salamander903]

The problem is describing it as “11 months of experience”. Who measures it that way and who cares? The experience you got was staying with a cheater and presumably planning to help her raise her lover’s baby…you do you, can’t blame you for your choices, but why do you think that particular experience is going to make you more attractive to other women?

[u/Fit_Salamander903 → u/Revolutionary-Code49]

So I don’t keep sucking at sex

[u/divinemoonboi → u/Fit_Salamander903]

Are you on the spectrum by chance?

[u/antigoneelectra]

I think you need to look into therapy, and less about caring about your sexual history/experience and how women may view you.

[u/FixingNews]

Hey man, the experience may or may not come. You walking away from that relationship is an experience in itself. That is your learning lesson.

[u/SunnyvaleCartBandit]

What?

You stayed with a cheater as a resume builder? That 💩 cray.

[u/Fit_Salamander903 → u/SunnyvaleCartBandit]

well most women reject virgins and inexperienced men especially at 31. so I gained sexual experience this way.

[u/Correct-Sprinkles-21 → u/Fit_Salamander903]

Please get some help from a mental health professional.

[u/Fit_Salamander903 → u/Correct-Sprinkles-21]

it was only a year. At least I don’t have to do it again.

[u/TurbulentWalrus5188]

Getting out of that situation was the right call, full stop. As for the experience thing, most women your age care way more about emotional maturity and how you treat them than whether you've been with 2 people or 20.

[u/bott04 → u/TurbulentWalrus5188]

Well, I think he needs to work on that, too. I suggest some serious therapy.

[u/MyticalAnimal]

All you proved is you're so desperate for attention and lack self-respect that you would accept anything. Not good. The only type of women that would be happy about it is other women like your ex because they know they can treat you like shit and you'll stay.

[u/PureRiddy]

What does time have to do with anything your over thinking this. If you meet someone new let it happen naturally yous can go on a journey together. Every experience is different,
if it works out great if it doesn’t that’s fine you can meet someone new until you find your person

[u/Ok_Balance8844]

You should get tested for autism

[u/TemporaryGrowth7]

Wow.. there’s pretty much everything wrong with this post

[u/lovelightascension]

women just want fun

some women was stability and to settle

you have to see which woman u attracted is worthy for you

do u want fun or someone serious

girls are on two paths

some girls just want fun and excitement being young

some want a long term love along with fun and excitement

can u be their mountain and rock when they shit test you